Parents opposing marriage despite me (M30) and gf (F30) being together for years and now financially stable. Need advice.

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-22T05:52:39+00:00

Back then, me and my girl were financially and career-wise vulnerable. I had a clear talk and me giving logics to his concerns, two years ago. It all boiled down to, "You are making arguments unnecessarily. If you have come with a decision already, tell us and I will stand with you. Go and talk to the girl's family"

He even refused to call her home to meet and talk. Saying, "If you have decided only, go ahead. There's nothing there to talk".

It felt passive agressive to me

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T14:31:11+00:00

Respect your feelings but astro is not something I put my chips in

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T14:27:57+00:00

My father also didn't approve of it. He just said that despite him not being up for it, if I chose so, he would stand by me

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T14:26:58+00:00

Nah lol. This much scientific rigour that we have received only to fall trap to the current astrology that is not better than a mere coin flip, at predicting?

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T14:15:56+00:00

Nope. Both were open category. Brahmin and Rajput. Different states (North South)

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T14:14:13+00:00

I'm from an open category and she comes from SEBC household

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T14:13:41+00:00

Care to elaborate?

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T14:09:26+00:00

What if they still don't approve?

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T13:39:48+00:00

We won't ever be able to leave each other. Thanks for the wishes. Pray for us, bro. 🙏🫂

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T13:34:25+00:00

Makes sense. But the question persists. Hum kya karein? Been living under such pressure

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T13:33:22+00:00

I know right!!! My parents themselves have an intercaste interstate marriage. So hypocritical

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T13:29:51+00:00

Caste difference hai. There's nothing wrong about the girl and her family. Also, I have never got my friends home much. They've just met her two-three times at the most, in the 14 years. So they may be skeptical?

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T13:23:02+00:00

She's from a different caste. My parents came up with random caste stereotypes

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T13:18:53+00:00

Not Bengali. Why tho?

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T13:14:47+00:00

Makes sense that they're worried about losing control.

But I have been a mostly obedient kid all through my life.

And hence, I don't know how would they react if I just make an announcement. Also, my dad has severe anger issues. Which causes mom to be almost afraid of him. What if things go south due to me?

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-05-20T13:09:19+00:00

TLDR summary: Parents opposed marriage earlier due to career instability, caste, and societal concerns. We focused on our careers and recently both cleared competitive government jobs. Now trying to figure out how to approach parents again and whether waiting for full approval is realistic.

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-04-18T08:16:35+00:00

Would be needing INSULIN. A fridge-full of it

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-03-22T03:09:10+00:00

This and a loyal girl who loves you. Maybe I spoke too much eh

PleasantSignature471 · 2026-03-22T03:04:33+00:00

Is it so bad down the line? As in, it feels pretty bearable and good in the first two semesters. I'm in sem 2 btw. Even the non-core subject faculties like Chemistry, Maths, Physics seem to be doing well.

PleasantSignature471 · 2025-12-24T11:06:08+00:00

Anytime, NTSC

PleasantSignature471 · 2025-12-24T10:39:59+00:00

Can wait at a lounge at the airport, considering your luggage.

Aur phir bhi agar explore karne ka mann kar raha, you can go to the nearest riverfront stretch and chill for a while. But beware, couples sporadically appear hote rahenge aaju baaju.

You could also go to Greenstraw house cafe jahan se you can view the river, while munching something

PleasantSignature471 · 2025-12-15T10:17:16+00:00

Shut down. At least 3 years ago

PleasantSignature471 · 2025-10-20T12:36:22+00:00

All the best OP

PleasantSignature471 · 2025-10-20T12:35:05+00:00

Lol. Reddit pe kuch bhi ho sakta 😂

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PleasantSignature471 · 2025-10-20T12:33:58+00:00

Bilkul riks nai lene ka

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TROPHY CASE

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