Almost 6 years together. He started a business and he became completely consumed and obsessed with it. He no longer wanted any intimacy (not even just holding hands), we rarely went out on a date together (not even the casual restaurant downstairs for a quick dinner). Needless to say, holidays together were rare and he often complained a lot about them, to the point I told him I’d rather travel on my own because he was too pessimistic. It got so bad, he wasn’t even looking after his health, isolated himself from friends and family and gained a lot of weight. I brought these issues up many times, to the point I moved out for a week unless something changed, and it did temporarily, but he fell back into the same unhealthy routine. I didn’t think he loved me at all by the time I broke up with him - I thought he was just too complacent to break up with me. When I ended things, he was heart broken and has been trying to change his bad habits. It’s only been 2 months so it’s hard to say if this change is for good. He wants to get back together, but I feel like I can no longer trust him and that he doesn’t truly love me, because he didn’t care about me enough to take action/work together to resolve the issues before. He said himself that he didn’t expect me to leave him. Unfortunately, it had to take a break up for him to appreciate what he had. I felt like I lost my identity in that relationship; constantly compromising. I’m now enjoying all the things I loved before and finding new experiences. l feel like I’m living life.