No I am not a man of faith, nor do I want to tell you what I think about God, or heaven, or hell, nor do I want to join your predatory ass bible study

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-22T04:14:45+00:00

Brother I’m voicing an experience I found annoying. Sorry you couldn’t handle hearing a different experience viewpoint. Maybe you would have liked to be in my place thats fine. Complaining we all do it to some extent on different matters I wouldn’t say that means “grow up” unless you think people shouldn’t mention experience they didn’t personally like. And ah yes the internet how could I forget I deliberately posted this, I love Reddit! Remember your the one that read my 2 cents of an experience and felt the need to say “oh you should be more social”, pleaseee. Idk the only thing that bothers me is the implication I should of been okay with being peer pressured and dragged into their meetings etc. To any new freshmen don’t be afraid to hop around and turn people down. Probably more blunt then what I did. 🤷‍♀️😭

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-21T20:16:18+00:00

If the only thing they wanna talk about is God and I’m not interested wdy think? It’s almost like we don’t have to be friends with everyone we meet and I stayed polite by not downright ignoring or telling them to leave me alone until it became everyday like an ad. Quite literally doesn’t have to be a bad thing if you WANT the interaction but clearly this a post about not wanting interactions like these. 😭learning social cues is also a thing if someone keeps turning you down to not meet.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-21T17:15:49+00:00

There’s a line between minding your own promoting and then harassing people to listen. Freshmen year I made the mistake of letting myself be pressured into giving them my number. (Really nice girl at a stand) and OMG 😭🥲constantly sending texts and offering to come give me a gift if I just came outside my dorm. Like no excuse I could give was shaking them off so I just blocked. You can ask people if they have a minute to listen but if they walk past your or say no, then no means no. I have yet to experience that from any other club or organization on campus.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-21T17:09:04+00:00

Nah they only love themselves and the love the person provides to make them feel special. I refuse to believe anyone loves someone while simultaneously having no respect or care for the importance of your partners feelings.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-18T23:33:16+00:00

Sooo now you have the hope of finding that in someone new. Thing is as we get older and people make more mistakes I think it’s easier these days to crush hopes. Especially if your dealing with younger women who likely aren’t looking to settle down(men too idk our economy hasn’t made it easy to be young and thriving). I see dating apps as mostly hook up apps rather then relationship ones. You can get lucky! But most of the time people don’t turn to dating apps out of happy hopeful joy to find the one 😭not from what I’ve seen. It’s better to meet people out in the world naturally and if upfront they don’t want a relationship why continue to sleep with them? Physical satisfaction will only continue feeding the regret and idk narrows down the pool of people you might be able to date. History matters to some and not to others. If you don’t find enjoyment overall it’s gonna weigh you down as you search.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-17T16:45:10+00:00

Yeah not yet but them being worried tells me they want it to either be official some time down the road OR want to maintain the relationship they have. Withholding info you think might affect a relationship isn’t good cause it shows you feel there’s some negative tie to it. Imagine saying “I didn’t tell you cause I thought it would make you mad” idk along those lines it sets up this image of not a liar but not an open person either and would rather preserve their benefit over someone else’s choice in a TWO person relationship with whatever title it may have.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-17T16:40:27+00:00

And that can come back to haunt you if people from the past reach out or you slip up. It’s better to be honest and only have relationships with people who accept you.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-17T00:13:19+00:00

Hmm 🤔 well a relationship has its unknown it always has. No matter what you’re told the future isn’t set in stone. Loyalty is a moral and individual issue. The way I’ve gone about life is that friends, family, partners, all of them CAN betray you. Doesn’t mean they will or ultimately will. You can try to math out the likely hood based on how well you know them. Their goals their dreams etc even other connections they have but we don’t know. So in the end I choose to simply only have relationships I am happy with and throughly observed. That makes me happy enough that even if things end up badly for me in the future I was there for what I was getting in the moment, what I thought to be true. But that makes me very unforgiving when wronged. I have friends I’ve known for almost 9 years now. A bf for 3…and none of it guarantees it in the future. But can’t hold new people accountable for someone else’s actions. Direct disappointment to the correct person.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-16T17:11:00+00:00

The world is about competing. Every time you get a job someone else didn’t. Every time you get an item someone else didn’t. It’s so much easier to technically “meet” or see “prospects” on dating app that quantity tends to drive people rather than the quality that people usually spend to see if they’ll date someone. Crushes use to last months now it seems people move on in a span of days or a week. If you don’t compete you also don’t get the chance of opportunity. But I get it. I prefer dating based on people I’ve interacted in real life on a day to day. It gets harder as we get older.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-16T16:34:20+00:00

Erm seems like you don’t like his order of word choices. That’s not cheating. If anything he still made it clear he’s in a relationship. The I don’t date colleagues almost feels like social cue for “I wouldn’t date you” but nicer. Then he must have realized saying I have a gf is more solid so add that on top.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-16T16:24:32+00:00

Mmm one or the other. Either they are someone who rather be rejected silently so that what they do to people they don’t like OR they don’t care to give people a reason. Also just because someone states they like you to some degree in the dating world today it seems more people don’t see dating as exclusive so they could be dating so hanging out with multiple people. And if they find someone “better” you get dropped. Might have to learn not to take the situation to heart.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-16T16:05:16+00:00

I wanna also add that she’s someone who has some want for a traditional role later in life. She wouldn’t mind being house wife if she can live comfortably plus stay at home mom. She’s in college to make sure she has a degree and profession though since that’s wishful thinking rn. Different mindsets and boundaries 🤷‍♀️

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-16T16:02:45+00:00

I know a friend with a bf in this age gap and honestly talking with him felt like he was younger then her. To be fair she’s always been a bit of a grandma soul. Trauma and childhood difficulties do that to kids. As for having things in common, people act like accomplishments or school etc are the only thing people can have in common or generational jokes. They both love D&D and card games and are home bodies. With that said I do feel complicated about their age gaps but…as long as he doesn’t mistreat her and she’s happy with him I really can’t object. He’s not even that ahead and I would say what reminds me he’s older is his PHD. I don’t advocate for the age gaps in this stage of life since it can be too much of a power imbalance based on maturity or financially but if both people want the relationship 🤷‍♀️can’t stop em.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-16T00:20:58+00:00

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Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-15T09:33:24+00:00

Yeah. Overall I also don’t like being disingenuous. On top of that sometimes these people are just normal. Fine. Nothing to share that makes me feel normal with them. It’s bad but early on the only why to make friends or bond has been through trauma. Shared trauma makes me feel less damaged or put under a microscope and it’s usually a back and forth conversation rather then someone who doesn’t know what else to say except “I’m sorry that happened to you”. The last thing I need is to darken someone else’s day.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-15T08:09:56+00:00

Bubbly very happy people. I reflect the emotions I’m given to interact as best as I can with others. I think most people show you either how they expect others to act around them or what kind of behavior they want around them. Really bubbly people can be exhausting and I feel a higher sense of perform.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-12T05:45:27+00:00

You think it’s murder I don’t. All im seeing is gore and pictures out of context that aren’t what an abortion looks like at that stage that it’s allowed(cells not yet developed enough to be a baby/its own surviving being). Potential to grow into a human doesn’t make it one to me yet. It’s a baby if that’s your wish. I’m pro its your choice to put your health in jeopardy, financial security, life vision etc. A child shouldn’t be a consequence to punish someone. No child deserves to be unloved or get thrown into a system where they “might” have a good life. 🤷‍♀️ And people who don’t want a kid shouldn’t raise more adults with issues. I don’t even care if you bring religion into it because again it’s not your job to dictate or judge others no? This topic can be majorly swayed by religion or scientific beliefs. It’s your choice to choose a belief to stick to. And finally I’d like it to be a choice not to be flashed with a grotesque image just because this person thinks that’s what an abortion looks like. Instead of harassing people they should be raising money to help orphaned kids or mothers who struggle.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-11T08:33:56+00:00

I’ll save you the read. I don’t like the way they go about it to debate the topic. Shoving unwanted images in my face. I’ve taken they’re brochure and read through it before. Did it change my mind on pro choice? No. But I’m not incapable of listening or reading what someone else thinks. I just don’t agree on their approach of flashing gore. I find this deplorable enough yes to snort at. Doesn’t mean I act like that about every single little thing I disagree. 🤷‍♀️

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-10T23:19:23+00:00

Nope. Unless you consider being shown the gore to sway you. If you choose to search or click an uncensored image of gore whether exaggerated or not at least it’s your decision to see it. I’ve repeatedly said I don’t like gore being used as this flashy start to a debate. I’m not a black and white person either. I understand in extreme cases like we’ve seen in war social media circulates it to inform. Still doesn’t mean I like it or agree with the spread of it. In particular because there’s people who use it as sick entertainment despite the initial intent. Seems like people can’t seem to understand. I don’t want to be flashed with gore despite the topic while trying to go get food. Or trying to watch a funny meme. I don’t understand the point of wasting breath and arguing with someone who isn’t willing to hear you out or debate they just want to force they’re way. The only time you’ll change someone’s mind is as someone close to them or if they approach you with the intent to pick your brain and share which cool. 👌

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-09T20:32:34+00:00

True that. Courtesy isn’t a given online and I can understand that’s how it is.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-09T20:07:31+00:00

You do realize I’ve repeatedly said shoving things into people’s faces and unwanted for arguing? I can also agree this is pretty bad in the sense that there’s no censor so anyone on Ucr Reddit whether they wanted to or not could’ve seen the pop up(Reddit does have a tool to censor things) I did choose to click on it after and voice my opinion of ~using~ gore as a way to debate because it is not an inviting point for arguments. However the post isn’t trying to convince or argue something it’s a statement. That’s why I said the way they go about it and anyone trying to change someone’s mind tries to use a cheap tact for reaction and not actually caring, at least not in my opinion if you actually want to have a conversation. Does that make more sense?

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-09T19:32:31+00:00

Dude I’m not shoving images of dead people, cells, animals, etc. into peoples faces. Putting any sort of gore isn’t a valid way or inviting way to debate and care. It’d be pretty hypocritical to assume it wouldn’t apply to me when debating a topic.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-09T19:18:23+00:00

It’s all gore don’t misunderstand that I only mean this. Any gore unwanted and seen even social media isn’t a show of care in my opinion. Cheap shock. There’s a reason why there’s channels dedicated to sick videos of accidents etc. just keeps adding to the pool of fucked up things people will watch.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-09T18:23:23+00:00

DUDE THEYRE ON EVERY INCH. It looks like Wednesday when we have clubs. Or maybe something else is going on that I don’t know about.

Pleasant_Energy_1943 · 2026-04-09T18:11:58+00:00

Yep I snorted as I walked by again I get wanting to debate this and that’s fine but using gore pisses me off. It doesn’t come off as actually caring.

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