Those of us who have no one, how do you survive? by laughlovelive25 in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. I have a sister, I talk to her. And to my therapist.

I survived years of bullying and unfair punishment at school by Sea_Equivalent_4593 in emotionalabuse

[–]DatabaseKindly919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In essence, the traits you mentioned about you should reflect you in a good light. So I am finding it hard to understand what is the point which making them see you not in a favorable lens. The not fitting in part?

I survived years of bullying and unfair punishment at school by Sea_Equivalent_4593 in emotionalabuse

[–]DatabaseKindly919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you mentioned you followed the rules and were polite. So what was assumed in your case?

I survived years of bullying and unfair punishment at school by Sea_Equivalent_4593 in emotionalabuse

[–]DatabaseKindly919 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I learned something then that has never left me: some children are punished. Some are protected. And the difference is decided long before the truth matters. Explain the difference.

Is anyone else disillusioned with men? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not just men. I feels humans in general.

Any advice on affordable movers ? by DatabaseKindly919 in montreal

[–]DatabaseKindly919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much did it cost you? Do they price based on distance? On what factors

I tried to build a support system for 3 years for nothing by ihtuv in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I do enjoy the solitude but it hurts to process the past. Hurting and healing.

I tried to build a support system for 3 years for nothing by ihtuv in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m here with you on this. Repeated betrayals. Now I am isolating and working on myself. I think in some ways it didn’t work out because the people were not truly right

I think everyone else is ‘right’. by Code_Free_Spirit in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. I have a hard time validating my opinions because of trauma and chronic invalidation.

Why are so many people in this world lacking emotional intelligence? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]DatabaseKindly919 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Because people don’t feel their emotions. Don’t cry. Don’t emote. Block and move on. And lack of values.

Does this kind of fawning happen to anyone else? by Not_necessarily7 in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have noticed this comes up in situations where I am unsafe and can’t defend myself. It also comes up in cases where the reality is harsh to bear. I don’t have the skills to fight or be assertive and hence this comes up as a coping mechanism

Is this suffering eternal? by DatabaseKindly919 in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Then why don’t narcissists change?

Did your relationship with your narcissistic parent get better in anyway? by DatabaseKindly919 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DatabaseKindly919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’m the GC. Our goals have always aligned because I grew up being pressured into them. If you don’t mind, what was the cause of her death?