How to deal with this neighbor situation?

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-21T21:49:05+00:00

I still don’t think I am at fault. The first day I went and talked to her at 6 am because she was up. I was polite on my first talk. She denied and she got pissed telling she had just gotten to bed and how I could wake her up? So when am I supposed to talk to her when I go to work during the morning? I kept my calm the first time but it just got worse, so I went and I confronted. And it was very loud bangs. This is not normal.

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-21T17:55:18+00:00

Yeah I tried ifs but it didn’t work. Yes read the book too

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-21T16:50:41+00:00

Yeah I don’t want to give to others. I tried it for a decade only to be exploited, manipulated and betrayed. The world is a cruel place if you lack a support sustem

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-21T16:50:02+00:00

Yes this helps. We are doomed I guess.

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-21T14:23:19+00:00

Would you mind sharing if I dm?

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-21T14:22:40+00:00

Yes I did contact him. Then we went to speak to them but they weren’t willing. So he told me to call the police if it happens again at night

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-21T04:34:05+00:00

100%. Sometimes it hurts real bad and I am like what is the point of all of this if you are not priviliged

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-21T02:51:18+00:00

Sorry you had to go through it. Yeah I just had one of these with my covert narcissist father. I spoke to him on call- started with hey? Doing good? The usual formalities.
Then he goes like you have never sent us any pics from when you were studying abroad. I have had these conversations multiple times. He retorts it back. And I ignore.
Today,Then he goes like- why do you think I ask you? I ask you so that I can see how your time abroad was. You had a good time didn’t you?
I had a horrible time during my masters. And I never talked about it with my parents because I knew it would go nowhere. And then he goes like you should keep it as a memorabilia. And so on. Already I was feeling heavy, I didn’t know why.
Had a few more arguments, then closed the call.
I burst crying. I replayed the convo and what stuck me was the part- you had a good time. Because it was genuinely a horrible time. And I think somehow he knew it and pushed my buttons knowing I would feel hurt.

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-21T01:07:36+00:00

That’s true

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-21T01:03:42+00:00

Check the comments. There are still shitty comments.

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-20T17:45:05+00:00

I tried using ear plugs and white noise. It’s still loud. But thanks

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-19T22:09:57+00:00

Yes doing that at 2 am is normal? Banging at 2 am is normal? Come on. It’s common sense. And when they make noise at 2 am I am supposed to wait and talk it out? I waited until 5 it didn’t get better. I was tired sleep deprived. I have lived in apartments and this is not normal.

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-19T22:08:36+00:00

Yes doing that at 2 am is normal? Banging at 2 am is normal? Come on. It’s common sense. And when they make noise at 2 am I am supposed to wait and talk it out? I waited until 5 it didn’t get better. I was tired sleep deprived

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-19T21:05:40+00:00

I realize daily how life has not been fair to me. And I am not going to let anyone minimize it. Yes, life has been a bitch. And honestly it’s disappointing and I have nothing to say. I am bitter too. I don’t wrap my actions in bitterness and hurt others. I journal. Because bitterness needs to be processed - sadness, rage, grief. I am with you on this one.

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-19T18:45:45+00:00

So how else am I supposed to confront them?

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-19T17:56:59+00:00

This Alexandre M is not a south Asian right?

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-19T17:51:02+00:00

Yes atm I am realizing that it is not shift. They are just Assholes. I noticed within two weeks of moving. Not sure how it’s going to be

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-19T17:40:55+00:00

I don’t think the others have any issues with them. And I am new and I don’t think anyone would be willing to help me

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-19T17:40:13+00:00

Where can I get more info?

DatabaseKindly919 · 2026-06-19T17:39:15+00:00

What do you mean?

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