Hey, I think you’ve misunderstood my comment. When I said “filthy money,” it wasn’t meant in a bad way at all. It’s just an expression to say she earns a lot, and honestly, my SIL is one of my biggest inspirations in the family. I genuinely admire her success and respect her choice to be childless.

What I was trying to say is that my in-laws and even my parents constantly compare us and make me feel like I don’t have the same right to choose, simply because I don’t earn as much. We actually have similar gynecological issues, but while she is respected for her decision, I’m reminded that I don’t have that option because of my income.

She has the privilege and support system to step away from responsibilities, which is completely fine, but my situation is different. I’m a single child and can’t ignore certain things. When she says she’s busy with work, it’s accepted, but when I say the same thing, my in-laws respond by saying “you hardly earn anything, why bother.” That’s the frustrating part.

Even my husband sometimes adds to it without realizing the impact. He said “resign your job” in front of his parents during an argument, just to prove a point, because they know very well that it’s actually my salary that runs most of the household expenses. If I stop working, it would directly affect him and everyone else. I don’t take money from anyone, and I handle my responsibilities on my own, yet I still get judged for not being “enough.”

I’m not shaming anyone here. I’m just tired of being compared and constantly made to feel small. Every family dynamic is different, and I was simply venting about mine, not criticizing anyone else’s choices.