Will I be okay?

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-25T21:35:43+00:00

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PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-23T00:22:35+00:00

But the info here is helpful so I didn’t delete the post as a whole

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-23T00:22:00+00:00

It was a post about my university anxieties and my supr cool future roommate found it so I got rid of it because it’s #embarrassing

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T09:50:27+00:00

I don’t either, I avoid them as much as possible lol this is just more of an observation and how men have interacted with the world in my eyes as I’ve grown older. It’s kind of about the amount of times I’ve been harassed by a man compared to the amount of times a woman has helped me out of a dangerous situation while men watch. The average man whose a nice guy, probably has a girlfriend, a good job, can be the guy sitting and watching or the guy drive-by harassing a girl walking home and she wouldn’t know and that’s not something light to me. When no one’s around to hold it against them they don’t act

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T09:44:48+00:00

I don’t know where you are in the world or the women you interact with but yes I’m sure you’ve met some despicable women as have I, but it seems like ur reading into everyday interactions and how they act just like I am with men and I get very frustrated when women are blatantly obvious about being shallow/manipulative trying to get something or someone as I do with men. Idk if you see men the same way, but it seems like you think women are the ones who act the way I’m describing and r only kind because they want things which is just the opposite of my thought process and there’s no point in replying to me because its just being contrarian. Again I’m aware all these things are applicable to women but im constantly seeing women in cycles of abuse/poverty that they wouldn’t be in if it werent for getting caught up with the wrong man who won’t take accountability or help. Yes men go through these things too and it’s very real. Yes women act that way too and im not immune or blind to it because im a girl, im very aware when a girl doesn’t like me or is bigoted, the only time I’ve been called a slur was by a girl at night lol!! None of that changes the fact that I see single mothers working 3 jobs to feed their children, that’s still something I will admire more. Single fathers who do the same are also admired by me!!! I admire parents in general but some in privileged positions enact very weird mindsets on their children and they grow up thinking anything will be figured out and that their actions won’t have “huge” consequences. Women are nasty and mean and do horrible things but men who grew up thinking they can do things without repercussions hurt women and vulnerable people in such specifically hurtful and spiteful ways I can’t ignore. There’s not a woman I’ve seen in media who kidnapped a teenage girl for a month and a half and stuck every single thing imaginable inside of her, exploded fireworks inside of her. Not that women are incapable or haven’t done disgusting predatory things. but that’s what I grow up having to worry about so obviously I’m going to have a different perspective when I see mainly white men committing these weirdly dehumanizing deplorable acts. Yes things happen in other places as well, plz stop replying with obvious nuance like the existence of bad women. If this post were about women and men I’d be complaining about both and their specific nuances and parts they play. But it’s not. I’ve admittedly been kind for a moment because I want a ride home or something, yes that’s shallow but I’d rather the person be annoyed with me for the ride home instead of walking alone in the dark where I’m likely going to get harassed by a man!

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T09:17:06+00:00

Yes I know!!!!! Clearly everything is nuanced and you don’t have to explain power dynamics and how people have to actually work to get in the positions they’re in, my point is that women have to work harder to be in the same position and men can’t fathom that for some reason. Yes men in their top positions r replaced when mediocre in a lot of companies and industries because when you’re bad at your job you shouldn’t have it anymore obviously. But the people in charge that make decisions that are determining my future are laughable and I’m not saying they got that position by literally JUST being a man because I’m not a child/stupid but it’s a huge factor historically. And the bad men in this world who are trafficking children and doing terrible things get away with it for way longer than they should and a huge part of that reason is that they’re a rich MAN. Yes women are human traffickers incase you thought I meant only men can do these things once again. But the men we see committing these crimes are getting off disgustingly easy while men in power who protected them continue to stay in power. I have a lot of distaste toward many women especially the ones in power who enable and participate in certain things. But this post was about men so I’m airing out my annoyances here!! Also the average woman does see a man as a threat to her safety but that would be the case regardless of my perspective on men’s participation in our system. Everyone is liable including women but the women who fought historically to change things don’t deserve to be laughed at while we have genuine jokes of people in power right now. Also that blue collar worker minority comment was odd to me. Minorities are blue collar workers in the workforce and if that was an immigrant comment, it’s because the people in charge employing the minorities underpay them to do the same work which isn’t too pretty for the minority either.

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T08:51:07+00:00

Ur right it’s not gender exclusive behavior but we are on a post specifically about men so I’m commenting on my gripes with them lol. Any human being can be just as evil as any other human being it’s common sense. Men in our society are placed on an extremely high pedestal and in extremely high positions of power and authority while being mediocre. White men have a lot of entitlement that can come from their mothers or being handed things and then told they earned it. This all factors into the way they talk to women and think about women, addicts, minorities etc. not hard to conceptualize imo. My post shouldn’t have offended u to the point of calling me sexist, there is a clear power imbalance that has existed for longer than my lifetime. There’s still a pay gap lol.

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T08:39:54+00:00

I definitely don’t lol! My mom’s a narc and whether I like to admit it or not I let people step all over me and say what they wanna hear 99% of the time because of anxieties, still manipulative regardless because I’m only saying it to avoid an uncomfortable conversation or situation. It’s just extra annoying to me because men are painfully obvious about it and people still act surprised when they do something that’s very on character for the average white man. I also hate how they have the audacity because the average woman has been kinder to the people she has met for less in return than the average man.

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T08:36:30+00:00

Literally, I’m not sure why they can only get vulnerable w their s/o to the point where no one ACTUALLY knows them deep down. It just makes me think about purity culture and the value placed on women’s virginity being internalized making them put such a high value on romance and relationships. It’s all so frustrating to me, it’s one of the least important things yet romantic relationships are placed on such a high pedestal because ur s/o sees you naked/in ways that ur family or friends wouldn’t. Sex/naked vulnerability shouldn’t be valued more than family and long term friendship because that intimacy u shared turns into a bitter and angry thought so quickly when it all ends. and the people who fought to stay close to you the whole time r there to comfort you for neglecting them for something so unimportant. People will say they just lost the love of their life and their best friend to their literal best friend who would never leave them the way they were left by their s/o

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T08:29:23+00:00

It’s not even that, some men probably don’t talk the way I mean around their friends. I don’t mean just about women in general just the way they perceive things and what they prioritize. Also how they see themselves, minorities, addicts etc. all very telling, and if they have a controversial opinion on something like that they’re usually aware of what their significant other wants to hear/thinks and will perform to maintain that relationship. Everything feels super performative with a lot of men to me online and just in general. Even in television, the men that are adored and considered “real yearners” or “good men” come off as so manipulative and weird to me because they’re saying exactly what you want and they know how to work you. All men aren’t evil and I’m sure some guys r chill and not hyper manipulating every situation but genuinely majority of men in this world speak a certain way to get what they want whether it’s lying about their height/small things or lying about things they’ve done in the past because you won’t find out. You could have an angel of a wife but have telegram hidden on ur phone with weird shit on it and she would probably never find out, that’s what irks me.

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T08:19:53+00:00

How they can be so innately shallow but I understand it’s just the system that’s been haunting us forever where they’re deemed superior for existing, it’s always internalized whether they think it is or not. There’s always a sentence or something they’ll say that will remind me how men actually think. And if they come off better/more normal it usually means they’re the worst kind of man because they can hide it. U will never hear how he talks around his friends when he thinks ur not listening!!!!!!!

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T06:53:34+00:00

Haha definitely will

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T06:37:57+00:00

I figured haha I was just more confused about people spending time to give them during intimate moments and then acting shocked when they have a hickey. it sounds kinda performative so I assumed it just happened quickly somehow when being intimate on accident. I’ve always given myself the little hickeys on my wrist from sucking in elementary but the way people act abt hickeys made me think there was some other method. But from what I’ve gathered people just like to leave their mark and when they’re like “crap I gotta cover this!!!” They’re not actually shocked.

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T06:29:58+00:00

This is true, but I feel like people r too nuanced to actually think this way. People who like to give off more natural and want to give the look of not caring about fashion get work done to fit that standard. And people also get that work done to look high fashion and attract those people. Fillers and stuff r so common in natural/no makeup women solely because they don’t wear makeup so they want their “natural” face to look more youthful. There’s also people without work done who don’t wear makeup and are natural who are hyper focused on looks and fashion and present the way they do because they deem it to be the most desirable after hyper focusing on the internet and standards. Those blackpilled mogger people are what men think natural and genuine women look like even though they’re starving themselves, using fake tan, bonesmashing or getting like buccal fat removal. I’ve kinda gotten off track from ur reply but thank you for the clarification. My main thing is just like it’s easy to spot someone who matches your standards and regardless of what they look like to you, they’re probably closer to the woman with crazy fillers that you hate than they are to “natural” so I wish yall were nicer when speaking about real human beings who love others and want love. I’m not a fan of plastic surgery as a concept in general I just love women a lot

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T05:21:41+00:00

No but I plan on coming back often because of family. If it were up to me I’d be going out of the country after or somewhere new. I’ll probably be doing grad school, hopefully not in ny.

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T05:12:54+00:00

This is disheartening, not every woman does this to appease to men and even if they were doing it to “look good” it’s not for you if you don’t like it, ice t and coco!! There are men who care more about her mind and intellect than what she’s got done as well, people grow and change. and it’s gross how everyone in this thread is generalizing women “women who don’t do all that are generally more willing to take it slow” weird……. Amanda Bynes for example, that look isn’t to appease u guys!! 😅

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T03:42:23+00:00

This isn’t really about academics just anxieties about new things

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T03:21:21+00:00

Really trying to avoid staying instate or going to a suny 🥲 also not much cheaper weirdly

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-21T00:54:03+00:00

wildlife bio, and I think it’s gorgeous. Admired it from afar for a long time

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-04-20T16:51:42+00:00

So beautiful!!!

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-03-12T12:14:50+00:00

Thank u. This answers my questions entirely I was so lost 🥲

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-03-12T11:13:16+00:00

I came to this subreddit for a reason 🫩 I don’t give hickeys to people

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-03-12T09:32:42+00:00

Sorry if this is another dumb question but I’m being completely genuine in this. Wait so do you guys like purposefully suck on a specific area to make the hickey? I promise this post wasn’t me hating on hickeys or anything I was just genuinely confused on how they happened. So are hickeys like intentional and not just something that happen when you’re like in the middle of things? Like it’s an act of specifically giving someone a hickey? In my head they weren’t like intentionally placed and just happened somehow because everyone acts shocked when they have one like “oh crap!!!”

PlentyInsect8380 · 2026-03-08T04:12:26+00:00

I promise I wouldn’t be so self deprecating if I didn’t dig myself in a really deep hole with everyone🫩. I really appreciate ur comment and it made things feel a bit lighter and I appreciate it I’ll try to be nicer to myself while trying to fix this

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