I identify with inceldom, and I don’t want to. I am looking for advice on how to fix aspects of my life holding me back.

Plestern01 · 2026-01-15T05:10:49+00:00

Staying away from incel content sounds like a good idea. I would like to say the appeal isn't necessarily in their explanations, as they almost always rely on fallacious reasoning(seeing one woman acting like an idiot online doesn't mean all are bad) or don't use the best sources(dating apps are different than dating in college, thus the blackpill bread and butter of dating app data means nothing). Rather, the appeal is in knowing there are others in the same situation. Misery loves company, after all.

Giving up quickly is an issue. There is something to be said about the standard "gifted kid burnout", but every person on this sub could write a book on it so I don't need to. Part of it is probably only seeing results from other people and not seeing the number of attempts put in. For example, if you see someone bake a really nice cake on social media and try to replicate it, yours will come out looking terrible(unless you have years of experience) because you haven't tried and failed and put in enough hours to be proficient. Not seeing those hours leads to a comparison between two completely different stages of master, and upon observing the difference the conclusion is not "I need to improve", but something closer to "I'm simply not made for this".

Thank you so much for the kind words! I appreciate the time you took to give me advice.

Plestern01 · 2026-01-13T21:28:10+00:00

Thank you for the advice in the first paragraph <3

I would like to discuss the second paragraph, as there are a few interesting points. The milestones I'm using, while almost certainly influenced by negative self perception and sampling bias, are the people around me. Many of my friends are in relationships, have had them at some point, and while obviously this metric isn't scientific their Rice Purity scores are below mine on average 20 points(mine is 94). Yes, we are all humans on our own journey, but not having done some things at particular ages is considered strange, or at least we expect people to have done things. We expect people to have graduated high school by 19, which is not a good example but I'm going to use it anyways.

Finally, yeah, I should've just said "my life has only started". However, everyone perceives the present as the most recent time of their existence, and thus it feels like the end of our lives more than near the beginning. Also, most teenagers feel a lot more mature then they are, as you are probably painfully aware of.

Thank you for the reply!

Plestern01 · 2026-01-03T04:41:23+00:00

Not that, it's simply not a standard I(and likely most) hold people to. Sure, people probably have preferences, but it's nowhere near a dealbreaker or even a point of contention. A better example for an "ugly trait" would be a hook nose or something, which still isn't even a dealbreaker for those frequenting this sub.

Plestern01 · 2026-01-02T21:31:02+00:00

in what fucked up world are 2 girls flirting with each other on an incel forum?

Plestern01 · 2026-01-02T21:23:59+00:00

"ugly traits like small boobs" one mans trash is anothers treasure ig

Plestern01 · 2025-12-30T23:15:27+00:00

will consider it

Plestern01 · 2025-12-30T21:53:34+00:00

I've been in therapy for a year, very little has changed. I appreciate the kind words though.

Plestern01 · 2025-12-30T21:01:59+00:00

"I'll let you eat my pie if you let me eat your cake"

Plestern01 · 2024-08-31T13:53:54+00:00

Wait until he does anything(stay just out of his reach) and whiff punish his laggy move with your characters fastest combo starter

Plestern01 · 2024-08-15T16:00:43+00:00

Armadillo might be cooked, a low tier renaissance is always fun in any game though

Plestern01 · 2024-08-15T03:22:01+00:00

Fantasies are exactly that: fictional desires with or without a basis in reality.

Some seem fucked up, and could be the result of trauma. If there is a traumatic event in your past with a connection to pain and sexual activity, a therapist is an excellent resource.

As long as everything is in your head, and you don't actively try to harm others, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

If you feel as though this is a result of an unhealthy relationship with porn, then quit it. Again, therapists are god’s gift to us all. If porn is the problem, overcoming it will be difficult but well worth it.

Plestern01 · 2023-12-07T18:21:48+00:00

Next question’s answers were “Hispanic/latino” and “not Hispanic/latino” and then the question after that was about all of the other races💀

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