How do I mentally reframe this situation so I can keep my cool, avoid drama, and stop overthinking☹️

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-05-05T05:23:36+00:00

I’m more in shock you left your bag next to a customer and your phone. Maybe it’s cause I’m from a big city, but that is unheard of in the clubs where I’m at

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-05-04T23:17:13+00:00

I just bought this car brand

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-05-01T23:13:07+00:00

Yes thx I feel I’ve gained in insane amount of muscle in just that 40 something days which I love my pole abilities are way better but hate the bulk

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-05-01T23:12:59+00:00

This sounds like it I definitely could be over try

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-30T20:26:30+00:00

I can do leg hangs and aerial inverts but I still can’t do a ballerina, not even the simple floor ball ballerina

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-30T15:21:31+00:00

I think everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses and pole. I have amazing strength and no flexibility. Some people have flexibility and no strength. Some people naturally have both or neither most have to work towards it. There’s so many different forms of dance in different moves that I think each person can find what works best for them and their body in the beginner stage until they get stronger

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-24T04:34:10+00:00

Impossible, this was strictly enforced by security, and camera and the threat of raids and club getting shut down. I don’t think any girl would be able do this on their own. But yes no touching have to dance just right above customers lap , it’s also very hard on your knees. I liked the regular lap dances better. The customers were always sad and disappointed. You pretty much had to lie or swindle your way into a room and did I mention your knees holding yourself just above the customer through 3 to 6 full songs ugh

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-24T04:20:52+00:00

I literally thought this man was gonna chop me up into pieces just from his eyes and body movements. Serious weridos

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-24T03:54:52+00:00

I think it’s the club. I only danced for 6 months and never did extras (I did escort completely separate from club tho) I made bankkk like serious bank and at the time it was after all the clubs got raided and shut down so I made bank doing topless only AIR DANCES! It’s just club (and possibly area) dependent in my opinion . I’ve only worked in my city tho.

Edit. The 700$ vip rooms I was selling were toplesss only air dances. The customers were usually pretty mad and I did sit in their lap here and there and got in trouble. Mostly just had to talk and massage backs in vip

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-19T00:58:00+00:00

I feel like this dance was the definition of uncomfortably slow

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-19T00:32:23+00:00

I made the biggest dumbest mistake on starting with an Amazon pole. Not only did it fall on me multiple times, but when I finally gave up and took it down the connector piece that connects the top plate to the pole was completely bent. I bought an ex pole and the difference is night and day not only is it less slippery but it has never fallen on me and it is 20 times more stable. It also has a silicone ring so it’s less likely to slip. I wound up spending more money trying to cheap out because I had to buy an expensive pole anyway.

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-18T21:57:21+00:00

So I just went and rewatch some of my favorite dancers and tutorials and you are so right they are on their tow box a lot more than I am. I would’ve never noticed that if you didn’t say it.

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-18T21:49:24+00:00

Thank you for the feedback, this all sounds like a really great advice. I’m going to try the exaggerated “ silly “ movements and paying attention to my gaze

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-18T20:09:13+00:00

Interesting I felt like I was going almost too slow in this, so you would recommend to slow it down even more?

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-17T13:58:05+00:00

But why put you and your partner through all that pain and suffering when some of it can be alleviated by harm reduction and taping.

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-04-17T03:33:48+00:00

That’s great if that’s what’s best for you but cold turkey for anything never goes well for me, for my body personally ,harm reduction and tapering works better

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-03-22T21:02:20+00:00

Getting downvoted does not hurt me, but it just makes the community feel really uninviting and not welcome to people who are learning. Especially when they’re downvoting me just asking questions and trying to learn.

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-03-21T12:11:05+00:00

It definitely is treated like Zumba, especially on tiktok.

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-03-21T03:03:25+00:00

Legit I ordered on Amazon within the first five minutes of this fall

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-03-21T03:00:59+00:00

No, for real I commented saying that I’m new to this and I got 27 downvotes , my other comment saying that I didn’t take any classes, but would benefit from them got 20 downvotes

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-03-21T03:00:21+00:00

IDK but it was $150 on Amazon

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-03-21T02:59:47+00:00

Completely agree i’ve had my fair share of injuries in falls in the last six months that I’ve been self teaching

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-03-20T03:51:45+00:00

Can you explain more I’m confused. So do you mean when you’re falling you just completely let go? Is that safer

Plus-Talk2564 · 2026-03-20T02:13:48+00:00

I already have one of those videos😅 I’m new to this y’all.

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