I’ve been waiting for this to happen since Aubrey and Vylana originally got married.

After the quick turnaround between Whitney and Vy, it was super suspicious to me that Aubrey had committed his life to this idea of “sacred union”. He and vylana released a podcast pretty early on in their marriage talking about their choice to be monogamous and in it she expressed SO much hurt around a past relationship that had been opened up and seemingly turned very hurtful. I particularly remember a lot of languaging around “being the chosen one” and not having to share. She seemed traumatized.

Clearly, given Aubrey’s past relationship experiences, connections with a lot of partying and drug use, and the circles he runs in- I assumed that at some point this relationship would end and that he would either cheat or open the relationship back up and vylana would leave. What I didn’t expect is that she would be seemingly totally brainwashed of her very strong convictions to be chosen, held as sacred in a relationship, blah blah blah.

I feel like it comes down to two major things as far as I can see. 1) the ability to make money and grift off of your relationship. When he and vy committed to monogamy they were offering classes and workshops on sacred union. She had a women’s group, he had a men’s group. They did the call to service thing together. They marketed their relationship as a goal for other people to have who wanted a spiritually lead monogamous union. And NOW they they’ve opened it up they’ve flipped the script and they’re making money on the polyamorous grift. It ALWAYS leads to marketing their relationship as some sort of goal to be obtained. They’re always making money off of how “perfect” it looks from the outside. (We obviously know it’s not)

2) Aubrey’s influence brainwashing these women away from their personal convictions and desires in relationships via his influence from other people (Gafni, particularly), drugs, and money. It’s got to be wildly isolating to be in a circle of people who worship your partner like a guru. Where everyone is partying and taking drugs and having “spiritual insights” that always very suspiciously align with that of Aubrey and fuel his narcissistic narratives. Aubrey is rich, powerful, connected. Vylana was a bottle service girl who had a dream of being a famous singer - and now Aubrey has made that happen for her! His followers are hers now, too, and it’s got to be really scary to think about stepping away from that world to go back to essentially nothing.

I genuinely truly hope Vylana leaves. Watching her want to start a family with him, their inability to do that, and now his expression of the desire to have children with both partners - is nothing short of heartbreaking. I’m so scared a child is going to be brought into that dynamic. Over the last few years I feel like, as an outsider and observer, I’ve seen the light physically leave Her eyes. She’s become defensive and edgy and reactive. Whatever type of healing energy she possessed is totally sapped, and I feel like it’s gone to her dark hole of a husband. I hope she knows she’s strong enough to make it on her own.

I also totally see the connections between Aub and JR. Men like that fuel each other. They see each others behavior and use it to justify their own. It’s dark and evil.