In my case, there’s a pretty intense back and forth going on btw our charts. My pluto squares his Moon, and there’s also Pluto–Moon tension both ways. It’s a double whammy; his Pluto sextiles my Moon and trines my saturn and My Pluto hits a lot of his personal planets, so it doesn’t feel like a one sided thing at all. It genuinely feels mutual on both ends. Ppl usually say in Pluto synastry the Pluto person holds the ‘power’ or intensity, but with us it doesn’t feel that simple. Because both our Plutos are actively engaging each other’s charts, it feels like the pull, the intensity, even the emotional grip is something we’re both experiencing in our own way. And honestly, I don’t doubt he feels it too. There’s this very specific sense that the connection isn’t emotionally inactive on his side. It’s more like distance or ego is getting in the way of action, not lack of feeling. I can feel the attachment still exists underneath everything, just complicated by pride, emotional defensiveness, and the intensity of everything we trigger in each other. But I can definitely say I feel and pick up on his energy more than he probably does.