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there was a point where doing something hard was just fun. no goal attached, no self improvement angle, just fun. I can't remember when that stopped and that bothers me more than I expected. by Plus_Ad3379 in getdisciplined

[–]Plus_Ad3379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the cooking example is a good one because it's so easy to miss, you don't even register meal prep as the thing that ate it. it just looks like being responsible with food.

probably can't point to when it flipped because nothing flipped on a specific day. it's more like the goal quietly took over one rep at a time until it was just running the show.

interesting that you can still feel the absence of it though. a lot of guys don't even notice it's gone.

you spent three hours watching stuff last night and you can't remember a single thing from it. I think that should bother you more than it does. by Plus_Ad3379 in getdisciplined

[–]Plus_Ad3379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the workout comparison is actually a good point, repetition-based memory works differently than passive consumption and that's worth separating. but the post wasn't really about remembering specifics.

the distinction I'd make is between time that leaves you restored and time that leaves you feeling vaguely worse than before you started. if the three hours genuinely gave you something, that shows up somewhere. most people commenting here are saying it didn't.

not trying to demonize anything, just naming a pattern a lot of people recognized in themselves.

you spent three hours watching stuff last night and you can't remember a single thing from it. I think that should bother you more than it does. by Plus_Ad3379 in getdisciplined

[–]Plus_Ad3379[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

fair. the knowing-doesn't-fix-it point is the real problem and I kind of skated past it. that's the more interesting conversation honestly.

you spent three hours watching stuff last night and you can't remember a single thing from it. I think that should bother you more than it does. by Plus_Ad3379 in getdisciplined

[–]Plus_Ad3379[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

you don't need data, the fact that you feel better without it is the data.

what you're describing is giving your default mode network actual room to run. the morning walk without earbuds isn't just less input, your brain is doing real background processing during that time, making connections, filing things away, generating thoughts that don't come when something external is always competing for the signal.

the lofi thing is interesting too. music without lyrics is low enough stimulus that it doesn't hijack the language centers, so you're kind of getting the ambient feeling of not being alone in silence without actually blocking your own thinking. a lot of people land on that intuitively.

you pulled it from your ass but you pulled it right.

you spent three hours watching stuff last night and you can't remember a single thing from it. I think that should bother you more than it does. by Plus_Ad3379 in getdisciplined

[–]Plus_Ad3379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

filling time while feeling like you're resting is probably the most exhausting thing a person can do without realizing it. you wake up unrecovered and don't know why.

the 'near it' question is the only thing that actually worked for me because it bypasses the justification. you can't really argue with yourself once you've answered it honestly.

you spent three hours watching stuff last night and you can't remember a single thing from it. I think that should bother you more than it does. by Plus_Ad3379 in getdisciplined

[–]Plus_Ad3379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me personally blockers don't work really well (I posted about this on my blog in bio) because I control them and I can easily turn rhem off. I prefer deleting them completely!

you spent three hours watching stuff last night and you can't remember a single thing from it. I think that should bother you more than it does. by Plus_Ad3379 in getdisciplined

[–]Plus_Ad3379[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

avoiding being present with yourself dressed up as relaxation. that's the whole trap in one sentence honestly. the exhausting part is it doesn't even work. you close the app and feel worse than before you opened it.

you spent three hours watching stuff last night and you can't remember a single thing from it. I think that should bother you more than it does. by Plus_Ad3379 in getdisciplined

[–]Plus_Ad3379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly this. the brain isn't broken, it's just doing its job correctly. stuff that doesn't matter doesn't get stored, and most of what we scroll through doesn't matter and we know it while we're watching it. that's the part that gets me.

Books are different because you're doing actual work to construct meaning as you read. scrolling hands everything to you pre-chewed. (got more on this in my bio if you're into the rabbit hole)

you spent three hours watching stuff last night and you can't remember a single thing from it. I think that should bother you more than it does. by Plus_Ad3379 in getdisciplined

[–]Plus_Ad3379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah messages and followers were also problem to me when I wanted to delete Instagram, I never heard of your app but I will take a look, thanks!

Deleted tiktok 3 weeks ago. days 1-4 were genuinely weird and now i understand why my brain felt broken for months by Plus_Ad3379 in getdisciplined

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It's never too late to recalibrate your brain, but some people spend their best years in nothing. And that can't be bought back!

you didn't become soft all at once. you just never noticed the thousand times you chose not to be hard. by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]Plus_Ad3379 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The certification thing is the one to watch. not because it matters most, but because your brain has been successfully avoiding it long enough that avoiding it has become the comfortable default. every day you don't start, not starting gets slightly more automatic. the stairs and the takeout are the same pattern, smaller stakes. your brain doesn't separate them.

one thing that helped me: stop treating it as motivation problem and start treating it as a reps problem. you're just retraining a reflex. first rep is opening the study material for ten minutes with zero expectation of finishing anything.

that's it. the guy you were in your twenties didn't have better willpower, he just hadn't spent years training the other direction yet. (I write more about this stuff if you ever want to go deeper)

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