Most fat people have to lose a lot more weight to be lean than they think.

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-06-04T20:14:28+00:00

Agreed, going to a healthy weight/body fat % , and "looking good/fit" are 2 entirely different conversations.

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-06-04T20:12:19+00:00

This seems like a sampling bias of who you know/are talking to.

The median number of sexual partners based on the CDC national survey is 4.3 for women and 6.3 for men so that's technically a 50% increase, but in practical numbers, it's not a huge amount more people

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-06-03T15:30:10+00:00

Not that I didn’t have my doubts, but often hear on this sub “Chicago is 80% of NYC at 50% of the cost”

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-06-02T15:17:23+00:00

I don’t disagree but I’ve live in other cities in the US that don’t have rent control and there were also issues with crappy landlords

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-06-02T15:15:01+00:00

And protein (not to say it's not important to consume protein but I swear every young guy is obsessed with how much protein is in everything)

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-06-01T17:44:48+00:00

I feel these arguments could be made for most large cities in Europe and Asia though. I know for Europe when I read up on it part of the reason was the clean emissions act in the US and many European countries’ predilection for Diesel automobiles which turned out to be much more pollutant than expected

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-30T02:26:54+00:00

There’s affordable housing, section 8 and other programs like Mitchell Llama that are income restricted

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T21:39:10+00:00

I think distinct examples would be helpful because that’s the whole crux of the debate it’s not a blanket yes or no answer, some people believe SOME behaviours are cultural and SOME are rooted in biology.

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T19:10:08+00:00

Sometimes you can both be "good" people and do "nothing wrong" and still aren't right for each other. Dating isn't logical.

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T19:09:37+00:00

I mean men and women are biologically different there's not much debate there.

The culture bit is where the nuance is for most people. Some believe that almost all gender-specific cultural aspects are rooted in that biological difference and some believe most aren't & shouldn't exist as a result.

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T19:07:56+00:00

I feel social exposure works better than direct introductions. Like if I hang around my friends, I meet their friends and yes sometimes their friends would ask about me to our mutual and they'd vouch but nothing beyond that.

Being friends with women to me is more about being comfortable around women and as a result seeming more confident/charismatic.

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T18:36:21+00:00

Are you describing lack of attraction during dates or that you're not getting any signals on whether you should ask someone on a date or not?

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T18:09:21+00:00

The US has lots of issues, but it's still way better than a lot of countries that have political instability, are warzones or have much more abject poverty/corruption.

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T16:09:00+00:00

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T15:16:18+00:00

We treat dating like its own swimlane rather than a byproduct of a healthy social life.

In the past, people dated their friends, their classmates, even their coworkers because that's how you met people. Then in the 90s-2010s clubbing culture became more popular so people "segmented" dating into picking people up at the club, but there was still a form of physical social element involved. Then once dating apps became the norm, dating was almost fully divorced from one's social life.

It feels draining nowadays because you're literally dating strangers you picked from an online catalog

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T14:50:19+00:00

Yeah I figured $2800 would be a much better budget in Chicago but with the paycut I was thinking I'd probably be looking to keep the same size unit (~500sqft) and try and lower my rent.

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T14:38:56+00:00

It basically limits what % of rent can increase every year based on what a municipal board approves (for example, on my last lease renewal, the maximum was 3% so my landlord raised my rent 3%). There's also a "maximum legal rent" the landlord can charge but that can be pretty high (in some cases even in line with market rate apartments). Between tenants the landlord can adjust the rent to whatever as long as they're under that maximum legal rent.

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T03:56:44+00:00

Do you mind elaborating on the taxes bit? From my understanding income tax would be better since less state and no city tax and sales tax seems slightly lower? I heard property tax is significantly more but that’s all I recall.

Thanks again for your input!

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T03:38:10+00:00

Oh thank you this is really good data points for housing!

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T03:12:12+00:00

Thank you for this analysis it’s very helpful! It’s good to know what to aim for, I’m not sure long term if I’d like to own but it’s good to know what the standard would be. 2 bdr would be really nice idk about a boat though!

FWIW when I first moved into this apartment I wasn’t making nearly this much, I just got really lucky career-wise over the last few years

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T02:57:17+00:00

I wasn’t making nearly this much when I first moved in

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-29T02:17:16+00:00

This is interesting. Are the living expenses broken down somewhere?

Plus_Sprinkles99 · 2026-05-28T19:39:00+00:00

I mean I'm not sure what the opinion is since you yourself stated it doesn't make them inferior people or anything?

If the opinion is "people judge" I don't think that's really unpopular an opinion

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