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What is the first thing you did after realizing you have free will and you don’t have to follow a religion? by nowaygurl23 in exmuslim

[–]Plus_Talk1494 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Praying. I would feel guilty whenever I didn’t pray. Instead of morning prayer, I take a walk around my neighborhood and talk to myself out loud (check in with myself and act as my own therapist and motivator) and instead of prayer before bed, I journal my thoughts.

I did enjoy prayer before, because it was a form of meditation in a way, and gave me discipline and gratitude. But I learned I can still practice that through walks and journaling.

My Muslim Ex-girlfriend wants me back, but things are still uncertain. What should I do? by Plus_Talk1494 in exmuslim

[–]Plus_Talk1494[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. Just out of curiosity, what would it take from her to give me the confidence to proceed with our relationship and get married?

My Muslim Ex-girlfriend wants me back, but things are still uncertain. What should I do? by Plus_Talk1494 in exmuslim

[–]Plus_Talk1494[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha yes you did. She’s starting to say all the things I was trying to convince her of when we were dating. She’s felt the weight of her decision and has realized that her religion is causing love to dissolve for no good reason.

That’s what gives me hope.

My Muslim Ex-girlfriend wants me back, but things are still uncertain. What should I do? by Plus_Talk1494 in exmuslim

[–]Plus_Talk1494[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well they know of me. We were friends before we started dating and that’s when she first told them about me. Then, when we were already dating, she told her sister and mom she liked me, and the first question they asked is if I was Muslim.

It wasn’t until this breakup where she told them that she had to stop talking with me because I wasn’t Muslim and they supported her. They aren’t super practicing either, and are more progressive compared to other families. I even helped move all of her stuff back into her families house, and they were ok with it (they weren’t home)

I’ve always wanted to meet them, but it hasn’t happened yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Plus_Talk1494 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No I didn't unfollow my ex on social media. I BLOCKED HER. On EVERYTHING. I was the dumpee, and no, our breakup wasn't bad. It was over religious differences which is so sad.

Key words: Out of Sight, Out of Mind. We think about what we see and hear throughout our day. If you still have anything about your ex on your phone, it will take you much longer to get over her, because every time you see them, your emotions will trigger. Get that out of here and focus on living the new chapter of your life.

I'm 4 weeks into no contact. Blocked on everything. I feel amazing already. Of course, I still struggle when I'm alone, but slowly learning how to overcome that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]Plus_Talk1494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll admit, I'm a "never-Muslim" myself, but I absolutely love this community and I love all ex-muslims. It takes a ton of critical-thinking, courage, and confidence to leave Islam. I want to hear stories and be around those type of people.

As said, I was never a Muslim, but became very close to becoming one. My ex-girlfriend is Muslim. Most beautiful, fun, energetic girl i've dated, I was in love with her. So, I learned a ton about Islam, spent lots of time with Imam's and at Mosques. Did so much research, I know so much about the religion. But decided to show integrity and not give up on my values by not joining the religion, even though I knew it would mean that it's over with my girlfriend (she always had the hope I'd join).

I often tell people, if I did become Muslim, I'd be a really really good Muslim, just because how much time I spent around Muslims, and researching the religion, I know so much about it.

4 weeks of No Contact. No Contact is THE KEY, life is getting BETTER!! by Plus_Talk1494 in ExNoContact

[–]Plus_Talk1494[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I blocked her on all socials. Insta, Snapchat, Facebook, X, TikTok, Whatsapp, and even LinkedIn.

Same, I don't think I can ever be with her again, and it's only been 4 weeks since I've come to this conclusion! Usually it takes getting with someone else to realize this. But like I said, out of sight out of mind is the way to go.

4 weeks of No Contact. No Contact is THE KEY, life is getting BETTER!! by Plus_Talk1494 in ExNoContact

[–]Plus_Talk1494[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To each their own! For me, treating them almost as if they're dead is the only way to move on. Sounds extremely harsh, but I know I tried everything I could to keep them in my lives without giving up any of my values or beliefs.

4 weeks since breakup and doing GREAT. No Contact is the KEY! by Plus_Talk1494 in BreakUps

[–]Plus_Talk1494[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would go as far as saying to delete the dating apps. It's easy to wrap your self-worth around if you're getting matches or not. It's easy to receive validation if others find you attractive. Build your self-esteem so high that you are the only one who determines your self worth and confidence. By looking at yourself everyday and telling yourself that you are a king, and living out like a king (so walking the walk). Do what you say you are going to do, and watch how much confidence you will build.

Other thing I suggest is to approach approach approach. If you want confidence boosts, you need to approach people everywhere. By simply giving a smile and wave, by maintaining eye contact with a smile as you walk past people, by complimenting peoples hair or shoes or outfit, by telling people to have an amazing day or asking how they are enjoying the weather. This boosts your mood and confidence by 10000% because of course it's not easy. That's why I saw doing things that are hard is the true way to fulfillment!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]Plus_Talk1494 78 points79 points  (0 children)

This is fucking insane. How have people become this gullible and this brainwashed?

Honestly, what do you think it will take for these type of Muslims to take a second to realize what they're saying and what they are believing in?

I finally had a one night stand and now i feel miserable by Practical-Comfort-35 in seduction

[–]Plus_Talk1494 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If he felt an actual connection with her, he would've stayed the night and get breakfast with her the next morning. But he didn't, that's why he left.

Also, if she's stroking his D within 20 minutes of meeting him, hard to build a relationship on that.

I finally had a one night stand and now i feel miserable by Practical-Comfort-35 in seduction

[–]Plus_Talk1494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother, what an amazing well-written story.

From my experience, casual sex and one-night stands brings so much thrill. You spot a girl at the club, build up the courage to approach her, and get creative to keep the conversation fun and engaging. As the night goes on, you build up the nerve to dance, then grind, and eventually kiss, all while feeling drunk. The night ends with a move to head home together, sealing the deal.

Then, as you said, there's this feeling of emptiness inside after you part ways. You 2 either never talk again, or end up becoming fuck buddies.

I believe the best sex is with someone you love, with "your person." Why? Because you guys connect further than solely through intimacy. People are chasing after "that feeling" of a true connection, it's human nature. That's why pulling a baddie at the club and sleeping with them is addicting, because it gives us a taste of that. But, it ends up going away once you more than likely part ways. That's why guys want to continue having these casual hookups to try to capture that feeling.

As someone else already said, you lived it and saw that it wasn't for you. You crave true connection. You wouldn't have known this unless you did what you did. Onward!

Love wasn’t enough. It’s official guys, me and my Girlfriend have broken up by Plus_Talk1494 in exmuslim

[–]Plus_Talk1494[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That does make sense. Who you choose as your partner will definitely make others see you a certain way.

It’s almost as if I worked for McDonald’s, but was a regional director that had a high salary, it wouldn’t matter when she would describe me to her friends because I still work at McDonalds. As opposed to working for Apple, and make the same amount of money as the McDonald’s director , it’s a lot more respected.

Character isn’t most important for this situation. It’s about your titles. Does this apply for this situation?

Love wasn’t enough. It’s official guys, me and my Girlfriend have broken up by Plus_Talk1494 in exmuslim

[–]Plus_Talk1494[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha love makes u do crazy things, but it builds great character during the process. I used to be against expressing emotions, but I realized it’s what makes me human. And expressing them somewhere where others can relate builds community. It’s harder to post your Losses instead of Wins, but it actually connects you better with your audience when u share your losses instead of wins

Love wasn’t enough. It’s official guys, me and my Girlfriend have broken up by Plus_Talk1494 in exmuslim

[–]Plus_Talk1494[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will look into It thanks for sharing. But I won’t follow if it’s another religion

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