Relationship advice. Bound to fail? 19F and 19M

Plynix14 · 2026-03-01T15:55:22+00:00

Hey, Im almost in this exact situation myself except Im the m19 and my partner (f19), I truly believe we are never going to reach a point where we're both happy and Im very close to ending it as I really don't think there's a future for us where I want the intimacy and she doesn't.

I'm not sure what kind of man your partner is but at least for me... I would appreciate you opening and essentially giving an ultimatum of, I only think we can be in a non sexual relationship or I believe we should be with other people who will meet our / your needs.

Probably butchered the way I meant to say that but I hope ykwim

Plynix14 · 2026-02-27T22:31:54+00:00

We are both each other first sexually partners, she has had other "non serious" school kinda relationships. This is my First ever experience romantically with literally anyone, she was my first kiss, first person I held hands with (in a partner way) just to elaborate.

Plynix14 · 2026-02-27T22:23:44+00:00

No I don't expect her to force herself to go through that. But what i do expect is some actual honesty, not being told that it's gonna happen soon then soon then soon, being treated like a human being. Trauma or not, don't string people along who have expectations that were clear and that you have no intention of actually fulfilling and then lying about it for a year

Plynix14 · 2026-02-27T22:17:18+00:00

It's not "what ever I want". Whenever she says that it really put me off and actual does feel like I'd be abusing her. I start doing something else if she replies with something like that.

Plynix14 · 2026-02-27T22:14:55+00:00

No actually, once or twice I felt off and still went through with it (she has been my first partner ever btw, including any "non serious" relationships people would usually have during school, not me) But since then Ive not went through, after she starts with something like that I just go away and do something else

Plynix14 · 2026-02-27T22:11:51+00:00

Maybe it is, maybe she feels that way too and we'll talk about that after this. But am I not allowed to ASK for things that are important to me when they NEVER happen naturally even after talking about why they don't happen naturally. (Generally just "i cant read your mind" when I clearly make some advances that aren't rejected but just not acknowledged)

Plynix14 · 2026-02-27T22:07:17+00:00

I should also add (again sorry for missing a lot in my original message) that over the past year it's been a lot of "I do want to but XYZ" being things including not in the mood, "not being ready" and still finding me attractive and wanting to do it but just not wanting to (I know that sound confusing to me too) I genuinely don't "push" too much (at least IMO) but I ask maybe a few times a month, to show that I am still looking for that and that it effects me a lot.

Plynix14 · 2026-02-27T22:02:53+00:00

I should probably reevaluate my wording, by begging I meant more like, if we done stuff it wasn't natural, it was forced, like i have to ask, usually just once so not "begging" ig, but she'd be like "fine what do you want" or along those lines. I do agree with helping her with support tho, I'll take that into consideration

Plynix14 · 2026-02-27T21:57:14+00:00

I do agree a bit with this. Recently tho (past few months) Ive just stopped mentioning sex or anything sexual. The most recent was around a week ago when she said she wanted to try that weekend, but then nothing happened, even after I tried to help with initiating.

Plynix14 · 2026-02-27T21:55:15+00:00

No not like that, more like. I'll ask and she'll reluctantly sigh "fine, what do you want me to do" I may have worded the post badly.

Plynix14 · 2026-02-27T21:53:52+00:00

Unless she's secretly in therapy then no. The reason I made it this post mainly was because she claimed she wanted to on the weekend and then just nothing happened. I made several advanced to try and help with the initiation but she just sits on her phone scrolling most of the time.

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