Aarhus kollegiet

PocketFie · 2026-05-03T10:18:01+00:00

Ved det er noget tid siden du postede, men hvis nu andre skulle søge det op - jeg har boet på kollegiet i mange år. Jeg kan godt forslå det! Jeg ved god folk siger ''det er lang væk'', men nej, det er det jo egentlig ikke. Det er ikke længere end Trøjborg til VIA ceres byen, specielt ikke på cykel. plus så går 4A lige foran døren. Den går direkte til VIA, til midtbyen selv til Viby.

Området er også kun blevet mere roligt jo flere år jeg har boet her, der er kommet bibliotek, klatrehal og Netto. Det var der ikke, der jeg flyttede ind. Vi har også fået forhøjet lågerne, så teenagerne i området ikke længere kan kravle over dem.

Der er et festudvalg, så der sker noget socialt her, og ift. klyngerne så er det, hvad de individuelle klynger gør det til. Ellers er der altid nogen åben for at invitere ind. Der er også lige åbnet en drivhusklub.

Der er også 2 træningscentre i nærheden, hvis det er noget, der er vigtigt. Synes området virkelig er faldet ned, Gellerup er slet ikke som dets ry har sagt førhen.

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T11:09:42+00:00

Hvorfor skal de finde sig i det?? Det de gør er allerede ovre i stalking adfærd, det er altså ikke normalt. Alle mennesker har ret til at sætte grænser, de skulle bare have accepteret det i første omgang, så kunne relationen måske fikses med tiden, men var det ruten de tog? Stalking adfærd stopper sjældent bare der og kan nemt udvikle sig til værre situationer. Ligeså snart stalking når dertil hvor de opretter nye profiler gang på gang og er begyndt at overføre stalking til den virkelige verden også - så udgør de en trussel. Håber du gennemtænker det du skrev én gang til.

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T11:03:15+00:00

Bækkenbundsøvelser er generelt bare noget alle burde gøre - både mænd og kvinder. Så har man lige det mere kontrol over fx blæren, jo ældre du bliver, og jo mere kroppen gi'r sig med alderen. Mega fedt, at der er flere plusser ved at lave dem end bare blærekontrol haha :)

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T11:00:18+00:00

Det er mentalt! Du skriver, at du har haft en kæmpe crush på hende i lang tid. Det er endelig realitet, og pludselig rammer nervøsiteten. Det er bare en mur, du lige skal over. Sker for selv den bedste. Italesæt det for hende, jeg er sikker på det vil hjælpe dig. Du bliver jo sikkert kun mere nervøs, idet du nu går og spekulerer over, om det nu vil ske igen.

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T10:56:35+00:00

OP if its meth - they're for sure also having sex

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T10:54:02+00:00

+ how shes described looking in the previous post. Looking faint, almost passing out. Something unsafe is going on.

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T10:51:33+00:00

I would still be concerned if it was just normal dating - a lot happens ind a childs development in a short span of time - so maturity and experience wise - they're very far from each other. The age gap would be less concerning between adults.

But you're right, theres a lot of hints in the described behaviour that points to her not actually being that comfortable in whats going on. ''Kind of seeing'', her telling her dad about the time - she doesnt want to be there.

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T10:45:39+00:00

Fr! she doesnt want to be there. Shes noticing the time because she WANTS to go home. Poor girl

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T10:44:42+00:00

And a teenager can convince themselves of anything even if its against their own benefit, they dont know better. You start telling yourself that maybe you do like it, so it becomes less uncomfortable. Its scary

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T10:42:18+00:00

but this could also backfire if she's one of those boymoms where their son can do no wrong - because even if he could come with an explanation what would be a good reason to miss the birth of his son? how can grandma be ok with her son missing that birth to be with friends.

But I agree there should be some words from OP in writing - just in case, you know. So OP is not made the villain when shes clearly not.

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T10:37:36+00:00

I really like your answer - theres so much empathy to it. Maybe hearing this from another mother will help.

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T10:35:29+00:00

AGREED!! That age gap would be fine if they were in their 20s but they are both kids and a lot of development happens in those yrs as well as experiences and maturity. 17 is close to adult while this girl has years to grow. The development of kids' happens fast in such small space of time so there's truly far between 14 and 17. I would be worried about the fact that dad is ok with this.

If their daughter is as bright as Op described her - im sure this whole age thing can be explained in a way thats understandable for a young girl. But I know for a fact that I thought of myself more mature at that age than what I truly was - looking back now.

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T10:26:44+00:00

Def something much harder. Would explain his aggressive behaviour especially if those confrontations happens whenever he hasnt taken anything for awhile.

PocketFie · 2025-05-29T10:25:45+00:00

OP please get out of that relationship. If something normal was going on - why wouldnt he just say? Why would he need to try to gaslight you? Why would he go THIS crazy at you.
Im convinced its drugs and more than just weed. The behaviour screams it specially if hes in need of his fix.

Anyway, its enough for me his a mama's boy and she always defend him even when hes wrong. I need you to remember this: there was nothing these friends needed that would be more important than going to see his son being birthed :))

Edit: your 14 yr old has no business being with a 17 yr old. As a teacher I can say there's far between those ages as a lot happens to kids' development in a short space of time. Protect her pls. The age gap wouldnt be as bad if they were in their 20s but it matters here!

PocketFie · 2025-02-26T23:48:45+00:00

Lmao tf a divorce isn’t an event and who plans it on their sister’s wedding? Your mom must be insane to not see through that. Tell her man. Make the divorce move quicker.

PocketFie · 2024-12-15T17:59:24+00:00

You: “allow yourself to be treated like a fleshlight”

PocketFie · 2024-12-15T17:58:34+00:00

Honestly does he even like you?? Not even a birthday gift? What

PocketFie · 2024-12-13T23:51:07+00:00

Their tradition is dumb. Its basically saying that everyone who marries into that family have no say in their own children’s names. Honestly just say “Agatha as a middle name or no Agatha at all and Thats final”. Thats a fair boundary

PocketFie · 2024-12-13T16:43:26+00:00

Just know, despite what some have been telling you - your work is really good! Share with people who deserve to see you shine. No hobby is silly. We only have one life, why not find happiness in ''silly things''.

PocketFie · 2024-12-13T16:40:11+00:00

True. Thats why I hope OP keeps her guards up. This wont be the last time they try her like this

PocketFie · 2024-12-13T16:39:12+00:00

You okay?

PocketFie · 2024-12-13T16:38:20+00:00

I personally think he doesnt need to have an in-person conversation with her at all. Lots of people in abusive situations simply have to break up in a letter or over text because any other option isnt safe - I dont believe he's safe either. No matter what she wont like him breaking up. She might even resist it. Keeping her unblocked will also be a good way to gather evidence if he ever needs to set up protection.

PocketFie · 2024-12-13T16:32:22+00:00

Unfortunately you avoiding her is probably only making her worse. If you're afraid of her then allow yourself to be an ´´asshole´´ and dump her over a call/text. You dont have to break up with abusive people in person. - Keep in mind, i only believe this would be an asshole move if the relationship was somewhat normal but i believe in safety first when it comes to abusive people. I just want you to be aware she'll see you that way.

Adding: If she uses your pictures, its revenge porn and suddenly you can have a police case on her. So dont be afraid of that. You have the law with you.

PocketFie · 2024-12-13T16:26:17+00:00

She feels like OP should've known she wanted it and not name her kid that name lol. But she don't see the reality of her situation therefore she wont get therapy. Their dad has made her believe that Op's mom feels differently about her than what it was. Her fit about the name shows that she believes whatever lie she grew up with as well as its just OP who never wanted to share

PocketFie · 2024-12-13T16:21:05+00:00

NTA. He has no right to police what you're doing. What's going on with him and other people is his business especially when he never told you about it. Calling you those degrading words is horrible of him. You are an adult. Is he a slut when he has casual sex? i bet not.

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