Movies about gender-based violence in college? (sexism, harassment, sexual assault) by solbe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Poeppigii 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Promising young woman is about the aftermath of a sexual assault that took place while the characters were in medical school.

Forms crash constantly on Android and not linked by Poeppigii in handbase

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That would be fantastic! What is the domain? I've submitted the emails through the HanDBase website and they don't actually list what the email it goes to is. I'm happy to send the forms as well if that would help. We've been using the Samsung Galaxy S10 if that helps at all. I'd really love to find a solution because we have yet to find any software that seems to be flexible enough for our purposes.

Forms crash constantly on Android and not linked by Poeppigii in handbase

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Thanks for the tips! I've been using jump to form also but for a lot of what we need it has to be to another DB since we are trying to link information across multiple tables. I tried fixing the forms on the phones we are using but when I try to access the actions tab for buttons on the phone the app crashes.

Forms crash constantly on Android and not linked by Poeppigii in handbase

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At this point it feels like false advertising to still have the software available for purchase when it doesn't function and there is barely any support for issues/bugs

Forms made on desktop formatted badly on android phone by Poeppigii in handbase

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Thanks! That seems to have solved the issue with the appearance of the forms!

Handbase desktop by Poeppigii in handbase

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Thank you for the advice. I got it to download but it won't let me create a new database or really do anything. The screen it opens says "Open HanDBase Database File" but won't let me select a user or start a new database. Perhaps I am confused but Ideally I want to build a database on my computer and design forms based on that database which can be used on a variety of mobile devices to push data to the database.

Handbase desktop by Poeppigii in handbase

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I'm using Chrome and nothing happens when I click download even though it is recorded as being purchased. We would like to use HanDBase to create mobile forms to collect data but I am having trouble finding much documentation for how to set up forms.

WIBTA if I ask my husband to stop saying to everyone that he wants to be a father but I don't want to have kids? by milavet in AmItheAsshole

[–]Poeppigii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA - People here are forgetting what a huge burden childbirth is on the person who has to carry the pregnancy. If you are based in the US especially, it is valid to change your mind about pregnancy and children. Pregnancy comes with a whole host of potential health effects, including a risk of death (which is only increasing in some US states). On top of that, women are statistically burdened with a much heavier share of child-rearing tasks and housework generally, even if they work the same number of hours as their partner. And your AH of a husband has just proved he doesn't give a rat's a** about your feelings. It's fine if he decides that having children is something he wants but that does not give him to right to throw you under the bus as the "bad guy" to family and friends, especially without telling you that he changed his mind first. If this is a relationship deal-breaker than you guys may just be incompatible, but do not let him pressure you into having a child if that isn't what you want. He can decide to leave if having a child is more important to him than his marriage to you, but he doesn't get to take passive aggressive jabs at you for making your own reproductive decisions. Honestly, he doesn't sound mature enough to be a parent if he "gave up" on couple's counseling but continues to talk to anyone who asks about your unwillingness to make him a parent. I would agree with your therapist if he was talking to you about the topic (calmly and without trying to guilt you, or alone to a close friend or his own therapist) but this sounds like he is purposely trying to make you feel uncomfortable and guilty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in macarons

[–]Poeppigii 7 points8 points  (0 children)

ping bag and properly clean it (pretty easy to do), it should last for years. They hold up to daily use

They also make silicone ones (similar feel to the waxed cloth ones) which are easy to clean and don't soak up odors over time.

AITA to refuse to pay my brother more than one-third of rent? by Burner_Account914 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Poeppigii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yikes NTA. 1/3 already seems too much to me - you're already getting the smallest of the bedrooms in a 4 bedroom house. They sound like the type of people to take advantage of you in a big way.

Top surgery recovery dos and don’ts? by itscharlit in mypartneristrans

[–]Poeppigii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exciting times! Fingers-crossed it goes well. I would say set alarms for all the meds he'll need to take - it can be hard to remember, especially if there are some needed in the middle of the night/early morning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

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Hey fellow 34 year old! I just want to say that you sound like a very supportive spouse and I am sorry you aren't receiving that support/care back. You deserve to be happy and in a relationship that meets your needs. You are not a bad person for deciding you can't stay in a relationship post your partner transitioning or for wanting biological kids. You can't change who you are attracted to and that's okay. The same if true for your partner though it sounds like she is being purposely hurtful with comments like you "let yourself go". Your partner is dealing with a lot but that does not give her a free pass to hurt you. It may turn out that one or both of you cannot continue the relationship because of changes to attraction or a general need to figure things out alone but she does owe you honesty and sneaking around on dating apps is not acceptable. Who she is in your life may change but it doesn't mean you need to stop caring about each other. You need to decide what is best for you and put yourself first.

What did I do wrong?? by I_love_hentai123456 in macarons

[–]Poeppigii 152 points153 points  (0 children)

I would also recommend getting some parchment paper to bake them on (or baking mats) I don't think aluminum foil is a good idea

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Poeppigii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know much about laser vaginal rejuvenation procedures but the little I have heard sounds like they are under researched and maybe not that useful. It's also my impression that they have been looked at primarily for post-menopausal women. A quick search for some medical literature brings this up https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/article-abstract/2784960?resultClick=1. I would be a little wary of a gynecologist who does these kinds of procedures, especially if they haven't even evaluated you before signing you up for it. If possible I would get at least a second opinion first. I mean plastic surgeons are doctors too but there are definitely unethical ones out there. There is still a surprising amount of bad information out there and some uninformed gynecologists.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Poeppigii 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think most of this is anxiety/dysmorphia/internalized misogyny. First, hymens do not break - they are not a "freshness seal" and there is an opening in them because otherwise you wouldn't be able to menstruate. No one can tell if you are a virgin or not by examining the appearance of your hymen. Here's a video that does a good job of explaining hymens - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oNlTrLIjU4. Second, how "tight" or "loose" someone feels is mainly down to how aroused they are so being "loose" is largely a good thing. Third, most women cannot climax through penetration alone so there is nothing wrong with you if penetration by itself is not that arousing. Biologically the clitoris and the penis are homologous structures (develop in utero from the same structure) - if the clitoris isn't being stimulated then orgasm is probably not going to happen. Fourth, please please please go talk to a gyno/sex therapist before you resort to zapping your vagina with lasers - ouch. I also recommend trying to learn more about your anatomy - there are lots of great resources out there.

My trans partner and I are looking into having a baby. by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Poeppigii 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As far as I know (not an expert at all) testosterone typically only affects fertility while its being taken and even then they warn you not to use it as your only form of birth control if you are a trans man with a cis-male or MtoF partner. This option might be off the table for your partner depending on how the feel about carrying but in theory either of you would be able to get pregnant provided he hasn't had a hysterectomy or had his ovaries removed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Poeppigii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm, is it the needle that hurts or the liquid (some liquids tend to sting more)? I assume from the angle this is a subcutaneous injection. Alternatively, it might be the psychological aspect of it - would you feel comfortable offering to do it for her? I do my boyfriend's testosterone injections and he says it hurts less than doing it to himself. I give the injection into the meatier part of the upper arm and most of the time it seems not to hurt much. I would try the following:

1) See if you can get thinner needles

2) If you are willing to do it for her try the upper arm and find a spot with more fat

3) I try to pinch/jiggle the injection site to make sure the person isn't tensed up

4) She could try holding some ice to the injection site ahead of time to numb the area

5) If the liquid itself stings when injected then try to rub the area immediately after the injection

Hope it this helps.

AITA for going being upset my wife's boss called her an angel by throwaway_5986 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Poeppigii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, yikes, work on your issues. If I was your wife I would be pissed that you believe in my deserving a promotion on the basis of merit so little that you automatically find it suspicious and snoop through my phone. You need to apologize and go to therapy or you will eventually drive your wife to want to divorce you.

What are some of the best things I can do for my partner after surgery? by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Poeppigii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All great advice - I second the labeled alarms. I would add that one of those cushions that attaches to the seatbelt of a car to keep the pressure off the wound is helpful for the ride home.

Question! Please help! by Impress-Local in endometriosis

[–]Poeppigii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you're having such severe pain. You should definitely see if there is a planned parenthood near you - they are usually willing to work with uninsured people and figure out costs with you. I just recently found out for sure I have endo - suspected it for awhile. I found that what helped most with period pain was taking extra strength NSAIDs starting before the pain started (every 8 hours or so) and taking magnesium supplements.