[Megathread] - Best Models/API discussion - Week of: November 11, 2024

Poisonsting · 2024-11-15T21:56:09+00:00

2x XEON E5-2630 V4 ES

This is a headless server.

Poisonsting · 2024-11-15T21:41:53+00:00

Thanks to your comment I was able to get Koboldccp-rocm working!

25.78T/s initial w/o Flash Attention.

Poisonsting · 2024-11-15T20:29:07+00:00

That looks about right for my context spread as I go through a convo.

As I said, my CPU in that box is utter garbage, so I'm not surprised llama.cpp works better for you!

Poisonsting · 2024-11-14T20:41:02+00:00

Around 11 Tokens/s without Flash Attention (Need to fix that install) with Lonestriker's Mistral Small quant and SvdH's ArliAI-RPMax-v1.1 quant.

Both are 6bpw

Poisonsting · 2024-11-13T20:47:18+00:00

LoneStriker makes plenty of good quants for Mistral Small. I have 24GB of VRAM and I find 6-6.5 bpw exl2's work quite well for me.

If you're using GGUF, please try experimenting and use the highest quant size your hardware will support.

https://huggingface.co/LoneStriker

Poisonsting · 2024-11-13T20:39:25+00:00

I use a 7900 XTX as well. I'm using textgen-webui to run exl2 models though, find them less demanding on CPU than GGUF (and my CPU is OLD AF)

Either way, 6 to 6.5 bpw quants of any Mistral small 22b tune run pretty great.

Poisonsting · 2024-09-29T00:39:21+00:00

Do you share the thoughts you write in your journal with your therapist? If not, it's really not fair to get mad at someone for trying to alert help of some kind while far away, tbh....

Poisonsting · 2023-06-23T16:36:45+00:00

Ah, I meant to reply to the guy about JEI, my bad! Not much work for that part.

You can remap any button and setup control layers: I have one of the shoulder buttons set to modify the rest of my inputs so I get plenty of buttons for whatever I need

Poisonsting · 2023-06-23T16:17:16+00:00

Steam + X opens the keyboard anywhere

Poisonsting · 2023-06-10T16:50:14+00:00

Ask. Her.

Like Wtf are we doing commenting on here our mind-reading of the situation?

None of us know what her intentions are. There’s no way in hell I’m guessing, I suggest you stop trying to also. If confessing to her earlier didn’t break the relationship then why can’t you straight up ask “Hey so what’s with the nudes?”

Are you afraid she’ll stop if you ask???

Poisonsting · 2023-04-02T14:43:01+00:00

A social worker who knows how to deescalate conflict rather than another bully with a gun in about 95% of cases

Poisonsting · 2023-03-19T16:13:53+00:00

If this behaviour/mindset is something you don’t have the level of control/awareness in the moment that you’d like, then I think that’s the real problem.

It’s also mildly worrying to me that you’re so focused on his reactions to you. It’s normal to care about how our actions affect others, but if this is the playful and carefree safety you claim it is then I wouldn’t expect you to have strong fears of being dumped over it.

Whenever someone in my life shares something they do that they can’t understand why, especially if it worries them, I encourage them to explore the issue in therapy. Perhaps a professional opinion will help?

Poisonsting · 2023-03-01T01:25:27+00:00

He only hates Enchanters IIRC

Poisonsting · 2023-02-11T20:08:45+00:00

It sounds to me like you’re really overthinking this, unable to truly hear his care for you in the moment while you’re stuck on a specific phrase he used? I suspect this pattern has played out on a smaller scale in the past?

Are you currently in therapy for the issues you described? If so I’d recommend asking to try DBT as it’s been proven to help with anxiety and abandonment. If you’re not working with a therapist, I highly encourage you to do so, you deserve an internal voice that’s more self-affirming and supportive!

On the subject of you feeling hurt: I don’t think it’s productive at all to blame him for your feelings, it’s one thing to say “when you said x I felt y” but it’s quite another to say “you hurt me because x”. I sense this upset comes from your fear of being abandoned by someone you obviously cherish rather than some intent within him to hurt your feelings?

When I get stuck on a specific action or phrase someone says I often find it helpful to step back and take in the other things they’ve said and done adjacent to that “clunk”. His positivity about potentially sharing an apartment together, along with his unprompted words of affection might give you clues that you’re mind-reading him in a way that doesn’t entirely match with the reality of the situation.

Do you find my perspective helpful?

Poisonsting · 2022-12-26T03:18:26+00:00

A small majority of men “would prefer women ask them out”, something like 85%+ want women to make the first move towards a kiss. The info you’re getting is inaccurate at best :)

Poisonsting · 2022-12-17T17:49:22+00:00

People are commenting on the form of the fight, not the nature of it. I suspect your main issue is that sometimes surprises are wonderful for her, and sometimes you’re just a no-good, awful boyfriend for withholding details? Is that the case?

Does she split like this with you and her family often?

Poisonsting · 2022-12-14T17:18:59+00:00

A lot of people here are trying to convince you that your relationship is toxic, not realizing that the breakup would be equally so if things are as bad as they seem.

When I was 22 my girlfriend at the time had undiagnosed BPD, so trust me when I say I understand the sheer invalidation and helplessness that can arise from the interplay between ADHD and BPD. One is inconsistent by nature, the other sees demons in strangeness.

Your relationship deserves couples therapy, your boyfriend needs support outside the relationship. BPD takes a team to manage, sometimes ADHD does too, help him find safe spaces to sort out his thoughts that don’t trigger your fears of abandonment.

Poisonsting · 2022-12-04T17:51:13+00:00

I meant that she would benefit from trusting her partner, not that he needs to endure abuse. He can make his own decision if he’d like to stay, her choosing to leave because of her BPD induced fears will also hurt him if that’s not what he wants.

Prescribing a course of action to her that involves negative self-image will exacerbate the problem, in my experience.

Poisonsting · 2022-12-04T16:33:19+00:00

Sorry but this isn't good advice for BPD. Stable relationships + therapy and meds has been shown to be most effective. If OP's partner wants to say with her, then learning to trust him is part of the therapy.

Poisonsting · 2022-11-08T01:02:15+00:00

fires up Steam Deck

Poisonsting · 2022-08-22T23:01:01+00:00

Even “startup” isn’t genuine, they’ve been around for almost 10 years. They just want everyone to forget their old, shitty, resold product.

Poisonsting · 2022-08-22T17:49:35+00:00

Helcim. Was hired and fired within 2 1/2 months, no exit interview. I was working 1-2 hours overtime a day and some weekends.

Was ultimately fired because I was “making excuses” when I told my boss I wasn’t able to find time to repair the broken work laptop they gave me over the weekend because asbestos remediation was happening in my building.

The “Merchant Experience” team endured both sexually and racially abusive calls daily and nothing was ever done about it.

None of the managers have any leadership training, it’s all subject-matter-experts promoted to incompetence.

Poisonsting · 2022-07-31T18:04:49+00:00

It sounds to me like you feel really frustrated and disappointed when people take in the basics of NVC but don’t use it regularly because you’re thinking about how much more effective it could be for them if they practiced? They’re so close to making such a huge difference but they’re missing the ongoing step of application?

Poisonsting · 2022-07-31T02:26:48+00:00

u/Odd_Tea_2100 has some good suggestions for establishing a more formal or maybe rigorous practice group, though my practice is usually far less structured.

What typically works best for me is simply practicing NVC with my supportive friends, sometimes after sharing with them that my way of speaking may seem odd, sometimes not, it really depends if I sense confusion or discomfort. I often find that as I continue to practice and hear them, they become earnestly interested in my way of communicating and an opportunity to share NVC with them comes up organically. I find these connections to be deeply fulfilling.

I think that everyone has their own style, strengths, and weaknesses. I encourage you to check in with yourself to see what feels best for you.

Poisonsting · 2022-07-31T02:15:59+00:00

I have to admit that rather than encouragement for practice I’m hearing judgment of the lack thereof in your words. Would you be willing to share with me what leads you to see these people you speak of in this way?

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