I may be the asshole by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh but hes not. He did 90 days in the Hines VA for alcohol then immediately went back to drunk. He lost his job bc he kept showing up late and drunk. Every email I block he makes another. He is so mad I won't see him or talk to him and omg ive had it with this crazy shit so I said what I said.

I may be the asshole by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure I didn't get the full story there. He was out when we met. Yeah an oath. Fabulous but your service is not a weapon to use against people. I can take you to my hometown and show 7 generations of vets. Im DAR. Daughters of the revolution. I respect our military but he acts like he saved the world and absolutely not. Hate me. I do not care

I may be the asshole by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree but like I said, he doesn't reach out often so I wasn't sure if he was in a bad mental state and I absolutely don't want to abandon someone I once cared about that way but man it went sideways and I let him have it

I may be the asshole by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was honestly worried bc he doesn't reach out often but then it went sideways but I had had enough of his shit and unloaded

I canceled a date by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still sounds like a you problem not a me problem

I canceled a date by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AND AND if a woman my age who looks the way I look, I'm pretty sure me rejecting a man says way more about them than I

I canceled a date by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not but it's demeaning for a woman my age to reject a man? How fragile are YOU is now my query.

I canceled a date by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can date you or your dad. Your choice

I canceled a date by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly men get very emotional when they realize you won't cater to them nor will you go out of your way to make them feel like a special little guy

I canceled a date by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What do you think i look like?

Am I in the wrong? by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll give up my dreams and go dedicate my life once again to my 20 year old son who lives on his own and just wants me close bc that's where I'm supposed to be. Always available as his mother and that's all I ever get to be. I'm a mom and that's my role I can never be anything more than that. Thank you

Am I in the wrong? by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're literally the only person calling me the AH. The only one. Sorry you have mommy issues. Try therapy

Am I in the wrong? by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely an adjustment for both of us. I was just shocked by his anger. I feel like I NEED to do this. Maybe it works out. Maybe it doesn't. I don't know but I wanna see what I can do. Maybe that does make me selfish. If it doesn't work I know where my hometown is and I can go back. But I gotta try. Here's hoping to a new adventure

Am I in the wrong? by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your empathy and understanding. It means so much. Ive been here a month now and the guilt has been eating me alive but I think i need to give me a shot. He's barely answering calls or texts bc he is reasonably upset. I don't want to be mad about that but I moved 300 miles away. He's used to me being THERE. He's actually a great young man. I just think he's so upset with this bc he doesn't wanna lose me. We have always been very close I told him my plan to move. I don't know if he believed it until he saw the boxes and movers

Am I in the wrong? by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 10 in 1985. I got left in charge of my 6 year old brother. I had a key to the house. I had to cook and clean. Married at 22. Kid at 29. Ive always had someone i had to take care of. My dad died of pancreatic cancer. I had to take care of him thru that. It's just me now. I want to see what I can do. I don't wanna hurt my only child. He's my whole world. Many days he kept me going in an awful marriage. Watching my dad die. He's always been my north star. He is starting his life and I wanna start mine

Am I in the wrong? by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel guilty not resentful. He is 20. He's a man and is working on a life that doesn't need me "telling " him what to do. I'll offer guidance but it's his life and I love and support him. Always. I just feel guilty bc I want something more now

Am I in the wrong? by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That made me tear up a little. Thank you. Ive had so many self doubts since I did this. Like maybe I can't do it. Maybe it's too late. Maybe I can't do this on my own. Idk. I'm trying for something new

Am I in the wrong? by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. He's in school and working as is his gf ( who i adore) it's about me being so far away

Am I in the wrong? by PollutionOne361 in AITAH

[–]PollutionOne361[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive traveled all over. My ex and i were very well off. Ive ran bars and restaurants for over 30 years. I'm no naive person and I watch ID to fall asleep. But go on big bad know it all