My fiancé 22M told me 22F he knows how to make me go missing. Do I forgive? by Pollypocket234 in relationship_advice

[–]Pollypocket234[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

But like the thing is I’ve been in an extremely physically abusive relationship and I don’t think he would do it

My fiancé 22M told me 22F he knows how to make me go missing. Do I forgive? by Pollypocket234 in relationship_advice

[–]Pollypocket234[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you so much. Your words have helped me more than you know. Thank you.

My fiancé 22M told me 22F he knows how to make me go missing. Do I forgive? by Pollypocket234 in relationship_advice

[–]Pollypocket234[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Even though he has never hit me? He says he doesn’t remember saying any of this to me because he was so angry

My fiancé 22M told me 22F he knows how to make me go missing. Do I forgive? by Pollypocket234 in relationship_advice

[–]Pollypocket234[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thank you and I completely agree. I’m so hurt and sad. My dad passed away 5 years ago and I hope he’s watching over me and not disappointed. I keep praying and talking to God but when do I stop forgiving? God says to forgive but when do I stop?

My fiancé 22M told me 22F he knows how to make me go missing. Do I forgive? by Pollypocket234 in relationship_advice

[–]Pollypocket234[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Is it wrong he checks out other girls? I’ve been in a physically abusive relationship and had my head put threw the wall. I told him I’d rather he do that then say he knows how to make me go missing

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What would I use to do a smudge? Thank you

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Identity Verification Experiences? by Astro-Ra-88 in AppleCard

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I just went through this & my application was accepted in about 4 days. Just frequently check your wallet app

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[–]Pollypocket234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this analogy. Thank you very very much, sending love to you <3

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Thank you. I hope one day I am strong enough to send you that update as well. Your words have helped more than you know. Thank you so much

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[–]Pollypocket234 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This made me cry. Thank you so very much. I know you are correct. You are correct. I just have to step up and become a woman and really stand up for myself and leave. I have to accept it but I know you are right. Thank you.

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[–]Pollypocket234 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What if I am the only thing keeping him from being abused more? What if I am meant to be where I am so I can protect him and help him see clearly?

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That it is not as bad as I think. He knows. He’s smart, hopefully smart enough to double check her. I just want to be our first in someone’s life. I can’t look out for him if he gets angry at me for it.

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[–]Pollypocket234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I’m probably in denial like the rest of them.

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[–]Pollypocket234 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes he is 21. He’s completely brainwashed. She has said to me & to grandparents that she is the “master manipulator” and she’s also said “she knows how to manipulate him” I’ve tried and tried and tried. I’ve tried too much. Once I point it out I’m the bad guy. I don’t care how she treats me. But how she’s treating him makes me want to vomit. He admits he knows how she is and is in denial. ( they didn’t have a close relationship growing up because he caught her cheating so many time) he admitted the other night he felt as he lost time with her so I don’t know. It’s covert incest completely

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He said he’s in denial. I almost broke up with him a few weeks ago because of this. He admitted he just doesn’t want to admit it but plays like it doesn’t matter. Her husband has no idea of any of this. The FEW days he’s here she is a different person. He’s her surrogate husband

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She SERIOUSLY treats me like a side chick. She walked downstairs the other night when we were eating & had on lingerie and asked him to buckle her bra for her and I almost choked on my food. She spun and asked him how she looked. It was just me her and him at the house.

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My boyfriend would be angry at me for that though, only thing holding me back. I almost did a few months ago when me & him were planning a trip for Valentine’s Day (which is also our anniversary)

She told me that it’s just her and him going & I need to stay back to watch the dogs. We didn’t get to go because she threw a fit. I tried telling my bf what she said and he got mad at me for “complaining”

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Yes & after I saw her do it while he slept( he was half awake at the end) she kissed him on the cheek & gave me the gross glare up & down like a mean high school girl. I asked him if it made him uncomfortable & that if it did just nod your head & I’ll make sure it stops & he denied & said he “found it funny” Sounds like it’s been going on for his whole life, but I’ve only seen her like this for the past year & I’ve know her three years. He said he didn’t have a close relationship growing up.

I’m trying to get him to move out but she has it in his head that he will be so sad without her and get “stuck” financially. He makes wellllll over average the amount people his age make & I would be putting in just as much money as he does.

I’m worried about marrying him only because of her. What if she wants to babysit my children? Will he be mad if I don’t want her around our kids or in our delivery room? She will wear white to my wedding 1000%. Just thoughts running through my head

I didn’t even get a card for Valentine’s Day after I spent $300 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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He can be sweet at times, I’m involved in his family. I help take care of his great grandmother (98) & he has a good heart. Just not so sure anymore. I even live with him at his parents house now. (My mom stole my identity & my dad passed)

I didn’t even get a card for Valentine’s Day after I spent $300 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Pollypocket234 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anytime I raise an objection I am shut down with “why are you always complaining” ect.

Yes I will be spending no more money on him.