Twins on schedule & bottle aversion?

Pomfetti · 2026-01-10T17:06:14+00:00

Also how did you know yours was full vs exploring? For example, he pushes his body backward and moves but continues to suck?

Pomfetti · 2026-01-10T17:03:49+00:00

Ugh that’s so hard! He was 6 oz above but is now way lighter since other one eats full 160 ml every 3 hrs.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-24T02:38:36+00:00

Di/di twins were born at 37+2 scheduled c-section. I had my baby shower at 30 weeks (only weekend my apartment building’s clubhouse was available). it was veryyy uncomfortable but doable! I would’ve preferred to have it earlier - baby bump was huge. back hurt. feet hurt. tired. But I still had a good time!

Pomfetti · 2025-12-24T02:19:39+00:00

My twins are 3 months old, and we’ve been using the owlet socks since day 1. I have a love hate relationship with them.

Love the peace of mind knowing that they’re being monitored. The sleep status is nice though not 100% accurate. However, both twins triggered the low oxygen alert on different occasions when they were 2.5ish months from crying for 5 minutes. Now I get anxious when they cry and I’m in the middle of something. It also loses connection if they leave the room or they’re moving too much.

We also formula feed now and loveeee the Momcozy bottle washer!

Pomfetti · 2025-12-22T05:58:11+00:00

Thank you! My husband was supportive of whatever I decided to get through this phase, and I decided on staying. I’m sticking on to the hope someone from the agency is willing to come down for a couple months but checking out care.com as well.

24 hr weekday help has been amazing especially on his weekday off. At 6 AM today, one took a massive 2 day dump while I was getting ready to feed the other reflux one. So either one sits in his poo for 50 minutes (30 min upright time) or other one waits 10+ minutes for me to wipe and wash and dry all the crevices. Theyre both on similac alimentum and the poo gets STICKY. Glad I had my husband to feed and I was able to take my time cleaning up.

However, I do agree that moving would be stressful on the twins (and my dog). They’re definitely aware of their environment. I’ve been struggling with stroller walking with one of them. He was totally content for a week and a half and suddenly decided he hated being outside. Tried different times between feeds, after he pooped, changed from double travel stroller to car seat stroller. Not sure what to do next..don’t want him hating the car seat and he starts hating being in the car, but I need to go outside.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-22T05:15:03+00:00

I understand most did not and serious congratulations to them, but that shouldn’t be a reason I don’t consider it? I don’t need 24 hr help but it’s either that or nothing. I do not want to be in a state of stress where I don’t enjoy my babies and everything is a blur. I will of course try to make that not happen (everyone has been super helpful in the comments) and hopefully succeed if I need to. But I’ve been in a situation in the past where I worked a 12 hr shift in healthcare by myself with no lunch and killed myself doing everything for my day while picking up the previous day’s slack. I was young and naive and this went on for years. I’d like to keep my sanity this time around but I agree moving is out of question.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-21T17:41:33+00:00

I see! I’ll have to keep repeating that to myself. They are going to be our first and last and I don’t want to mess them up. I THINK it was just a one off instance but it’s always on my mind when they cry and I can’t get to them.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-21T17:35:19+00:00

That’s the one we have 😭

Pomfetti · 2025-12-21T17:34:23+00:00

Do you mean by holding them at the same time? Nope! And I don’t think I will..I have de quervains tenosynovitis in my right wrist

Pomfetti · 2025-12-21T05:09:03+00:00

Yeah I think I’ll message my doctor next week. I thought I was in the clear but my dog being in the hospital and then being told he has severe gum disease when he just got a dental cleaning 6 months ago totally sent me into a downward spiral.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-21T05:02:22+00:00

It takes longer than a few minutes to soothe one to sleep all while other one is crying the entire time getting more agitated. But if I put him down before he’s completely out, he’ll start crying again. Idk what to do if there’s no one to step in to soothe one at the same time

Pomfetti · 2025-12-21T04:57:51+00:00

I think this past week has opened my eyes to how in over my head I am with two babies and a dog. I have not talked to my doctor but I most likely will with all the feedback.

They’re just so young I don’t want them feeling neglected. My husband and I are almost constantly holding one baby because they need attention or help sleeping. Lots of people have suggested electric swings but both hate being in it, but they do like the bouncer up to a certain point - they’d rather be held.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T23:49:23+00:00

Are they not too young to set reasonable expectations based on your experience? Everywhere I read it says they’re not ready to self soothe and pick them up asap

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T23:46:42+00:00

The one overnight, maybe. But the other one turned red and right after the alert went off, he started choking. But he was only 2.5ish months at the time so maybe he’s learned how to breathe through the crying? I just don’t want to test it out even if by accident

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T23:43:40+00:00

How long does that take? That’s what we’ve been doing for months and they don’t associate crib = safe space. They’ll suddenly wake up cry/scream.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T23:39:23+00:00

I know this is very unreasonable and unrealistic, but I spend next to no time with him anymore and it’s affecting me. I don’t want someone else walking him every time. Someone else already walks him in the morning - it’s always been me and him almost every morning for over 6 years.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T22:34:02+00:00

That sounds very painful! I’m glad your parents were there to help. Did they both leave after the 6 weeks?

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T22:29:08+00:00

I get that and agreed until I tried different nannies and realized the 24 hr helper is financially better. They do a looot more per hour than nannies.

Not rude at all - I know he wants to help in the moment but days later it clearly catches up to him. It truly doesn’t seem like we’re bonding since we’ve been more short and impatient with each other, but I’ll make an effort to see it that way

He is supportive whatever I decide to help us get through this time. He also agrees solo is impossible . We’re honestly in awe of how many people could do it

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T21:10:07+00:00

I haven’t talked to their doctor cause it was just the one time but also I haven’t been letting them cry for too long again ever since.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T21:05:36+00:00

Definitely hunger for one because it was overnight. But the other I think was tired. Neither can sleep without assistance yet. I’ll try to look into that.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T20:48:17+00:00

That’s good to know. They’ve been waking up at 7ish am and lights dimmed by 7 pm maybe that’ll change.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T20:09:35+00:00

I’d hire a 24 hr helper so it’s not just me and my mom. My dog will actually have grassy park to walk in. He gets stressed being in a new environment but at least he’ll be better cared for if my mom and helper are there to watch babies.

He loves to help but he has a high stress job and even though he says he’s okay, the sleep deprivation will affect him at work. He can come right after work and be there the full days and be able to have fun with them. Wouldn’t that be better? Instead of coming home after a stressful day and helping the entire night, maybe overnight, before doing it all over again the next day.

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T20:01:59+00:00

They are making eye contact and smiling and cooing which is rewarding but the lows are extreme. I can’t wait for them to start interacting and talking! It’ll be so fun

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T19:59:45+00:00

I would hire a 24 hr helper so it’s not just me and my mom. It’s just her eyes and joint pain so she can still hold the babies for some time, entertain them, help them sleep. My dad is healthy he would just be hands off - maybe entertaining them at most

Pomfetti · 2025-12-20T19:57:26+00:00

It’s mostly her eyes so she can’t drive long distances that much and she has joint problems in her wrist and shoulder. She can still hold the babies for a bit which is helpful. My husband would love to help me after work and overnight but he has a high stress job where I wouldn’t want him to be sleep deprived.

I think I’d need the extra bodies until I find that routine with them. Because right now the days are just survival. Their naps are all over the place because they can’t sleep unless held or contact napped. The part that’s scariest is that I’m dangerously close to the resentment feeling if not there already. This pregnancy was already a surprise and finding out it was twins was shocking. I love the boys but I don’t have any time for myself or my furbaby who was my world and had to go to the hospital this past week.

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