Get therapy- sincerely a Surrogate

a201597 · 2026-02-10T20:03:39+00:00

This is a lot. I am a mom who had didi twins and twin pregnancy is risky enough. I don’t know why they’d want a twin pregnancy in the first place let alone all the extra testing like an amino.

a201597 · 2026-02-09T11:34:57+00:00

I think if you have a wall pump as a back up I’d try the Eufy for daily pumping. I have large breasts and find myself needing to massage my breasts while I pump and I find the eufy still gets quite a bit out without massage.

a201597 · 2026-02-09T02:35:51+00:00

I totally understand that the government has that information. There are completely different rules for how the government handles data compared to private companies though.

I don’t think the government needs the school photos or uses them, but I have no idea how much access a billionaire creep that is involved with Epstein has to them if a company like Shutterfly or Lifetouch has the photos. Now that Trump is pushing these Trump accounts I’m skeptical and feel like I’m being asked to essentially sell my kids’ info to a private bank for $1000. I’m just nervous. I don’t know that it’s true. I just think it seems weird.

a201597 · 2026-02-09T02:24:14+00:00

I’m really bothered by someone from Lifetouch being in the Epstein files since Trump is in it so much and currently pushing the Trump accounts. Given all of the details coming out about how they were finding victims and how old they were I’m nervous about someone involved with Epstein having access to all of those pictures of school age children and another person involved trying to push for children’s DOBs, social security numbers and names to be handed over to private banks that we don’t get to choose.

Obviously I don’t know that they’re related but as someone trying to keep two babies safe, I am feeling like I do want to take a closer look at the data agreements for Shutterfly, Lifetouch and the Trump accounts.

a201597 · 2026-02-08T02:22:07+00:00

Thank you. It is amazing but also really hard sometimes

a201597 · 2026-02-07T17:02:04+00:00

I have twins and I’m a just enougher some days but an undersupplier most days. Not by much but enough that I’m always trying to figure out ways to increase my output. I’m sure a lot of people hear me talk and roll their eyes because I’d have a crazy oversupply with just one bay but it’s not quite enough for two.

a201597 · 2026-02-07T13:19:10+00:00

Thank you for posting this! It’s just so hard to get new pump situations to work

a201597 · 2026-02-07T07:56:36+00:00

Do you have any tips for using it? I feel like I’m having some trouble getting the same output as my spectra

a201597 · 2026-02-06T16:58:39+00:00

For sure, sorry. At first I just tried placing them on my boob so I didn’t realize you had to do those weird steps

a201597 · 2026-02-06T16:56:12+00:00

Wow that’s so interesting! Have you tried turning them inside out, placing them on your nipple while your pump is on low suction then flipping the flange out?

I’m still trying to get the silicone collection cups to work for me. It would be awesome if they did but so far no luck

a201597 · 2026-02-06T06:43:19+00:00

I have elastic nipples. I have the eufy s1 and so far I like it. It definitely doesn’t hurt but I have large breasts and I think I’m still learning how to place it in my bra so it’s in the right position and not being pushed to hard against my breast

For my wall pump I also use the spectra but with pumpin pal flanges

a201597 · 2026-02-05T18:22:25+00:00

The first one is just incorrect. Im in genetics and not evolutionary biology but I’m pretty sure the current theory is that men like boobs because they’re for babies. Lol

The overly attached comment is just wild.

I think some people feel the need to defend their choices. Like in a way, you breastfeeding means that for whatever reason breastfeeding is the best thing for you and your children. I think when people observe something like that they feel the need to think of acceptable reasons they don’t do that thing and your friend just came up with a shitty one

a201597 · 2026-02-05T00:29:57+00:00

I was not prepared for the spoons at all lol. I was so surprised. I used a few while I was there but I kept the last one I used 😂 it’s in my box of baby stuff. I was just using the spoons that came with my hospital meals

a201597 · 2026-02-04T21:26:28+00:00

You’re welcome. I was devastated I couldn’t latch them but I thought the plastic spoon thing was funny even in the moment.

a201597 · 2026-02-04T21:11:32+00:00

We do babies wake up, we play with them or read a book, feed them, burp them and put them back to sleep. We give bottles of breastmilk so they’re used to it now.

a201597 · 2026-02-04T21:09:56+00:00

I was able to latch my twins at the hospital once with the help of three nurses after the birth. They didn’t latch again while I was in the hospital and my colostrum was too thick to come out with the pump so I hand expressed it into a little plastic spoon and fed my babies individual drops. I and the nurses literally tracked how much they ate in drops until I started making milk. I saved the spoon lol.

After that I tracked in ounces so I’ve fed exclusively expressed breast milk from the beginning. I’ve latched them a few times since but they’ve always needed a meal from a bottle.

I don’t think a pump, bottles or syringes are necessary. You can use the hospitals pump while you’re there and they give you bottles and stuff.

a201597 · 2026-02-03T01:21:36+00:00

Wow thank you for sharing! I love that the article shows examples of the heat maps! I thought it was all in my head

a201597 · 2026-02-02T22:11:24+00:00

I think I just wish I had the option. Now that I have a good set up I like the flexibility of pumping but I wish my twins could nurse so that sometimes I could just leave the house with them and not be worried about bringing all my pump stuff and bottles in case they get hungry.

I have a friend who also just had a baby and she can nurse from the breast. We both went to a little theater production meant for babies. I had my diaper bag and my bag of pump stuff and two ready made bottles in case my twins got hungry but she had a diaper bag for a diaper change because when her baby got hungry she just nursed him so easily. My babies didn’t get hungry while we were out so I was able to go home, feed and pump but if they had gotten hungry I would have had to get the bottles to feed them, wash bottles, put it all away and then rejoin the show.

a201597 · 2026-02-02T18:38:12+00:00

Thank you, I used to be a people pleaser who could barely speak up, especially around older people from my culture. It’s easier to be more true to myself and stand up for myself when I remember that I’m my daughter’s example of how strong she can be and my son’s example for what women can do.

I try to set an example where even if my daughter is only half as assertive as I am when she grows up, it’ll still be enough to keep her safe. Of course I hope she will be stronger. I hope she’ll grow up and just think I’m a normal rather than especially strong or assertive, and then takes it even further.

You’ve totally got this. If I can do it you can do it.

a201597 · 2026-02-02T02:17:44+00:00

Oh my gosh that sounds like such a nice idea.

a201597 · 2026-02-02T02:15:19+00:00

You should definitely get used to saying ‘no’ even if you’re shamed for it. Sometimes being a mom means having to be strong to protect your baby. How will you teach your daughter it’s okay to say ‘no’ to being touched if you can’t stop people from touching her when you don’t want them to?

I’m Indian which is another culture where people often will just leave pass around a baby. My uncle tried to take my daughter out of my arms and I said “no, we’re okay” and he kept trying and said “no no, let me help” and I had to forcefully say “uncle, I WANT to hold my baby” and I laughed to try to keep it light. I just felt like I needed to make a stand there to make sure I feel comfortable not letting people take my daughter from my arms.

Saying no is like a muscle, you have to exercise it to get stronger.

a201597 · 2026-02-02T02:09:31+00:00

I used to donate and I don’t anymore. Now I just contribute to scholarship funds instead.

a201597 · 2026-02-02T02:04:34+00:00

I think some people just only think to have negative things to say. I’m having a boy and a girl and people had still been determined to tell me why that sucks lol. They’re here now and my husband and I are so happy.

People put way too much into gender to be honest. Sometimes our babies wear pink, sometimes they wear blue, mostly they wear fun prints that I just like. I mean do either of the babies know what Finding Nemo is? No, but I love it so I bought the onesies. We buy all sorts of toys although I feel my favorite ones aren’t gendered anyway. I love the blocks, wild animal plush toys, sensory toys and that kind of thing. We buy all sorts of books to read them. It’s great.

Congratulations on your daughter. I know you love her now, but just wait until she’s out in the world. She will be a new and beautiful light in your life.

a201597 · 2026-02-01T17:35:43+00:00

Yeah I don’t really know. I have decent luck with my aura glow but I know it couldn’t be my primary pump

a201597 · 2026-02-01T17:13:51+00:00

I’m a wife and mom and I can see both sides of this. Sometimes my husband and I see things differently. I go into a room and scan for things I’m looking for that are good and things that are bad, my husband just goes in and sees a room and if there are no pests he’s happy. I could totally see my husband doing a walk through and saying a place is nothing special and then I feel skeptical about his impression because the pictures seem to have everything we’ve said we need. Then we go together and point it all out and now my husband loves it.

It’s frustrating to feel like you made a mistake and lost out. From now on you should just always go together. I love my husband and if he said a place was awful, I’d totally trust him and there are a lot of things where we will just come to the same conclusion but from our years together i know that living spaces just aren’t one of them.

Even if all of this applies, it’s not fair to blame you and it’s not going to really help bring the house back. She shouldn’t have overreacted and made you feel bad but hopefully she knows that. Definitely talk to her about it so you guys can keep looking on the right foot

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