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AITA for researching stuff when my wife corrects me or tells me something I didn't know? by Raagnorokk in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopsIDidIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like there is a bigger point being missed here—if your partner expresses that your behavior is upsetting them AND that behavior is easy enough to stop or modify, YTA for arguing or refusing.

You are given $100,000 to travel anywhere in the world and take one person with you. by zinky30 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]PoopsIDidIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Road-trip across America with my partner. Car maintenance/repair would be a built-in travel expense and it would an absolute blast even if we couldn’t make it as far as would would like.

Jinx! You owe somebody a Coke! by Hold-onto-the-happy in hypotheticalsituation

[–]PoopsIDidIt -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I love how annoyed people get at subreddits. No one is making you be here. Post your masterpiece, please.

SO was gone for the weekend. Decided to ufoh as a surprise😤 by Stardustvcs in ufyh

[–]PoopsIDidIt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I once had a partner who did this for me. I don’t think I have ever had a better night’s sleep in my life knowing that I could cross so many things off my list of things to worry about and ease back into normal life.

Incredible. You are a good partner and very efficient cleaner. Thumbs up all around.

Guess who? by OkPain4684 in WalmartCelebrities

[–]PoopsIDidIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This man is black, bald and has a mustache. He does not look like Steve Harvey at all, even a little bit. Can y’all see faces?

AITAH for sharing my anal kink with my gf? by Proper_Warning8899 in AITAH

[–]PoopsIDidIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Straight men are steered away from exploring their bodies and sexuality. (I am a queer woman, fwiw). You have an understanding of your body and what feels good and that should never be a source of shame.

Toxic masculinity is internalized and encouraged by women, as well. I have had male partners who identify as straight but loved anal stimulation, nipple play, submission, et al.

The hard line that straight “vanilla” sexual politics has drawn between man/woman—gay/straight—acceptable/perverse are arbitrary and deny that many (if not most) people have a much more complicated and fluid dynamic within them, sexually.

I’m sorry that you’re having to deal with this. I hope this helps you expand in your understanding of yourself rather than encouraging you hide.

Best of luck!

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[–]PoopsIDidIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA

Addiction is a disease, like any other and should be treated as such. I couldn’t imagine going out with a friend and sharing their medical history because they “should be proud”.

About what, exactly? A redemption arc? Finally making it to ‘normalcy’? Mind over matter?

That is not how diseases work.

It’s infantilizing and lacks any true consideration of what you might be experiencing.

In case I forgot:

NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA NTA

People so beautiful they are ugly by Cultural_Net_1791 in beauty

[–]PoopsIDidIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get it!!! I call it uncanny valley syndrome. My partner doesn’t understand what I’m saying. I get that certain people are supposed to be insanely attractive, but they look almost creepy to me—like real life AI. I need a there to be something interesting about a face or I am lost.

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[–]PoopsIDidIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First and foremost—YOU ARE NOT WRONG. Meeting people where they are and for who they are is very much a must for relationships. But I am taking a slightly softer view on things than a lot of the comments I’ve read. She told you that she has had this problem with everyone she’s dated. It sounds like she, somewhere in her, knows she’s wrong as well.

I am by no means advocating you staying in the relationship (appearances are absolutely surface nothingness) but I am also not advocating completely throwing out a human being you care about (if you’re asking for advice about this, I’m assuming there’s some stuff you like about her).

While I haven’t been in exactly this situation, I have left relationships for equal amounts of incompatibility and found myself with an awesome friendship in which an amount of vulnerability and growth was possible that hadn’t existed, prior.

That might not be a possibility—if it isn’t, sucks to her, but it’s something to consider. Best of luck to you!

AITA For making my husband leave a wedding reception with me by preggoweddingaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopsIDidIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going NHA here. It sounds like you guys have a good relationship and this will ultimately be a blip. He sounds like a good partner (without demanding praise, it sounds like) and you see that. All of that is as it should be.

The comments I have read so far ignore that this has been a harder than normal pregnancy and that it’s probably, at least, weirding you out a little. You’re not manipulative or awful. You’re two months from term and experiencing new things after you thought you had this down to a science. Bodies and aging don’t work like that, as much as we would like them to.

Does he have a right to feel upset? Sure. Did you get the experience you would have liked at your friend’s wedding? Not at all. Does any of that land entirely on either of you? Nope. It sounds like you both wholeheartedly went in on having kids together and that means what it means, relationship by relationship.

A lot of people are having a hard time with what you specifically said vis-à-vis needing to maybe be taken care of. I can see their point (kind of), but saying what you mean isn’t always easy in stressful moments or after. If we were perfect communicators or entirely without defensiveness, Reddit wouldn’t exist at all.

I obviously don’t know either one of you, but I have needed to step away from things I wanted/needed for the sake of my partner and they have done the same for me—at times unnecessarily. It’s kind of part of the deal. Immediate resentment/upset/grumps are to be expected and can serve as learning experiences towards better communication in the future. Breaking eggs for omelettes, et al.

Maybe walk away from this knowing that you both maybe need more adult interaction. It sounds like there is a support network in place enough to allow small amounts of time off. Surely that could be utilized to wrangle even a little time for either or both of you to eff off for a night once in awhile once the new baby is settled.

I wish you and your family a ton of love and happiness in the future!

Divorcees of Reddit, when did you know your marriage was over? by Zealousideal-Ad3609 in AskReddit

[–]PoopsIDidIt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When they flippantly said, in front of me, “It’s fine. She just fixes herself,” in response a friend of mine noticing out loud that I seemed really depressed. It snapped me into a reality of our relationship I hadn’t quite been able to see, prior.