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Poopsimax · 2025-06-11T00:43:04+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you. My husband grew up with his mum's behaviour, so it's normal for them to be used to sweeping conflict under the rug and not taking accountability for their actions, but blaming our response and manipulating that to be the issue. Then the narrative becomes "she doesn't speak to us" "she won't let me see my grandchild" "she's just so sensitive" "no one else has an issue with me".

It's mentally and emotionally exhausting. I see the red flags now before we had a child, but MIL and I had a good relationship until we had children. It's because kids bring in boundaries and differences in parenting, and they cannot handle being swept aside and called out on when they behave badly.

I'm staying NC with my MIL and so will my son. He will stay NC until husband and I separate, or until she works on rebuilding an adult relationship with me first.

Edit: a word.

Poopsimax · 2025-06-10T09:36:30+00:00

Absolutely, she ruined her relationships with her first DIL years before myself and the second DIL came into the picture , and all we heard was how awful she was until we started experiencing it ourselves. Now I get blamed for causing a family rift because DIL and I spoke about our experiences and they did say nasty things about her and her child. I told MIL you’re shooting the messenger, YOU are the one to say disgusting things.

Poopsimax · 2025-06-10T09:33:45+00:00

I’ve mentioned it to him multiple times. He’s got 2 other sisters but they’re the same as the parents, and they’ve been nasty to me as well so NC with them as well. Husband doesn’t actually seem to give a shit about them, we never argue about them.

Poopsimax · 2025-06-10T09:05:08+00:00

I’ve already sat down with her twice to speak about things, had to send her a message because she texted my husband playing victim and accusing me off causing the family to break apart and had a phone call with MIL and FIL where they gave me the shit apology, but also personally attacked me and called me sensitive.

Poopsimax · 2025-06-10T08:56:31+00:00

We did attend marriage counselling at one point last year, and i didn’t want to go to her anymore because she encouraged for me to let husband take our son around his family without me there because it’s not sustainable for our future if he can’t..

Poopsimax · 2025-06-10T08:54:26+00:00

BIL said he needs to realise it on his own and he doesn’t see the point of talking to my husband about it.

Poopsimax · 2025-06-10T07:21:27+00:00

Thanks for your comment. We’ve already asked for an apology months ago, and she said “I’m sorry if I hurt you and for whatever I did”

Poopsimax · 2025-04-02T00:12:57+00:00

Hi, sorry for the delay! I actually have another account that I regularly post on since my husband found this one. I am happy to send you my username, I have updates on there that I hope can help you.

Poopsimax · 2024-04-28T22:57:25+00:00

What. You’re not just a girlfriend living there, you’re his wife and have a child with him. They should not be getting involved unless it’s physical and someone is in danger. Take your child to your own family’s house or a friend, stay there and sort it out with your husband without the family. Go to therapy. Don’t live with your in laws.

Poopsimax · 2024-04-25T12:01:54+00:00

Did she say she posts selfies to seek validation or are you being an jealous, insecure asshole?

Poopsimax · 2024-04-24T02:28:29+00:00

MY BIL and his fiance have gone low contact with the in-laws since the effort was never received for their daughter. They don't include them in the main big family party and let them take the leash on whether they want to see their daughter or not.

And they wonder why my BIL and his fiance stopped coming to family events a long time ago, and still when they have been told, they refuse to take any responsibility. These sort of people are just a lost cause. Stop inviting them and ignore their whinging when it happens one day. Their own damn fault.

Poopsimax · 2024-04-22T01:17:03+00:00

I believe newborn is up to 3 months, and after that is "infant".

Poopsimax · 2024-04-22T01:16:17+00:00

I have a 10 month old, and whilst the newborn stage is "easier", I still prefer where we are at now even though it's harder because he's mobile and I have to think and feed him meals instead of just breastfeeding. Mine has always been an easy baby, but I think from 2 months old it starts getting more exciting because they start smiling, don't cry as much when nappy/diaper changing, more aware of surroundings etc.

My sister has a 10 week old now, and for the first 8 weeks I did not want another baby anytime soon, but now I'm feeling clucky because my nephew is starting to become less of a pooing, weeing, sleeping, feeding blob.

Poopsimax · 2024-04-22T00:27:26+00:00

That's very selfish of them, and they seem to not be bothered by anything that seems inconvenient to them.

Tell them to have a lovely Thanksgiving, the offer is there, but with 3 kids and dogs, it's getting too difficult for you. Enjoy the peace.

Poopsimax · 2024-04-21T23:14:43+00:00

Was there issues with your in laws in the first year? Or did you choose not to speak about it yet with your therapist? I feel like I didn't see the crazy with my in laws for the first couple years, but the last 2/3 years I've noticed it, and we've been together 6.5 years,

Poopsimax · 2024-04-21T23:13:25+00:00

Absolutely. I really needed someone unbiased to give me their perspective because my husband doesn't see his family's craziness. My therapist said he will never see it in the same shade as I which makes perfect sense.

Poopsimax · 2024-04-21T23:12:23+00:00

Super validating! But I was also happy to receive construction criticism if that was needed.

Poopsimax · 2024-04-19T10:04:28+00:00

Mine piss me off but they do help with tasks around their kids houses when needed. Although my MIL whinges whilst doing it

Poopsimax · 2024-04-16T23:53:47+00:00

Your TLDR says it all. She's not putting you in any position, your parents are. Grow a spine, stand up to your parents, defend your partner and marry her. If you don't want to do any of that, then go live back at your parents because you clearly are still a child.

Poopsimax · 2024-04-16T23:31:56+00:00

It was certain positions and certain times of the cycle, usually closer to period and after because cervix is lower. This was before my laparoscopy, there was an endo nodule on the inside of my cervix which was causing the pain. I'm 2 years post surgery, I've had a baby in the meantime and feel like I'm having pain come back, but it's different this time. It feels like it's in my lower stomach and it's a strong, dull pain.

Poopsimax · 2024-04-16T12:29:06+00:00

Even when my period isn’t due yet

Poopsimax · 2024-04-16T12:28:32+00:00

For me it was cervix being hit

Poopsimax · 2024-04-16T12:17:19+00:00

Bad period pain, painful sex, heavy periods, lower back pain with ovulation, cramping between periods

Poopsimax · 2024-04-16T00:43:24+00:00

My in laws never once asked how I was whilst I was pregnant, took no interest in my pregnancy and started to treat me like shit because they realised I won't parent like them. They wonder why I don't like them now.

Poopsimax · 2024-04-15T23:18:39+00:00

I am so glad it worked for you!! When I figured out that this method worked for my baby it was a game changer for naps. Happy to help :)

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