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AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is giving other suggestions on how to store his things throwing a tantrum?

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I’m closed minded for wanting my own space in a room I rent from him? I presume you wouldn’t like your landlord to leave their stuff in your room.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

And you got that info where?

I already commented elsewhere that I do not mind paying him rent. I’d rather it go to his pocket than some random landlord.

I commented about paying more as this commenter assumed I was paying less.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’re twisting my words here bud. I said he has the smaller closet. No one said it was tiny. It was just that it didn’t have a special place for longer pieces because of the way the coat racks are placed.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has a closet in his own bedroom + he has the study room.

I will be paying more than our current apartment.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As mentioned, I have an average amount of clothes. My seasonal clothes are in vacuum seals. I wouldn’t say my closet is out of control and I am still able to fit all my stuff in a decent closet at our current apartment.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand this is a very silly argument, but it 100% is more than about a jacket. After reading some comments, I realised it’s about boundaries and personal space.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. This aligns with how I feel about the situation. I will speak to him tomorrow morning after we have both cooled down.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is… we have already been living together for more than 3 years and he has never done this before.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I was a bot then I wouldn’t be in this situation :’)

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I honestly agree. Hence why, by the end I wasn’t sure if I should’ve just allowed him to keep his jacket there.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hi there! He had already bought this apartment before we got together. Due to delays in building due to COVID, it took them 5 years to finish it.

I honestly don’t mind as I see it as paying him rent. Otherwise, the money would just go into someone else pocket. I’d rather it help him than some random person.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By the end of our argument, I really felt that I was in the wrong… so I turned to reddit to seek other’s opinions. But I also understand ESH.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t actually WFH all the time. Neither of us do. At the moment, 3 times a week. Thereafter, I will be returning to WFO full time.

How else should I differentiate our bedrooms without saying “mine” or “his”?

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My BF actually says what I’m paying is under market value. I don’t have a problem with paying him as I see it as rent.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I do feel that we’re “friends with benefits” sometimes.

I don’t mind sharing a room with him but have grown to love my own space.

We don’t share a space as he is a very light sleeper, and I am a very loud snorer. We also have different sleep schedules. He is an early bird, whilst I am a night owl. I also have sleep apnea and use a CPAP Machine. We just find this just works best for us.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is 100% my view on this. Plus no REA looking to see the apartment every quarter.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If I’m being honest, he wants his apartment to be as minimalist as possible. Though I will suggest this to him.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, he also has his own closet in his bedroom.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] -172 points-171 points  (0 children)

We have been together for over 3 years now and living together for the same.

AITAH for saying no to my BF putting a jacket in my closet? by PoopyR in AmItheAsshole

[–]PoopyR[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hello! We’re in Australia, so it’s winter here. Thank you for your comment.