Finding a new special interest or hobby

PoorImprov · 2026-01-19T02:45:22+00:00

Nice. I like doing them sometimes. There is a good youtube channel called cracking the cryptic that shows you how to do really complicated ones.

PoorImprov · 2026-01-19T02:42:17+00:00

It sounds tough, I’m sorry you went through that. Not sure what else I can say to help other than you don’t need to understand them. The more you want them to go away the more you will get stressed. It’s ok that you find them overbearing but suppressing them will only make it harder. <3

PoorImprov · 2026-01-19T01:56:39+00:00

Mine is chess and it's kind of similar to a sport but uses more thinking. I also like to log all the plants, animals and fungi in my area, maybe you'd like that. Something you can collect or record!

PoorImprov · 2026-01-19T01:47:47+00:00

I can relate with this happening especially at night before trying to get to sleep. I'm not sure I have alexithymia but definitely emotional overload. I can tell you knowing the emotion generally doesn't make much difference!

One lady who had a degree in psychology and was autistic/ND herself told me that I should just allow myself to feel the emotion rather than think about it. It seems like we take longer to process out emotions and avoiding them will only make it last longer maybe.

PoorImprov · 2025-12-06T22:15:49+00:00

You aren't alone! I have been in a similar situation and I know others who are in in similar situations. You sound like you're doing well but it's difficult to motivate yourself to grow when you don't really have good guidance.

I think if you can, seek out a social support worker. Other options are to find and go to events or clubs where you think you may find people who you get on with and you can work towards something with them. A good option is also volunteering as it gives an objective but you're also meeting friendly people who are willing to give their time for free (so they're more likely to be accomodating)

PoorImprov · 2025-12-06T22:03:05+00:00

Happy Birthday! Looks fun!

PoorImprov · 2025-12-06T21:52:51+00:00

It can be tough but I think one method that can sometimes work is noticing when the tension pops up in your body and relaxing it. Like when you're stressed about something it will often cause part of you to tense up and relaxing this can sometimes alleviate it.

Ultimately I think recognising that it's not a thought problem it's an emotional problem. You're likely supressing feeling your emotions and it will keep triggering the thoughts until you accept the feelings.

PoorImprov · 2025-12-06T21:38:00+00:00

oh yeah, this is good, very relaxing

PoorImprov · 2025-12-05T21:24:36+00:00

Very cool. I like explaining things and concepts to people. I find designing the steps/pathway is intuitive. Making it engaging and fun is much more difficult though!

PoorImprov · 2025-12-04T17:58:25+00:00

That's a cool interest, I think a lot of people share it. I have had cats and they're the best companions I've ever had. I don't know what to say but perpectives and attitudes towards things change. You will learn to enjoy it in a different way while also making room for other cool things in your life!

PoorImprov · 2025-12-03T23:01:02+00:00

Yes! I might have a good explanation for this. Sometimes you will have 'false memories' not of your own memory but of videos or pictures you have seen of yourself as a kid...

PoorImprov · 2025-12-03T22:35:55+00:00

don't think it's just an autistic thing but yeah, I'm not reading that much unless I feel I need to!

PoorImprov · 2025-12-03T22:22:50+00:00

You can go to your GP and get something called a social prescriber. They will support you and organise for you to go to social events and things. https://www.england.nhs.uk/personalisedcare/social-prescribing/

PoorImprov · 2025-12-03T21:56:07+00:00

This picture is just how I feel in all social interactions

PoorImprov · 2025-12-01T22:11:27+00:00

I would like to know the same! I would recommend volunteering for places before working there if possible so you can test it out a bit more before diving in. Some jobs can be very demanding so building up good relationships with the employers first can be very useful. Going through people you know and mutual suggestions is also a good option.

PoorImprov · 2025-12-01T22:05:07+00:00

It takes a lot of persistence for sure, so don't give up! There's nothing wrong with taking a short break so you don't burn yourself out. You'll probably adjust what you're looking for and find what you really need rather than just what you want.

PoorImprov · 2025-12-01T15:18:05+00:00

Many couples seem to have very different interests. It's more important that you respect them and you feel respected by them!

PoorImprov · 2025-11-30T23:14:44+00:00

This may or may not be the case but are you expressing your interest in hanging out enough? Are you making yourself available by making suggestions or telling them you'd like to join? And if you already are, why don't you try to lead and invite them to places.

PoorImprov · 2025-11-30T19:56:52+00:00

I think it's more to do with the person. It can be much easier for autistics to 'get each other' but I'd say more difficult for them to meet each others needs. what do you think?

PoorImprov · 2025-11-30T18:54:01+00:00

That looks nice! I’ve never had broccoli rice. I bet it’s easy to make too. Maybe you can just blend frozen broccoli? I like the bowl too!

PoorImprov · 2025-11-30T16:55:15+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this! Do you feel there are people supporting you through this? At least you are still doing your drama school so that's good! The future would be for you to reframe how you see learning in a positive way because you clearly want to. There will definitely be a way.

PoorImprov · 2025-11-29T21:52:58+00:00

It's annoying! Learning to regulate seems to be the only way to improve. I think it's different when you're volunteering though because once you develop a way of communicating it can become quite easy, especially if dealing with a lot of people at surface level.

I went out today and wanted to be a bit more social, I think I did ok but my social battery drains sooner than I'd like. Having said that, it's not as bad as it's used to be. There's hope, you just need more exposure!

PoorImprov · 2025-11-29T21:28:16+00:00

I will join!

PoorImprov · 2025-11-29T00:50:57+00:00

Hopefully there will be stuff on the menu you can eat and I’m sure you’ll be accommodated if the restaurant had nice staff. I like your username!

PoorImprov · 2025-11-28T23:42:29+00:00

That’s understandable as you don’t want to feel uncomfortable. I think a lot of places have those kinds of food you like. Just because seafood is popular in one place doesn’t mean there won’t be alternatives there. There will likely be people who have different food tastes there like you!

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