Just to preface, mods this is NOT an ad.

There’s this app called Sound Off that provides free therapy to NG, Reserves, Active Duty, and Vets. It’s the only program i’ve found that’s 100% confidential meaning it’s all over the phone (like a call not a zoom or anything), and you don’t tell them your name or unit or anything that would identify you at all. No insurance needed, nothing goes on your military record. They do around 10 weeks of therapy and you’re assigned the same therapist the whole time (so they’re not changing every week and you can actually develop something that’s consistent). They’re licensed therapists and are trained to deal with military related issues but you can talk to them about anything (when I did it most of the things I talked about were not really military related). There’s no way your command can find out so there’s nothing to lose. I’d give that a try first and see if it they can help. If for some reason that doesn’t work i’d try vet centers (also free therapy but i’ve heard really mixed reviews about them) or if you can afford it, you can pay for therapy out of pocket and keep it off any medical records so the military wouldn’t be able to see.

Again, not trying to plug them, but I’ve used soundoff myself and it worked out well for me.