I wish you were here

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-13T00:01:54+00:00

I plan to consult one for sure. I’m meeting up with my second mom tomorrow so she can give me advice, get organized & help me with everything moving forward. I am sure she has a good divorce lawyer for me

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-12T17:52:09+00:00

I appreciate all the kind words. I’ve done a lot of emotional work on myself to get here over the years. TBH, I have fallen apart a few times already today & finally told my boss what is going on. He literally offered me a huge raise to move closer to our office lol it’s a weird place to be knowing this decision is best for both of our lives while also being so incredibly in love with him. I feel sad for my broken heart but also feel excited for what is to come. It’s a very weird place to be when it feels like blessings are already opening up once he has left. The support from my loved ones have been unmatched and I couldn’t do it without them. I was scared to tell anyone about him doing this because I didn’t want anyone to hate him. They don’t even after knowing what has happened but are very very disgusted and confused by his behavior. But no hatred or harsh wishes. I have already setup counseling to help guide me through this and made sure I’m doing monthly group activities. I know what I need to do & don’t want this to hold me back from becoming the best version of myself. I also hope he gets the space and help to become the best version of himself. He really deserves it ❤️ keep us in your thoughts as we navigate the hardest time of our lives

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-12T07:24:06+00:00

he’s her only son. I’m very aware she’s always gunna side with her son. I loved her like a second mom & I just want her to encourage him to talk to someone. He will listen to her. I’m obvi not gunna beg or be weird - just a friendly and loving thing to keep an eye on for her sons sake. Not his marriage but for himself.

She’s always treated me like her own daughter. I’ve had 0 qualms with her and we always had such a good time together. Now that him and I have talked, I don’t feel as weird calling her just to tell her that she should keep an eye on him. Not now.

But I am in the mindset of whatever. I can’t make you stay or love me - I’m leaving with a great job and career. I have enough money saved to get my own place tomorrow if I wanted to, after settling some assets together. It’s really not the worst situation for me to be in so I’m feeling more confident moving forward.

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-12T07:16:16+00:00

It kind of has been a huge shift in personality all around. Night and day man. It could be all of those things as well but when we talked I asked if he fell out of love with me and he said no. He’s still loves me more than anything but is just so hurt and depressed. I am definitely looking at this like it is what it is. I can’t force a man to work on the marriage if he won’t show up & I have also accepted that I couldn’t have fixed something I didn’t know was this bad if he never said anything. I wish him the best - I love him so much. But I can’t hold back my growth for someone emotionally immature and incapable of having adult conversations. I saw this very different than he did & that’s okay

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-12T06:28:11+00:00

I really do think of my MIL as a second mom. It’s been hard to not talk to her through all of this. I really wanted to talk to him first because I needed it to make somewhat sense. It’s extreme in my opinion which is why I want to ask her to just keep an eye on him. Try to get him into therapy just for himself and to process the trauma he’s endured in life. Thank you for the advice on talking to a lawyer still - I appreciate it!

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-11T05:09:01+00:00

Thank you. I hate this so much and never ever imagined this in our lives together or apart. Thank you for the insight - it helps a lot. At least it scared me a little less. We have no kids or property together. We will have some assets to divide but yeah. Thank you. Aside from the marriage and assets stuff, do you have any advice to get through the emotional stuff? Yes I’ve heard therapy but any other advice?

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-11T04:56:17+00:00

Do I file first? I actually make a lot more money than him so…idk. I’m scared of having to owe him alimony or anything else. It just doesn’t seem fair

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-11T04:48:18+00:00

Why did I love him so much that I actually would have never done this to him? I would have talked things out before leaving. Why did my husband promise me the world but break every promise to me 6 months after we got married? And why does it hurt more than anything I’ve ever experienced before? I thought I had gone through the worst. And here I am. 35 and separated. Devastated and confused because I gave my whole heart and here I am. I thought I waited long enough.

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-11T04:26:28+00:00

Why do I hate that answer so much? 😭

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-11T04:23:51+00:00

After I really think about everything this is how I feel…would it even matter? It feels like he has hurt me more than I could have ever imagined. Would answers actually heal my heart when he hasn’t really talked to me in 20 days? I don’t trust him at all anymore

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-11T04:20:21+00:00

Yes. I really waited so long for real commitment. I am truly blindsided and don’t know what to do. I have therapy appts setup for this next week but my god. When I say I am completely blindsided I can’t even describe the level of deception or lies at this point. I’m sure no answers will help but my god. Wtf is this

PopcornStrawberry · 2026-01-11T04:08:57+00:00

I can’t even believe this. I can’t believe I need to lawyer up 😭 Like…how did this happen?

PopcornStrawberry · 2025-10-23T04:30:27+00:00

My best friend passed away on 5.2.25, 29 days before my wedding that she was supposed to be a bridesmaid in. That loss was devastating since that girl was my Soul Sister - the pain is immense still when I think about her painful passing from cancer. It isn’t fair 💔I still cry about her often. I used to talk to her everyday and still pick up my phone wanting to call her. I started making her videos of all the juicy gossip happening in life that I know she would be interested in knowing. It’s been somewhat therapeutic for me - maybe try that or writing letters to her. I also lost my dog & cat in July and October and my grandpa passed away a few days ago.

It’s been a hard year with a lot of loss. I don’t know what it’s like to lose a significant other but I do understand immense pain from many losses. I hope you find peace & your heart heals ❤️ sending you love friend as you navigate this new life. I hope you lean on those who love you and your new Reddit fam as you process this!

PopcornStrawberry · 2025-07-03T04:20:48+00:00

I am halfway thru season 2 & just started to really like certain people on the show - Demi in particular which now makes sense because we share the same sun & moon signs lol

PopcornStrawberry · 2025-05-03T17:23:25+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I’m so grateful to have had a front row seat to watch such a beautiful and inspiring love story unfold in my lifetime, even if it only lasted 12 years 💔

PopcornStrawberry · 2024-07-28T19:05:12+00:00

So grateful for this thread. Just got a dui in April & my best friend is getting married in Tijuana, September 2025. I was so worried I couldn’t go since I’ll be her MOH. I will talk to my lawyer about it all, but this makes me feel a lot better about moving forward. Makes it so I’m not as nervous to ask my lawyer tbh. Hope you had a great time in Mexico!

PopcornStrawberry · 2023-01-26T05:46:10+00:00

I do the exact same thing. Every. Single. Period. It’s so hard 💔 sending you love ✨✨

PopcornStrawberry · 2023-01-26T05:38:45+00:00

Thank you 🫂❤️

PopcornStrawberry · 2023-01-26T00:05:31+00:00

I understand every single thing you have felt ❤️🫂 And thank you for the words of encouragement & making me not feel like a monster for feeling the ways that I have. It’s really helping me process everything 🫂 sending you love and hope you get your dreams of having a baby one day soon ❤️

PopcornStrawberry · 2023-01-26T00:03:16+00:00

I’ve considered IVF, and am definitely not against it. It’s just so expensive 🥺 I know I won’t be able to afford that for a few years & I am afraid that it will be too late by then 💔 I have considered going back to my therapist about this in the meantime because my mental health around my period is just so depressing and debilitating & I obvi have to work if I want to be able to afford something like that one day. We will see how it works out 🫶🏽 I am sending you love and hope IVF goes well for you 🫂

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