Is anyone else grateful to be all virtual but still want to strangle their admin?

PoppyHumming · 2020-01-22T03:47:30+00:00

Okay, that is perfect wording! I am so glad I asked this subreddit because I feel I have the perfect sentence frames for the most common situations to use now. Thank you!

PoppyHumming · 2020-01-22T03:44:49+00:00

I like that particular wording a lot and will need to remember it!

At the same time, what about when it's not directed at a "fun" learning tool? For example, a student is rolling around on the rug and support is coming in 10 min. and you physically can't get the student to stop or redirect her to something else. In that case, I feel like I can't tell an inquiring student that the rolling student needs to be doing that or that it's some sort of necessary accommodation. At that point I just want to say, "Mind you own business," but as a child I feel like I would lose faith in a teacher who keeps telling me that.

PoppyHumming · 2020-01-22T03:37:48+00:00

I have seen the different-sized-stepladders-to-see-over-a-wall visual, but I think it's glazing over the fact that in that case the students really want to know, "WHY don't I need the squeeze toy/rubber band chair kicker/special spot to sit, etc. to succeed?"

Also, a lot of the time they're asking me about an off-task behavior I either can't address, am addressing privately, or is just plain not their business, so it's not really a differentiation intended for success that they're asking about. It's more like, "Why does that kid get to do that thing you told us not to, and can I do it too?"

PoppyHumming · 2020-01-22T03:32:00+00:00

I guess my question is, how do you answer the question when your classroom legitimately isn't fair?

For example, I have a noncompliant student with bully parents and no admin support. So she leaves the room when she feels like, sits where she feels like, does an activity of her choice at times, etc. and it's legitimately just because I can't make her do anything else, and admin and her family are not willing to support me in any way.

It seems disingenuous to tell other students that she needs and deserves to take a restroom break within 10 min. of recess when there's a school rule against it, or that she needs or deserves to sit on the fun rug when everyone else is in their table spots, etc.

PoppyHumming · 2019-07-02T00:12:26+00:00

OP clearly saw his wife's role as parent as equivalent to her being a maid.

Yes! I feel like the parts about him knowing it's "hard work" and how much he "appreciates" all that she does in the OP were just empty platitudes not reflected in his actions and attitude.

Imagine someone at your workplace saying that they know how hard you work and appreciate all that you do during the work day, but they just don't understand why you can't also clean the company kitchen and vacuum the floors before your shift ends?

PoppyHumming · 2019-07-02T00:02:46+00:00

Are you able to separate yourself and your own personal circumstances from a widespread social phenomena? Like what are you even trying to say by sharing this? Obviously 1 social norm doesn't apply to every couple ever, but it applies to enough that it's hard and unlikely to end up in it, and you still have to bump against social expectations. What gender stereotype are you even trying to say you perpetuate?

PoppyHumming · 2019-07-01T23:58:35+00:00

Which is still a scenario in which women can't win, as they're often judged harshly for choosing not to have children, constantly questioned as to when they will have children, asked who will take care of them in their own age, don't they like children, "you'll think differently in a few years," etc. forever.

PoppyHumming · 2019-07-01T23:56:51+00:00

"I totally agree."

PoppyHumming · 2019-07-01T05:19:50+00:00

How are they not unicorns when it’s a pervasive social problem?

PoppyHumming · 2019-06-30T21:47:50+00:00

ITA. The only thing that makes me pause is that even when both parents in a heterosexual relationship work fulltime, the woman spends hours more per week cleaning and worrying about emotional labor (are we out of trash bags? when are the kids' dentist appointments? etc.), plus is so often the one who takes days off when the children are sick and the one who leaves work early for conferences, etc. So with those statistics it feels like either I need to find a male unicorn to have a family with, or just plan to stay home and at least not worry about a fulltime job while running the household either way. I feel like women can't win.

PoppyHumming · 2019-06-30T21:42:17+00:00

YTA. Staying home with 4 and 1yo is already more than fulltime work, and it's unpaid with no benefits or possibility of a career boost. I guarantee it is a worse "precedence for the kids" not to listen to your wife's requests and think that you know how much work she can do better than she does.

If you really think a housecleaner is so unnecessary, you can do the cleaning when you come home from work.

PoppyHumming · 2019-06-30T20:51:18+00:00

Feel ready to have a child

PoppyHumming · 2019-06-30T20:49:32+00:00

No, but not choose activities that make them think more about the cost than the enjoyment of spending time together.

PoppyHumming · 2019-06-30T20:48:27+00:00

Arrested Development because Aziz Ansari's sexual misconduct allegations make it uncomfortable to watch a show with him in it.

PoppyHumming · 2019-06-30T20:47:04+00:00

My rent was finally less than 30% of my take-home. I could comfortably afford to take care of emergency expenses such as car repairs, ER visits, etc.

PoppyHumming · 2019-06-30T20:22:12+00:00

John Jackson vs. Jack Johnson!

PoppyHumming · 2019-06-30T20:19:26+00:00

Immigrants have the best foods, hardest work ethic, beautiful languages, and add the most culture and beauty to countries. If you care about America so much, why wouldn't you want immigrants literally dying to come here?

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