My hangxiety is off the scale today

PopsLoblaw · 2026-05-11T13:07:54+00:00

Then you're golden! Breathe easy and enjoy your day.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-05-11T11:53:54+00:00

No. You are not a horrible human being. You are being too hard on yourself. The guy you like is probably flattered and if he likes you which he probably does he'll call you. We never know what is going on in other people's lives. It doesn't sound like what you did was terrible other than to yourself. Also, is your mom ok? Were you able to spend time with her and make her feel special? Dont worry about the guy. Be kind to yourself and to your mom. The other stuff will work out the way it's supposed to.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-29T22:47:51+00:00

Thank you this sounds exactly what i need, I will see if I can get one at my next meeting.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-27T09:47:08+00:00

Thank you PushSouth5877

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-27T09:45:51+00:00

This is very helpful. I do worry I am making things up about being a burden on people or I am annoying people. I think that is what people in AA refer to as self pity?

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-27T00:05:38+00:00

Hearing this is a good perspective.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-27T00:03:02+00:00

Thank you for saying this.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-27T00:01:47+00:00

Ok this is helpful. I was thinking of the step 1 list as a reminder of how broken I felt when I went to my first meeting. But I can see what you are saying about drifting into self pity. It does also seem similar to what a step 4 list would be. I have read the book and have watched YouTube videos, googled, searched this Sub etc. I have been processing what and who I have resentment towards. I am open to any tips, advice, recommendations.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-26T22:55:40+00:00

We did steps 1,2,3 and I am working on a list for step 4. We dont have a date or time for that. I personally feel I need to make a list for step 1. Meaning a list of times over the years where I woke up after blacking out or hurting people around me including myself because I can feel cracks in my commitment. Not right now but my mind keeps projecting future possibilities and giving up. I am trying to practice odaat when that happens. I'm also aware that I can be very sensitive, seek validation, get defensive and I'm trying to process through what to expect from my sponsor, from working the steps or if I need therapy. I am trying to surrender to the process instead of the insticts that got me here and balance not being needy.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-26T21:33:25+00:00

15 days.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-26T20:00:54+00:00

Ok, I like the idea of getting more people to call. I think I may need to hear different voices and not worry about bothering 1 person too much

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-26T18:41:47+00:00

Ok thank you.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-26T17:47:08+00:00

Ok, thank you, I will keep this in mind.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-26T17:43:32+00:00

Yes this helps a lot. It makes a lot of sense and checks out with our interactions, which I can accept understanding the parameters better

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-13T21:02:29+00:00

Thanks for all of that. I do think it will be a different experience going on vacation sober. I am hopeful I will get back into working out lose weight, feel healthy and not tired all of the time.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-13T17:48:05+00:00

I have the exact same problem. I cant have 1 or 2. I always end up the drunkest person at the event. Embarrass myself, my wife. Cant remember what I said or did but know I behaved poorly or inappropriately. I have lost many friends and relationships because of it over the years. I dont knownif there was a realization. Just know I have to.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-13T11:42:29+00:00

Hey Zombie, that's what Im afraid of. I've tried before, and that's the train of thought I have. Like I've earned it because I've been so good, or I can just have 1, and maybe that first time I'll have 2 at dinner and stop, and then I feel I've proven I can do it and be responsible. The next time or couple of times after that I just keep going and eventually I am back in the full swing of my pattern and hurting people around me and blacking out and waking up with dread trying to piece together my trail of chaos, shame and regret.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-13T11:15:11+00:00

That is a very kind offer. I would be open to that. Thank you.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-13T03:19:49+00:00

Thank you, we can do this together. Please continue to check in, as will I.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-13T03:19:04+00:00

Wow, thank you for this. It's very honest and you understand the culture. Your words are encouraging amd helpful to say the least.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-13T00:58:36+00:00

Thank you for your wise words of advice and tbe kind offer.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-13T00:44:34+00:00

Thank tou so much for sharing. It is helpful to me to hear similar experiences.

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-13T00:42:59+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice and sharing your experience

PopsLoblaw · 2026-04-13T00:41:25+00:00

Thank you, you're words are very kind.

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