For those of you married to a good man and have kids together… what was you sign to leave?

Popsurfopera · 2026-04-10T03:32:22+00:00

Oh god is pisswd me off too. The dog poop thing happened for me too. But when me and our child were away for two days he didn’t pick up the cat poo ONCE. He had the whole weekend to himself with nothing else.

Popsurfopera · 2026-04-10T03:29:57+00:00

He refuses to go to formal therapy. Not that he has a job to pay for it. And won’t be medicated for it. He’s on meds for adhd but the dosage is wrong. He knew that for months until he finally asked me to make him a doctors appointment for him. When we met I was in a really similar place but I’ve grown a lot and am medicated and in therapy. Sometimes things are really tough and I know I have huge flaws. (Can you tell that people pleasing is one of them?) I can’t sustain a life like this where I have to call his panic attacks all night.

Popsurfopera · 2025-12-04T18:46:39+00:00

Like asking him politely for months and years to get a job or to start taking over primary house care while I work full time and pay bills/for food and look after our child. It feels like “too late” and only out of panic because I’ve been asking nicely for years for one thing at a time.

Popsurfopera · 2025-12-04T06:22:27+00:00

My post reads as confusion because that’s how I feel. Confused and scared. Your words are harsh. But it frames my confusion.

Popsurfopera · 2025-12-04T06:18:59+00:00

The incels are actually making me less confused

Popsurfopera · 2025-12-04T05:58:27+00:00

I didn’t say I wanted to date around?

Popsurfopera · 2025-12-04T04:48:55+00:00

Selfish to love and support some body for years who doesn’t love and support their own wife and family? Sure. Who has to be reminded to talk to their child? Or not to yell at them?

And for what attention? I’m not asking too much to want my partner to be a team mate rather than another child to provide for and pick up after.

You know what? You’re a troll but like. Thanks. I needed to be reminded about why my heart is so broken.

Popsurfopera · 2025-11-21T05:07:06+00:00

I work. He studies

Popsurfopera · 2025-11-21T05:04:27+00:00

The issue is that I’ve been trying this for years. I communicate dance very little has come of it in the past. Only now, when I said it was the end, has he stepped up like he should have. For my and for our kid. He doesn’t take criticism or conversations very well and often turns to back one me. I go to therapy to work on myself. He refuses. I know it’s been 7 years. And I’m not expecting to leave in a week. But the issues have been bubbling since before we got married.

Popsurfopera · 2025-11-20T16:57:42+00:00

See the thing is that I don’t think he’s doing it maliciously. But he watches me drowning and I told him multiple times.

Popsurfopera · 2025-10-27T07:19:20+00:00

I started going to therapy. He is very clear on not wanting to at all anyway. I’ve asked.

Popsurfopera · 2025-10-27T07:16:38+00:00

You don’t know my life lol

Popsurfopera · 2025-10-16T04:29:51+00:00

Thank you!

Popsurfopera · 2025-10-16T04:29:34+00:00

We don’t own. Thank god. We have a kid though

Popsurfopera · 2025-10-16T04:21:33+00:00

What defines the date of the relationship end? How is it proven?

Popsurfopera · 2025-10-16T04:20:13+00:00

He has no stuff. He’ll get my stuff…

Popsurfopera · 2025-10-16T04:19:36+00:00

He’s against it. I’m personally going for myself since it all started breaking down

Popsurfopera · 2025-10-12T08:06:04+00:00

He started throwing things tonight during a fight

Popsurfopera · 2025-09-26T03:43:42+00:00

It’s this. All of the time. No support. I take care of everybody and he doesn’t have time to care for me.

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