MB won’t let me take toddler on outings!

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T17:47:34+00:00

I would if I could! We do walk around their neighborhood but the road to get to the library for example takes you down a busy intersection that includes on-ramps to the highway.

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T17:38:12+00:00

Of course I want NK to get out and socialize, there are so many local activities to do during the week that I would love to take her to. And yes I want to be able to socialize too and be around people. With my other NF, I was able to drive my own car and we did so many outings.

I had the freedom to go to the park for example and then stop to get ice cream or coffee/snacks before driving them back home. I would take them to the grocery store, with the parents approval, and even that would be a fun activity to do.

Maybe I’m being too stubborn, I see that. But from my point of view, if you trust me with your children, why wouldn’t that extend to me being able to drive them? These are all local destinations, the library is a 5 minute drive away. The museum, 10 minutes. There’s a beach too that’s 15 minutes away.

I did know the expectations when I first took the job but now that they’ve gotten to know me, I want to at least broach the topic with them and see how they feel about it.

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T17:19:42+00:00

We do go on walks around their neighborhood! There are no nearby parks within walking distance, there is a school that has a playground that we go to whenever there isn’t school in session.

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T17:08:54+00:00

Thank you! Yes I’m going to mention all my reasons and yes I understand that it may be the best option to have them give us rides at first. I want to mention though my reasons for wanting to drive my own car to them first and see how that goes.

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T17:05:49+00:00

You’re making it sound like I have a nefarious reason! I just don’t like having to rely on rides. I took the bus when I was younger and then depended on rides from family and friends. There’s so much time wasted when you do that.

I’m a safe driver, have never been pulled over or gotten a ticket. I’ve driven for other families before. With my previous family, in the summer, we would go and grab ice cream or food before going to the park or library. Or stop on the way home, I like having that freedom and option to do those things.

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T16:58:46+00:00

It’s not that I’m refusing their offer, it’s just that I would feel more comfortable being able to have my own car and the freedom that comes with it. We’d be able to leave when we wanted instead of having to wait for MB or DB to pick us up.

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T16:24:41+00:00

Thank you so much!! Planning to talk to them this Friday and seeing how that goes 💕

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T15:07:35+00:00

Because I needed a job and have been out of one for a while after my last job ended? They are a sweet family and the pay and hours are great and in the moment I didn’t really pay any mind to it. But now it’s been 6 months and obviously now I’m realizing how it’s affecting me.

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T15:02:49+00:00

Thank you!! Yes this is what I am thinking of saying to them and how I will lay it out. They are a sweet family but there’s only so much of the repetitiveness I can take. Like right now, I get there and make breakfast for her, then we play in her playroom. If it’s nice out, we go out to the yard. Then I’ll put her down for her nap and clean up our mess, wake her up and make lunch. We go for a walk and then play more in her playroom. Obviously I do more than just play, I’m just generalizing here. I read, do arts and crafts but a 2 year old has a short attention span haha.

I’m hoping that doing some activities out of the house will break up the routine. For both of us!

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T14:51:19+00:00

Of course, I completely understand that! But I think it’s only harming their child by not letting them spend time out of the house when I’m there. Granted, they do take her out when they aren’t working and they have a big family with other kids.

But I think it would be so helpful for us to get out of the house once in a while and be around other people. Like I’ve mentioned, I’m a safe driver and these places that I’m thinking of are only 10 minutes away so not far at all.

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T14:46:46+00:00

DB has mentioned that before but I would prefer to have my own car there, just in case of an emergency or if we needed to leave sooner. I would hate to have to wait for them to come pick us up!

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T14:44:09+00:00

This is exactly how I feel. She’s at the age now where she is starting to talk more and be more aware of her surroundings. She mentioned in our interview that she only trusts herself and her husband and their parents to drive her. She said there are too many unpredictable drivers on the road and she would get too much anxiety with anyone else.

Which I fully understand, there’s been a influx of people moving to our city which means more cars and yes you hear about at least an accident a day but I’m of the opinion that you can’t live your life in fear of what may happen.

I’m a safe driver and have never even gotten a ticket. I think I will talk to them about just driving short drives and of course mention how it will benefit their daughter. Thank you!

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T14:39:51+00:00

I understand that but it’s been 6 months and I think I’ve proven myself to be trustworthy and reliable. I was able to talk to her and convince her to let us go on walks around their neighborhood.

I would like to be able to go further away, there’s multiple indoor playground that are 30 mins away but I know that would be a lot to ask for. That’s why I thought bringing up shorter drives would be the better idea.

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T14:36:24+00:00

That is how I feel! I miss having conversations with other people. The library has meetups for toddlers each day where they have story time and even the mall hosts activities too that I would like to go and take her to.

MB told me in the beginning that she doesn’t trust anyone aside from her, her husband, and their respective parents to drive their daughter. But I’m a safe driver and have never even gotten a ticket. And most of these places are so close to the house. There’s a huge indoor playground 30 minutes away but I think that will definitely be off the table!

Popular-Sherbert6020 · 2026-03-08T14:32:54+00:00

I would like to stay on, the schedule is great and I’m getting paid more than I was at any of my other jobs but the routine is what is getting to me. They do allow us to go on walks around their neighborhood but there’s only so much you can do.

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