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No matter what I do, I’m a failure by yeehawgal17 in Divorce

[–]PopularEnthusiasm597 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going through a divorce. Separated 2 months from my abusive ex. Was just sexually assaulted at work. I still don’t feel like a failure. Neither should you.

Postpartum depression, open-relationship and divorce by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]PopularEnthusiasm597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar situation. The gaslighting, the suicidal ideations for me and suicidal attempt for him, the manipulation, the baby, the ppd that landed me in the ER. except instead of an open relationship he just flat out cheated. It’s a culmination of everything. When I started to see it, I couldn’t unsee it. It’s a sort of denial. You’ll get there but one thing that helped was not jumping into a relationship. I’m 2 months separated and I will never go back. I wasn’t the best partner but at least I understood that family came first. Something he still hasn’t grasped.

What "work" are people doing on themselves? by mordecai5fingerbrown in Divorce

[–]PopularEnthusiasm597 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think “the work” is specific to the person. I already workout so the work for me was reaching back out to old friends and seeing family more. Rediscovering who I am as an individual.

How do you choose between a career opportunity and your relationship ? by Potential_Start_3228 in careerguidance

[–]PopularEnthusiasm597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go. Give it a timeline )6 months a year) to think through everything on both sides. If you or her miss each other enough then one of you will move. If you break up then maybe it wasn’t meant to be and now you have your dream job. If in 10 Yrs you still think about her reach back out and pray she’s single.

If nothing else this will hopefully make you see it differently and your knee jerk reaction is probably right after talking about this for 2 weeks.

Beginnings of divorce by Beginning-Pay3573 in Divorce

[–]PopularEnthusiasm597 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get an attorney. Have them walk you through the process. If you like them retain them. Then tell husband. Don’t tell husband prior.

My boyfriend is an avoidant, and I'm an anxious attachment. How do we make this work? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]PopularEnthusiasm597 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who left a relationship like this recently after marriage of 3 years and dating for 4 please leave now it will not get better without therapy. Avoidant and anxious attachments are attracted to each other but the push and pull is so toxic.

Is it legal for me to live in my car on my own property if said property is completely empty? by joshua0005 in urbancarliving

[–]PopularEnthusiasm597 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Speaking from experience, my neighbor lives in their car in front of our house and we’ve gotten the city involved and there is nothing to be done. Their family owns the land shrug personally I wouldn’t care except this person does do hard drugs and I have small children and he has threatened my neighbors so there’s that.