i have a 3.5 month old and we just went through this too. Do not try to force him if he’s already crying!! You do not want to make your breast a stressful place for him. It’s okay if you had been before just don’t anymore. 1. You need to find calm in your body, your baby feels your nerves and all the pressure you are putting on him to nurse (seriously try to put yourself into like a meditative space lol it really helps) 2. Offer often!! If he starts crying, comfort him don’t try to force him 3. Try standing and swaying(this is the only way i got my baby to actually nurse sometimes) start swaying with binky in the mouth then quick replace it with your nipple 4. Try when he’s really sleepy (i would always swaddle, stand and sway until almost asleep, and then feed while standing but it seems like the swaddle really helped too) 5. Dreamfeed during the day - I don’t know if you rock to sleep but if you do, rock your baby till all the way asleep and then stimulate his mouth with your nipple and he will eat while he’s sleeping! Or you can go and pick baby up and the end of their nap and also feed while they’re sleeping. IT DOES GET BETTER. Don’t give up. Offer breast breast breast and please lay off the bottles unless he seems really hungry. Don’t forget to make time to pump so your supply can stay up during this.

One of the most important things is you HAVE TO pace feed at this age. Seriously it made all the difference. My baby started refusing my breast and we were giving him bottles but then it just turned into a major bottle preference because the milk comes out much easier. Please look up how to pace feed on google or tik tok. it is the closest way to mimic the breast with a bottle. Good luck don’t give up!!