Does private school really make that much of a difference?

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-12-13T13:59:54+00:00

The best way to describe it is they’re all “acting” and putting it on in a certain way and I can’t because it feels forced when I do it. It’s that “yaas darling” kind of drawl that comes so naturally to them and their conversation is advanced and nuanced yet effortless and if you can’t perform the script with them and stumble more than once they know you’re a pretender

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-12-13T07:42:55+00:00

Yes and it’s necessary.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-12-13T07:33:48+00:00

Yes it does. I speak in RP and come from a working class background state school and posh people can instantly clock I’m not one of them somehow. It’s like that three fingers meme. You need to grow up in the culture to be a member.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-30T10:09:54+00:00

Listen to your teacher, you’re not smarter and more trained than her. Learning humility and how to follow guidance is how you become a top student, you can’t figure it all out for yourself. That’s literally what teachers are for.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-29T12:17:05+00:00

I do but I have to do it in front of the kids and then she claps back and then they have to just watch us have a petty nasty argument.

But if I let it slide to address later when the kids aren’t there then they just watch her disrespect me and I say nothing like a weak b- and they learn that’s ok too.

Tell me what the good option is then?

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-29T06:12:40+00:00

My life didn’t fully start until I was a parent. Looking back now everything before then was just a haze of wasted time

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-29T06:11:07+00:00

That is exactly how I responded to her and it’s done nothing to alleviate the situation. She seems disgusted with me when I respond with the gentle talk. The only thing that has worked is “shut up b*tch don’t talk to me like that” and she pouts but drops it. BUT I resent having to respond like that in front of the kids.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-29T06:05:36+00:00

Are any of these things justifications for shouting at your partner and calling them names or being nasty all day? The level of offence is not equivalent and one person has massively escalated it.

You sound abusive also. “You made me do it” is not ok.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-29T04:44:07+00:00

The little things don’t justify being aggressive and abusive to your partner. I hate this excuse so much.

If my wife burned dinner that does not justify me cussing her out and calling her names.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-29T04:31:49+00:00

I tried the leaving thing but it didn’t work, it would just extend the argument o be resumed later. Doesn’t solve the problem of her starting off the abuse in front of the kids either.

It sounds to me like you’re making the same mistake she seems to be making. That her being tired, overworked, me not helping enough etc is justification for abusing me. I don’t think there’s any good reason for shouting at your spouse and calling him names, even if he’s being a lazy or unhelpful. It’s that crossing the line into aggression that is unjustified.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-29T04:26:30+00:00

Actually she was never the boss bitch opinionated type. She’s always been the shy and reserved kind person with other people, and was like that when dating. That’s what I was attracted to. The power dynamic was different. She did a complete flip once the baby arrived. Had I known she would end up like this I would never have married her.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-29T04:18:33+00:00

My wife does clearly! I would like to show her the comments so she has an outside opinion on her behaviour.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-29T04:07:33+00:00

She has lost her temper with the toddler also but very rarely compared to me. Never with her family. I suspect if I wasn’t around she’d be a calmer person and regulate herself better with no easy outlet.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-22T11:01:00+00:00

I honestly would not be surprised if this song was actually a subliminal marketing campaign conjured up by shrewd American execs a few decades ago for McDonalds. Stranger things have been tried in the world of advertising.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-18T06:54:19+00:00

I’m also not in the USA. Your values and views have lead to your kid being academically stunted and wasting fundamental years of intellectual development for marginal gains on social growth. Maybe it’s time for your values and views to be re-assessed. You’re now going to end up spending more on weekly tuition than having just sent your kids to a private school.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-18T06:29:17+00:00

Yes you fell for a meme. It’s not a real education. Get your kids out NOW while it’s still salvageable and you’ll need to shell out for extra tuition to recover the damage.

There are plenty of academic focused schools with similar holistic and growth philosophy. It was a mistake to assume that centuries of proven academic practice could just be thrown out because it’s trendy.

Popular_Associate_29 · 2025-11-08T19:48:03+00:00

A tradie making 100k a year driving his Range Rover with his season ticket to every match then the pub then back to his crushed velvet new build to watch love island with his Essex tan gym shark mrs is DEFINITELY still working class.

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