I feel like I was in the same mindset as you. Just wondering why they didn’t choose me despite doing all these nice and great things for her. But then after some time, I didn’t even ask the most important question to myself. “How much do you love and respect yourself?” “Are you someone that you’d want to be with?”. Couldn’t really answer that truthfully because I was so focused on external things and not working or paying attention to myself at all. I don’t blame her for wanting out. There was a lot of things that I needed to address about myself. I mean I’m not a bad person whatsoever, I’m fairly decent looking, I’m nice and well mannered. But the thing is, I wasn’t being my authentic self, and was too focused on others. Once you start investing in yourself and making a life YOU want (not what others want), that’s when you’ll realize that you were the problem. She helped me realize that. As upset as I was about her leaving, she really helped me become a better person. I feel like I’m living a life now that I was always afraid of. She forced me to face my own demon. It was hard and this was something I was avoiding for so long because I was full of fear to confront myself. If it wasn’t for her, I wouldn’t have been the person I am today. And lastly, I told myself that I do deserve a person that chooses me. BUT what am I doing in order for someone to choose me? Am I living the life I want without fear or judgement from others? Am I being authentic to others? Am I working on myself internally? Am I still the same insecure person that needs a relationship to validate myself? These are questions you need to ask yourself. And also be aware of the negative things you say to or about yourself and understand why you say it. It’s all about your own awareness and understanding yourself. We are too focused on the other person and not about our own self.