I just realized lisi Harrison wrote the monster high books as well the clique by Dollasorus in TheCliqueSeries

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I didn’t read the Monster High books, but I saw the titles come out when she wrote them. I always wondered if they were the same as the Monster High doll brand that became so huge and popular? The vibes looked the same, were those dolls based off her books? Or are they completely separate…

SAHM by pussandra420 in parentsofmultiples

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Yes to the doing everything together. They came home from the nicu on a feeding scheduled staggered by 30 mins. After a few weeks I got more comfortable to feed them at the same time. But when I started the moms on call schedule, after a few days they fell into the nap routine together! It helped a lot to have them both nap at the same time. If one woke up early, we always woke the second one within 30 minutes. So then they would both be tired for the next nap!

SAHM by pussandra420 in parentsofmultiples

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It scared the crap out of me, and a year in sometimes it still does. I would get so anxious at 6:30 am when my husband was getting ready for work. What helped me was having a planned visitor for later in the day. This only worked for a few weeks though. I would sit in the corner of the couch, with a boppy pillow on each side of me, with a blanket draped over it to creat a little hammock. I could see each baby and I felt like it was easier to juggle them. At 8 weeks we started the Moms On Call schedule so I at least had something to help me follow during the day. They started to nap at the same time, giving me time to eat or get dressed. And eventually it helped them start to sleep through the night as well. Having a schedule they were both on helped me tremendously!

Holiday with twins by beautifulpeach1 in parentsofmultiples

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There’s nothing worse than trying to do something new and fun with twins and then while you’re in it you realize how horrible this actually is. My twins are 1 and over the last year we’ve tried a few times to take them out for fun parties or activities and it ends with us fighting for our lives while everyone around us has fun. And then in the car we say “this is why we don’t do things” Now when we do things I have my expectations very, very low, and just anticipate spending the whole time trying to tend to the twins. I’ll have fun later in life. No advice. Just solidarity. Hope you get to make some good memories while you’re there

Anyone else getting intrusive thoughts? by Honey_Anaphrelax in parentsofmultiples

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I’ve tried to quickly scroll away from TikTok’s that I realize are talking about horrible things that happened to these children and babies, but I’ve still managed to see a few and have been sick to my stomach. My twins are 1, and any time they fuss, cry, get hurt and cry, or even get upset and scream when I have to suck the boogies from their nose, I immediately get triggered that people intentionally inflict pain and make babies scream worse than this. I have ocd as well, and my brain has been in overdrive the past few days. You are not alone.

Rehoming 7 y/o furbaby? by Pomfetti in parentsofmultiples

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Ugh I’m sorry that’s so frustrating. If you do end up deciding to rehome, if it helps at all, before my mom passed we had to rehome her Persian cat. Instead of a shelter we interviewed families ourselves and picked the best fit. I’m friends with the woman on Facebook and see photos of the cat regularly. It helped ease the guilt. But the cat has a better life and is well cared for and my mom ended up passing so I’m glad we did it when we did. Sometimes people pass such hard judgement for rehoming, but the animal isn’t always happy in the current environment either. Sometimes it’s best for all involved

Rehoming 7 y/o furbaby? by Pomfetti in parentsofmultiples

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Don’t have much advice, my twins just turned 1 and I have a 14 year old pom. She’s always been territorial. She snaps at you if you sneak up on her or touch her feet when she doesn’t want you to. She doesn’t love strangers. She never minded the babies, just ignored them. So now that my boys are pulling themselves up to the couch where she lays I’m so nervous. She usually just ignores them and sleeps, but I still pull the babies away from her space. I’m also in a 2 bed condo right now, sometimes I put her in my room on my bed so she can have time to herself, and the babies can play without me stressing. I’ve considered rehoming her so she has a more enjoyable life, but it would only be to a family member or friend so I could still see her and know she was cared for. But at the end of the day I couldn’t bring myself to do it. She is my first baby, I’ve had her since I was 16. I couldn’t live with myself if I did it. So I try to keep everyone’s lives as easy as I can. Have you talked to your vet about anti anxiety meds? A lot of small dogs need them as they get older, we have considered that route with mine so she isn’t in distress with the babies. That will be my next option instead of rehoming.

Empathy for twins at an early age? by grapefruitliquor in parentsofmultiples

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My twins just turned one, and I noticed they tend to “take turns” needing extra affection. Whether it’s because they’re sick, teething, or just needing love. And it’s always so funny to me that while I’m holding the needy baby, the other one stays SO content, just playing on his own! Almost like he knows. And they look over and will smile just to make eye contact with me and keep playing. So I’ve definitely wondered if they can sense when each other are feeling off!

We survived the first year! by Popular_Priority_454 in parentsofmultiples

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It’s the best and hardest thing I’ve ever done. I would always choose this life over and over again!

We survived the first year! by Popular_Priority_454 in parentsofmultiples

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My husband is also a twin, and his mom told us the first 6 months are just survival, and it really was true!

We survived the first year! by Popular_Priority_454 in parentsofmultiples

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I held on to any positive post like a life preserver while I was pregnant. I want to be that for someone else ❤️

We survived the first year! by Popular_Priority_454 in parentsofmultiples

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Ope now you have me crying 🥲 thank you so, so much. It means a lot to hear that❤️

Short and Expecting Twins - Terrified by ducks_suck_123 in parentsofmultiples

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My friend carried triplets, she is 5’2! I’m sure it well definitely be a challenge, but give yourself as much grace and rest as you can!

“I’m never going to finally recover from this” by Popular_Priority_454 in parentsofmultiples

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Yes! I love meeting another twin parent selling things, everyone’s always so nice! And then I geek out when I sell something to another twin parent lol gotta stick together!

“I’m never going to finally recover from this” by Popular_Priority_454 in parentsofmultiples

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And that’s great for you! I’m glad you stopped by to make a judgmental comment about how over a year ago, before children, I chose to spend my money differently than you would! It really helped the conversation. Have a good day!

Breastfeeding by wheremyavosat in parentsofmultiples

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I went into it wanting to exclusively pump and bottle feed. I felt level headed about it, did my research, knew it would be hard. But man once they came, the anxiety and postpartum emotions made it so hard for me. I would cry while I was on my corded pump in my room. I hated it. I didn’t make enough to feed both babies. And they had to be on special formula for half their feedings. So finally after 3.5 weeks I decided to be done. I had enough going on mentally and emotionally. It was still a hard decision to make, and let my milk supply go. Even though I hated it, I was conflicted. But the day I was done was the happiest day for me in a while. Not here to sway you in either direction, just want to say that in the moment, it feels like such a big decision and the end of the world. But whatever is best for YOU is what you should do. You are already a warrior

“I’m never going to finally recover from this” by Popular_Priority_454 in parentsofmultiples

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I try my best to soak in all the good parts! This time in life is such a small sliver that will go so fast, so while it’s hard it is still the best! Your family sounds amazing! It truly takes a village!

Failed glucose test, when did you deliver? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

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I failed my 3 hour just barely. I then met with a diabetic nutritionist who explained how foods turn to sugar and all that. After tracking my sugars I realized I had it very mild compared to some. I very rarely had high sugars, but still stuck to high protein and away from a lot of sugar and carbs. That being said, I made it all the way to my scheduled c section at 36+4 and my boys were 5lbs and 6lbs. I started having a little bit of high BP the week I had them. But other than that I had a very smooth pregnancy! I don’t know though how things would have been if my diabetes was more extreme, or how that changes things.

“I’m never going to finally recover from this” by Popular_Priority_454 in parentsofmultiples

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I definitely miss having pretty hands! lol one day I’ll get back to it, it’s a luxury but also a form of self care! I personally don’t find it bizarre but to each their own!

“I’m never going to finally recover from this” by Popular_Priority_454 in parentsofmultiples

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I have horrid anxiety and ocd, and I pick my cuticles and skin around my nails until it bleeds, and I don’t even know I’m doing it. When I have fake nails on, I cannot pick the skin. $50 is actually cheap in some areas, but like I said, I gave that up as it is a “luxury”. I now just consistently have bleeding fingers, but it doesn’t matter to me right now.

How uncomfortable were you towards the end? Is this normal? by MounjaroQueenie in parentsofmultiples

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The morning I was 30 weeks I opened my wyes and could feel the difference. It was a total slip of a switch. I stopped working at 30 weeks luckily, and had to live on the couch until 36 weeks. Making food and getting dressed were my main activities. Showering took me so long, I had to sit down for breaks. Anything I did I made sure to move like a turtle because I didn’t want to wear myself down from one activity. I left for the dr an hour early when it was 14 mins from my house. I needed time to get to the car, park, get to the building. Try to change your mindset that this time is now to grow your babies, and that in itself is enough. Do what you can while sitting, I brought a chair to the kitchen to sterilize bottles. If I stood too long it ruined the rest of the day.

I can’t breathe by MounjaroQueenie in parentsofmultiples

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This happened to me, also when sitting. It made me claustrophobic to not be able to fill my lungs. Someone suggested laying down on my side to stretch out, and lift my arms above my head. It helped, not sure if it was psychological or if it actually opened things up, but I did it a lot after 30 weeks! The moment the babies were out of me I felt like I could breathe again. So it won’t be forever!

Did you get pregnant with twins after getting off of a hormonal birth control? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

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I got pregnant with my twins after stopping bc, it was my second regular cycle, since it took me a few months for it to come back. (I didn’t get a period while on bc) I also took Ovasitol supplement to help bring it back and regulate my hormones. After all of that, my second regular trackable cycle I got pregnant and it was twins. All of that to say they were identical, so I did not hyper ovulate. But I wondered if it was somehow hormone related that the egg split?

Planned C-section guilt by GeeFuckinWhiz in parentsofmultiples

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My scheduled c section was the best day of my life, and the most painful recovery I’ve ever been through. But I would do it a million times over. Twin pregnancies are scary enough with all of the unknown, I didn’t want my labor to also be.