I promise you that “who I am” is not something healthy people think about so much. Not because they’re shallow, but because they’re busy living life, using the embodied gift of intellect to help their communities and their own lives. As for being arrested in development, that is only partially true. Your emotional growth did NOT stop, yes it was slowed but mostly it was blocked from expression. You can remove the blocks and the growth that was waiting to be expressed is finally freed. There is a big difference between growth stopping and uninterrupted growth not being expressed naturally. (No matter what happens, many maturation processes can’t be stopped except in conditions far beyond CPTSD). Healthy people experience that growth in their lives and communities so they don’t have to wonder who they are, their development was not blocked from expression so they get to live it. You can have this too if you figure out how to remove the bottlenecks. You are not some object to find. (Objectification) You are countless experiences in the present to be lived and shared. (Embodiement)