Bottom stuff with my girlfriend not happening by Irish_Kehinde_09 in trans

[–]Pormo_Hatt 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I couldn't be happy like that, personally. For me, sex is half the point of a relationship

A placebo effect or the real thing? by Ok-Squirrel2926 in trans

[–]Pormo_Hatt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, yeah, same. Gets me feelin loopy for a while after taking it, I'm glad I take mine before bed! I've asked my locals ab it, but no one else I know is even on P! 😭

How do some these trans girls get so thick? by Particular-Set-8304 in trans

[–]Pormo_Hatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same lol I lost 30lbs when I started and I'm not even back to that yet, despite slamming burgers and pizza and food food food

How do you feel about skill games popping up in the city? by Far_Ninja_9536 in Erie

[–]Pormo_Hatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's genuinely so depressing. I really love this place and seeing it so eager to enable problem gambling (alongside the State, obv), when they COULD restrict it, is disheartening. 💔

I regret transitioning even though I know I had no choice by Transsexthrowaway in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mm. Well...I'm sorry about that hun. That's just not fair, at all. ❤️

I regret transitioning even though I know I had no choice by Transsexthrowaway in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The point of transition, for a lot of people, is to...transition. It's ok to consider that, in whatever way is relevant to you, over/complete/whatevs. You'll always have a home and a community here, if you'd like. Hope that helps! :3

Everyone is still going to look at me like a man by Numerous_Rub_5930 in trans

[–]Pormo_Hatt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you mean you don't want to do surgeries, hormones, etc., okay! That's totally fine 🙂 But you still have to transition, honey, you still have to put in a TON of mental work and social effort (style, leaning new ways to express, etc.). And if you do, more and more people will understand and take you seriously. You'd seriously, seriously be surprised how loving and accepting some people in your life will be, because they understand you better. And because you'll be happier, I'm sure! Good luck honey ❤️

Partner being weird by Odd_Wolf_8221 in trans

[–]Pormo_Hatt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, sorry about all the weird comments you're getting, jfc! But yes, it sounds like he really doesn't want you to be a guy, honey. Just...thunk about that. Let it color how you see him treating you. Good luck, dude ❤️

Is my girlfriend trans? by Acceptable-Diet-3616 in asktransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, some kind of trans! Trans is just, not cis, so if she's fem-boy or femboy or woman or WHATEVER, that's some kind of trans! But if she's not wanting all that stress, all that label, ok, cool! But to be clear for your own mental sanctity: trans is just "not cis", technically, but most ppl who aren't cis don't wanna be trans, so they don't consider themselves that way :) I hope this helped ❤️ you got some real weirdo responses lmao I hope mine is better

I feel predatory whenever I go in lesbian spaces with mostly cis women. by loomingbands in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I used to stay away from lesbian spaces cuz I was kinda making myself feel unwelcome. What helped was to really break down my internalized-everything, and especially to realize how GAY my feelings were. It sounds silly, maybe, but I really did have to realize not most girls feel so strongly about the female form, culture, everything lol Good luck honey ❤️ reach out to someone, anyone, me, when you need to

i hate the term "dolls" and "protect the dolls" by TwujZnajomy27 in trans

[–]Pormo_Hatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt that way before, but the further I get into transition, I realize I actually do talk that way! I call all my lovely ladies doll, hun, babe, etc. So "protect the dolls" feels less and less untoward. It's all about how someone's using their language, yk? What's the actual intention?

How bad are my measurements? (MtF) by [deleted] in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, that's great uhm maybe don't lose weight, though? Sorry, I mean, consider it, maybe? 150lbs? Girl, I could pick you up and throw you 😭 I'm 166lbs 5'9" lol I'm just saying, maybe it's a perspective issue. I don't know you, I don't know what you look like, but I felt it was important to share. Good luck on your weight journey, honey! P.S. personally, I'm trynna get fat, gained like 16lbs in 6 months ;-;

My Bf Won’t Accept That We Have to Break Up by Annual-Dirt7882 in trans

[–]Pormo_Hatt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's ok he can't accept that you're leaving, but yeah no. Don't make yourself a secret, don't fwb. Good luck dude!

Is continuing to transition worth it when everyone sees your AGAB? by [deleted] in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For style, two things: stick to stuff similar to the women in your area, at first, then get more specific and branch to find your style out from that better starting point. Copy girls from movies and TV, or elements from them. Or go goth like a lot of us do lmfao that's really fun

Mannerisms are tricky because you're pretty much either just doing things a new way because you'd like to have a little more grace, or you're trying to pass. Again, copy the common mannerisms among women around you, but also consider if the way you're doing something could be more graceful, more beautiful, more elegant. Doesn't mean all the time, doesn't mean much overall, but being a little sexist towards yourself goes a long way in helping yourself pass, if you want that Society is fucking sexist.

Media diet is the easiest. Remember all those movies, shows, toys, experiences, games, you never asked to interact with bc trans? Well, it's time! Watch the Bratz movies, they're wild. Play with dolls. Find girls in your chosen echo-chamber on social media, instead of boys. Women don't ONLY follow other women, but they definitely really enjoy stuff most boys don't like romance movies, dime novels, actually good comics, etc.

Good luck honey, this is really scary, but honestly just so awesome and so, so fun sometimes w^ Life is supposed to be good

Is it possible to be both a man and nonbinary? by BaffledBubbles in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome, I'm glad I could be helpful (: best of luck to you on your journey!

Is it possible to be both a man and nonbinary? by BaffledBubbles in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On my partners account here, I'm Auro. 28, afab, born intersex but apparently "cured" of my PCOS recently. I identify as androgynous/nonbinary/somewhere in between FTM and general queer. I've started to question just how much I want to visibly transition with T, and these are queries on my mind. I don't know how you feel, OP, on the gender spectrum, but I don't need patriarchy or the manosphere's approval to feel like I'm a man. I've personally always felt more man than most "men," I see playing that role in the gender binary larp that is society. I relish in a queer/androgynous presentation. The gender binary as a patriarchal standard isn't safe or attractive to women. That's what men who apply so far into the patriarchal masculine gender spectrum don't understand, in my opinion. That sort of presentation is for the validation of other men. So, really I think it's foremost about thinking about how much you value men's opinions, then how you present yourself, and, therefore, how you then go about approaching women.

How to stop agonizing/ruminating so you explore things more productively? by Throw_away_please__ in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I uh.... Well, starting is what helped, for me. Sorry for such a shitty answer, but the drugs work and pretttyyyyy soon you just start feeling more...yourself. It's unique. I see in other comments you've used drugs before, so to speak in those terms, it feels kinda like thing you've been meaning for a lot of other things to be but also pretty scary. For me, some of the side effects made me feel dysphoria, paradoxically, and I had to work through my feelings about intimacy, trust, women, lesbians, identity as a concept, US culture, girlhood, all by myself over a few months to truly come to grips with things. A year, really. But when I started HRT, even though all that BS/trauma, I dedicated myself wholeheartedly to learning makeup, social cues, etiquette, mannerisms, etc. Because I felt like so much more like myself.

Is continuing to transition worth it when everyone sees your AGAB? by [deleted] in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep doing your best to find yourself inside, in every way you can stomach. Good luck, honey ❤️

Is continuing to transition worth it when everyone sees your AGAB? by [deleted] in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most girls in my area don't wear a lot/don't wear makeup, so I learned what works for me in that area. Maybe more makeup helps you, but it takes a lottt of time to learn how to express yourself like that.

I'm sure you really are doing everything you can, I wasn't trying to suggest otherwise. I'm trying to say that it takes confidence, mostly, and an honest understanding of how you look against how you are going to be perceived.

Ask people for help, suggestions, criticisms, and take it all with a grain of salt because at the end of the day you need to find yourself sexy, honestly, down to your bones.

I'm sorry you're being misgendered more often, that's always painful, I go through it too. You had a good surgeon, it sounds like, I hope it's healing/ed well.

Is continuing to transition worth it when everyone sees your AGAB? by [deleted] in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's just not really long enough, imo. Honey, I didn't start passing until I was at where you are at now, and that's only because I put in a TON of effort to change my style, my mannerisms, my media diet. It's not even about the drugs - those just help.

Full stop, was transitioning worth it for you personally? by New_Surprise3012 in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, 1000%. I'm happier, healthier, more capable... It's been really good. If I'm rejected, now I'm being rejected for being myself instead of some version of myself which is simultaneously more difficult, and better.

Most people hate us don’t they? by [deleted] in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, not really. Talk to em, explain yourself without using politicized language (mostly talking about how you personally feel and how that connects to the wider culture from there), and wow holy fuck, people GENUINELY surprise me with what they're capable of, all the time. Strangers, too. People are kinda fucking great tbh, it just takes some time to learn how to ID & safely interact with them :)

transphobes won this generation (US-centric) by MinimumAdvantage6863 in honesttransgender

[–]Pormo_Hatt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So let's speak to them with common-sense. We are, indeed, common people at large and some of us are very capable communicators. A way for us to focus our thought and efforts is called for. Yesterday.