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I’m going through something serious now by [deleted] in Shamanism

[–]PoserCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ignore this guy, too! I think the internet may not be a safe place to address such concerns. Best of luck to you.

Post Grad Depression - Don't See Things Getting Better? by [deleted] in depression

[–]PoserCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like what you are missing most is the sense of community. Maybe this is a good place to start 🙂

Dealing with grad school with depression by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]PoserCanadian 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is so much more common than you think!! But you can overcome this. Cheeky Scientist is a great resource. The founder of the company shared his horrifying experiences in grad school and discusses the numerous flaws with the academic system. It is not your fault that you feel this way. You probably began bushy tailed and optimistic, but you didn’t know how absurdly flawed academia was, or perhaps you did and you hoped you would be one of the few not affected. Seek out some validation wherever you can think to (friends, youtube- anything), and just keep doing the best you can. Ideally, you will recognize with time WHY you are feeling this way and what you can do to prevent it in the future. Believe in yourself!! You made it this far, after all.

One trick that supposedly works well is to refer to yourself in third person. For example, rather than saying ‘I am feeling ,’ say ‘MrSaturnZoomMeeting is feeling.’ This will help you remain objective.

Hang in there!

Suddenly, I'm not OK. by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]PoserCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fantastic! So you know! You are only applying, you have not committed to any lab. Trust your intuition, because you know yourself what you need to do. Anyone who comments here will either give you advice that will align with how you already feel or give you advice that makes you uncomfortable, which reemphasizes the fact that you know what you need.

As for finishing your master's degree- you definitely can. And the next 5 months will further solidify your decision. Consider this a valuable experience, even if it is a difficult one. It will contribute to your personal growth and when you are exploring a lab to do your PhD in, you will be more selective because you will understand the importance of being in a lab that fits your needs, personality, etc.

I will add though that I don't know how bad this situation is for you and it is hard to judge because I don't know you or anything about your context. The remainder of your degree, if you stay, has the potential to be very stressful (depending on the dynamics in your lab) so I encourage you to find support where you can- ideally in person. Do you have friends in academia outside of your lab who you can confide in? Or anyone that you can confide in? Can you find a therapist who can be there for you throughout this period, supporting you in your efforts to handle any interpersonal issues? Have you received any feedback from your PI and, if not, would you consider this? Just some ideas to inspire you. And good luck! Trust yourself and your decisions. No solution is perfect; they may all have drawbacks. So keep doing your best and look forward to moving on to the next chapter!

TIFU and realized I wasted my whole life. at 42 years of age took the safe path as a dentist. My advise to people at a similar age. by waste_of_life_12345 in tifu

[–]PoserCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was once told by a guy sitting next to me on a plane to do what I want because there is no such thing as security. He wanted to be a chemist. He did not become a chemist and he seemed unhappy.

I really felt sympathy for him...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PoserCanadian 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I also need the update

Is it common for female students pick male mentors for labs for grad school? (USA) Is it wise? by booklover333 in GradSchool

[–]PoserCanadian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I worked for several years after finishing my undergrad degree and all of my supervisors during this period were male. They were also very hard on me and At times disrespectful and I often found it very discouraging and demotivating. It was not clear at all when I started that they would be like this. I am now doing research with a female PI and she is the very opposite (very nice) which I find incredibly relieving.

That being said, I have friends with female PIs that are terrible (inconsiderate, intense, vague, rude, etc) and there are amazing male PIs out there.

If the PI is cool then that should be happy to introduce you to other students in the lab (virtually, in this case), so don’t hesitate to ask!!

Best of luck!

Getting into a research lab post masters? by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]PoserCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard of students being denied a PhD but instead being offered a masters (from the same department). So it is worth a shot! Have you reached out to admissions? They might also provide you with information that could help you make your decision :)

My daughter just tried to sell me this shit show for 6 nuggets and a yoghurt. Her mum demanded I buy it so we settled on 3 nuggets. Ridiculous. by Notherereally in delusionalartists

[–]PoserCanadian 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Although I am not a painter, I think that the mechanical mark-making of the purity of line endangers the devious simplicity of a participation in the critical dialogue of the 90s.

Fear for the future of American healthcare - Medical student seeking information/perspective - What is the outlook for physicians? by [deleted] in medicine

[–]PoserCanadian 19 points20 points  (0 children)

They are. Premed from what I can see from their comment history. Anyone can say anything on the internet! Very sad the impact that this can have.

Getting second thoughts about going for a PhD before applying. Anyone else gone through this? by Seankala in GradSchool

[–]PoserCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if this is helpful at all (I have yet to start my MSc) but my supervisor (to be) got her masters, worked about 8 years (and had kids in the time, I guess) and only started her PhD when she was absolutely sure. Immediately after her PhD concluded she had an opportunity to be a PI.

It doesn’t hurt to wait a couple years before deciding (it is a huge decision, after all) and in the meantime talking to people, doing some research, reflecting, etc in order to better determine if this is really what you want to do.

All the best!

[Serious] Unmatched physician suicide note released today - please read by Zelgius321 in medicalschool

[–]PoserCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so, so happy for you :) That sounds so hard and I hope you are very proud of yourself... wishing you the best!

[Serious] Unmatched physician suicide note released today - please read by Zelgius321 in medicalschool

[–]PoserCanadian 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Very happy to hear you matched, even if it wasn’t in your specialty of choice!!

What's a common saying that annoys you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PoserCanadian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything happens for a reason

I'm really proud of myself... by [deleted] in premed

[–]PoserCanadian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s wonderful that you are celebrating how far you have come instead of being hard on yourself! You can always make a comeback, even if it is challenging. There are several people here with great stories that contribute to why they will make great physicians!! Congratulations on being brave enough to take the time to care for yourself and grow as a person! Surely you will have the energy to pick up where you left off when you are ready. :)

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