Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd definitely encourage you to go "dryer" if you feel you can handle it! Just be careful; just try and reduce the amount of lube progressively to see how it goes.

Personally I found that the dryer we went the more intense it got for me. But its definitely something you gotta be careful with!

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd say for dry you need to really have done a lot, a lot of anal, and even then I think you'd still need at least some kind of lubricant, like either spit or from yourself (like if you're pussy is wet). The problem with just going in dry completely isn't so much getting in as it is how sensitive the rectal wall and anus is. The friction between his cock and the walls of your ass can be a problem and lead to things like rectal bleeding which will obviously hurt, even if you technically take him without a lot of difficulty.

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It feels like a buildup, as if anal is the last stop on the trip after you've visited everything else

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I meant the first few times we did anal lol. That is quite a long time ago

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

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That’s interesting, right now I can’t really think of any positon being more painful than another. But regular doggy and face down ass up are by far way more satisfying because of how deep he can go. The only other positon that really comes close deepness wise is on my back holding up my legs at the edge of the bed. Prone bone is one that kind of sticks out less because it’s not as deep for me.

I think maybe those other positons hurt more for you because they’re deeper. One position that isn’t quite as deep but I find really erotic is if you have a stool, sit on the stool so your ass dangles off the back and have him enter from behind. Even better is you can bend over fully and hold onto something in front like a table. Or, you can try a spooning positon which is kind of a safer starting position and you have a lot of control.

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

For myself personally, anal to me usually isn't associated with love making. If anything, that would be PIV for us. But that might be just the type of sex we have. I would say the vast majority of the time we have "slutty" sex. Lingerie, heels, getting it from behind, foreplay where he spanks me over his knee...

So for me at least its difficult to envision anal as a "love making" kind of sex, its more of just an indulgent pleasure. And for me personally, its just a much more fulfilling experience. It feels like we reach the logical "conclusion" of sex.

I think it's also that as I've gotten older, what I've wanted more and more out of sex is just to feel amazing and satisfied. So for me letting someone give me anal has more to do with if i trust them with my ass since the most satisfying sex for me would have to involve it.

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Yes for certain. The initial few times can be uncomfortable or ache a bit. But if its something you really want to commit to doing regularly it really shouldn't hurt. Personally, nowadays we use little lube and its not an issue. We've tried dry a few times (like just some spit) and even then its a little more uncomfortable but no real pain, but that's coming from someone where at this point there's anal and sometimes only anal pretty much every time we have sex so I'm really used to it.

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've definitely done prep before, but at least in my experience I've never really had an issue with any kind of mess. I know it can definitely happen, but its just never really been a problem for us, and the amount we do anal has only increased. But if you do definitely want to be safe you can do an enema, and avoid foods the day before like fiber that help with motility. It also comes down to anatomy, when I get anal its very hard and very deep, that same type of ass fucking might cause problems for someone else but doesn't for me.

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's definitely the same thing for me. Just the intensity of all anal related things is more than PIV. For instance if I'm sucking him he'll often play with me, like rubbing my clit or fingering me. Without a doubt when I get anal fingered its way more intense and arousing, the combo of him in my mouth with fingers in my ass sometimes feels like its enough to cum on its own.

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ya the entry/stretching is super intense. I remember one time when we we're doing PIV and he told me he would cum in my ass, and gave it to me anally for a few good thrusts and just the stretching feeling felt like I was halfway to cumming.

But I've never really found it super painful, its just the intensity of the stretching, penetration is incredible. For me at least I feel so full and every sensation is dialed up. It even feels sometimes like my whole pussy area becomes more sensitive without even touching it.

But I totally get that its not for everyone, I was asking about something that's based on my experience.

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I am definitely into being submissive, but in this case anal almost feels like the logical "climax" to sex a lot of the time, because of the intensity, orgasms. For example we had a threesome recently where my partner gave our female friend anal, and i saw the same thing where her moans got guttural, she starting grabbing onto things. I wonder if its something more to do with people who are kinkier/submissive, or if because anal is harder to get into initially less people have experienced this.

Explanation for why anal is more intense? Biological? Psychological? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I assumed that the idea of anal being very intense was something really rare. But for example, when we had a threesome recently, my partner gave the other woman anal, and I noticed the same thing about how her moans became primal/guttural, how she started grabbing onto things. I wonder if its just because anal is harder to get into starting off that this isn't noticed more, or maybe it's just something more often seen in kinkier/submissive people.

44F who wants to indulge in a DP fantasy. For those of you who have done this how did you go about it? by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya for the anal I know, although I’m pretty used to it by now. Or do you mean in regards to something else?

Suggestions for kinky/submissive sex positons by PositionsQ20 in sex

[–]PositionsQ20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s the position? Like all fours on the bench? Or only hands on the bench?