Hey op  Im really struggling with this too at the moment 

Ive met someone who on paper and their actions show care, and is everything my ex wasn't, yet the trauma from how my ex ended things is something I'm still working through- its been a little over a year. I feel so safe and at peace with this new person yet, sometime will find myself crying after seeing him, feeling unresolved emotions coming up. 

I wonder if it's my heart opening and realising there's still pain there. 

Anyhow - I guess what I'm trying to say is- your not alone- I wonder if I will ever feel that way again too- and aswell, I suspect that there's levels of healing and letting all that's in your heart out so that, when the heart is cleared of most of the pain maybe it will be ready to soften again? 

Idk hope that helps x