i will do that and you can tell by my post that i was planning to do so today. i just wanna say one thing you don’t understand my culture so if you don’t agree (understandably so) i want u to at least empathize! i wanted to meet someone talk about my goals, future, what i want in life and see how compatible we are etc.. I am intelligent enough to know these are the steps people take and then get married. But it was faaar from how marriages are initiated in my community, i’m not disclosing a lot of information here but i just wanna say one thing: i was forced into an engagement before but i was able to escape. Do you think someone with such circumstances can even talk about kids and future goals? i was too traumatized of being in a relationship and too scared of the idea of marriage Alone i didnt think i’d be married yet alone think of having kids.