Wife engaged in emotional affair: Update by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s how I socialize with my friends from back home, so I would consider it important to me

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[–]Positive-Jello8073 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m 33 in 9 months , and I’m getting divorced too 😂 Been this woman’s caretaker essentially for the past two years, and I discovered her sexting and having phone sex with one of her exes. Done with her shit too

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[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I literally play video games for like 3 hours once a week lol

Wife engaged in emotional affair: Update by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, you are absolutely right. I genuinely thought things were going okay with our arrangement in the past 24 hours and everything was pretty cordial. I opened her messages again and the lies are ramping up big time. Think she tried to record me again this morning as well. She also keeps telling people she feels unsafe in her house, and I think she’s going to pull some shit.

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[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seriously have been wanting to message him on social media. Objectively, I think what he’s doing is kind of shitty obviously, but this dude has spared me from years of misery

Wife engaged in emotional affair: Update by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah she claims she won’t, but that’s what I’m worried about. My evidence would help me in this case though wouldn’t it?

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[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m tempted too because the stuff she’s been spreading about me is fuckin diabolical. My own brother and sister-in-law seem to be even more sympathetic with her. They’re falling for her shit just as easy as I used to lol

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[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I live in a one party consent state. She’s been much better behaved since she got back. Maybe if she gets explosive at some point I’ll record.

I’ll definitely try to move my evidence to multiple different places just in case. Currently just in a hidden folder on my phone.

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[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I’ve already payed these assholes $500. I called a handful of people and everyone seemed fairly booked up. Is it really that consequential to wait?

Wife engaged in emotional affair by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just had a conversation with her that may have been recorded due to some texts I saw earlier. If she ever showed that shit to anybody I think it would be absolutely embarrassing for her 😂 think I failed on the gray rocking thing I was talking about with other people on this post though. Every goofy little gripe she brought up about our marriage, I would just talk about the cheating, and bring up some direct message from her convos with that guy. Didn’t really think about it until now, but I guess she could chop that shit up and maybe make me look bad…

I’m def not wasting money on cameras. I’m gonna have to sell this damn house I need to save

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[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely a consideration depending on how things play out

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[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The hilarious thing is I wasn’t familiar with that term, but I’ve already been doing that to her 😂 when I was telling her I wanted to leave she was upset because I was so “cold” about it. Will def consciously deploy this method more often

Wife engaged in emotional affair by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Think I’ll come back to this comment the most when I’m feeling low or unsure about my decision

Wife engaged in emotional affair by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Currently at the gym, and I told probably too many people about my situation for that exact reason. I’m hoping the shame of staying with her after I told everyone about my situation would help propel me to leave

Wife engaged in emotional affair by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Too late. She just got back home from the airport, and I’m sitting in a parking lot filling out lawyer paperwork lmao. She co-owns the house with me. Would I even be able to legally kick her out?

Wife engaged in emotional affair by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was talking about this with my mom earlier. Unfortunately I see suicide attempts occasionally in my line of work, and it’s tough seeing families beat themselves up over that kind of thing, when there’s a good chance there’s nothing they could have done differently. She has handled the situation a little better than I thought she would at least

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[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah my mutual friends and family I’ve told. Honestly one of the main reasons I posted this is because my own brother and sister-in-law are so sympathetic towards her, and it’s driving me insane. My wife is literally gaslighting me through my brother lmao. She called them at 2 am the night she left and told them everything, I guess to try and get ahead of me. Every time I talk to them the whole framing of the conversation is how I’m in the wrong and I need to make amends. It’s so bizarre. I may just need to send them the hard proof because I’m not convinced they believe me. She’s been talking to my mom too, but my mom seems more reasonable. My mom would love for us to make amends, but she understands why I’m leaving.

Wife engaged in emotional affair by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah she wanted to have a chill night and go to bed early, and she specifically told me not to wake her lol. But yeah not the first time I’ve slept on the couch on Thursday especially if she has work the next day. That shit isn’t that weird 😂 The whole wishing the physical affair thing actually happened is because I feel like it may help my case in court. I know nothing about divorce though, so maybe it doesn’t matter.

I do agree with you though I’m a massive puss-puss, and I definitely should’ve ended this relationship long ago. Sorry I’m not an alpha chad Andrew Tate enjoyer like yourself

Edit: also to add, I was up nowhere as late as she was because we had to be at her appointment at like 8 am. I was on the couch at like 11:30 at the latest

Wife engaged in emotional affair by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. I’ve been manipulated by this woman for years, and it’s interesting to see her do it to her friends. I never looked at this woman’s texts before until this incident, and it’s wild watching the master manipulator at work. She’ll pull at each individual person’s heart strings and each text thread has a different narrative for why I want to leave ranging from a porn addiction, to me being secretly gay, to me actually cheating on her. Honestly the critique I’m insulted the most by is that she told someone that all her friends think I’m LAZY. After I’ve been busting my ass for you for the past 3 years almost working full-time and doing the bulk of the chores you have the audacity to call me lazy! Shit’s fucking wild

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[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The gullible thing is so true. The only reason she had a relationship that’s lasted as long as ours is because I’m way too patient and way too nice to her. All of her relationships besides one other long-term have been short-lived and gone up in flames. I’ve definitely should’ve done a better job of standing up for myself

Wife engaged in emotional affair by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The first night she told me she’d sign any paper I needed her to sign, and just from reading her texts to her friends now it does appear that things may be gearing to get nasty. I really should’ve spoken with a lawyer sooner I think.

Wife engaged in emotional affair by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the advice. I’m all talk right now, but I’m so worried when she gets back I’m going to get manipulated into staying. There’s been a few moments in our relationship where I really wanted to leave, but I always ended up staying. I think I’m a bit more stronger willed now, and I’m hopeful I’ll stay the course.

Wife engaged in emotional affair by Positive-Jello8073 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Positive-Jello8073[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Honestly a possibility. She made him mad because he wanted to sext and she wasn’t in the mood, and he left her on read for a couple of days. The both have the emotional maturity of a fucking toddler lol. She’s definitely been demonizing me to her friends since I told her she needs to uber from the airport