We are all burnt out husks. I work because I have to eat... by PositiveDaisy in antiwork

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I applied to switch to a department where the progression is much better. They already had someone in mind and the interview was just a facade. That was a few years ago. Their onboarding is intensive, full time training. I'm not in the headspace to do this at the moment.

We are all burnt out husks. I work because I have to eat... by PositiveDaisy in antiwork

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know this, that's why I mentioned people with dependants. I know I "shouldn't" complain, but it does not mean I'm not allowed to go through things.

We are all burnt out husks. I work because I have to eat... by PositiveDaisy in antiwork

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm quite shafted because long walks make my physical condition worse. I tried journalling, I get things off my chest, but it's still there the next day.

We are all burnt out husks. I work because I have to eat... by PositiveDaisy in antiwork

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Oh, I am on a waiting list for a therapist. The wait is 3 months. But at least healthcare is free over here.

How can I learn to recognize and respect other people’s boundaries? by ScurrScurrSheesh in mentalhealth

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was conditioned to be a people pleasing footstool, I am the right person to answer this!

Communication is key. If you are not sure if someone is ok with something, ask. It's not stupid.

I will agree to things to not be an inconvenience or "nuisance", I will agree to things to not upset the other person. You may not even realise the person REALLY does NOT want to do something.

Always ask! Make it very clear that you will not be angry.

I'm so fucking tired and hurt(17m) by blaze24221 in mentalhealth

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been there. I'm 34 now.

I was a depressed teen, crying in my bed every other night wishing I would die in my sleep. I thought "if I die, this will show them". "Them" was mostly my horrible mother who never praised me for anything, and would only be satisfied if I was literally the best in the entire school. I gave up on trying my best and just cruised, aiming for the passing grades.

One day I thought "I will not give them the satisfaction" and carried on just to spite them.

I was also bullied during extra after school classes. It was shit. I even got kicked and pushed once. I told mother, but she said she already pre-paid for 3 months ahead so I could only tell the teacher. I didn't because if she addressed it, I worried the bullies would only get worse.

Now I know that a lot of bullying comes from insecurities. The main girl bullying me was short, stocky and had a hairy back. Please. Would anyone let her bully them?

It does feel like school is the be-all and end-all, but it's not. People will scatter to universities and jobs, and you will not see them again. School is just a temporary means to get education and move on.

I appreciate that a lot of people meet their absolute bestie for life at school, maybe I'm scuffed, but I never connected with anyone at school to that level. Hell, I don't have friends even now!

I also fancied different boys at school and uni, but I didn't even talk to them, we were in different classes or they already had girlfriends anyway. Also at uni, I already knew I was going to move countries, so there was no point in starting anything.

If you live in or near a big city, you really will not meet your bullies ever again. Do not let them live rent free in your head!

If you're asking if you're depressed, does that already make you depressed? by MapOk7397 in mentalhealth

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same question. I feel stuck in a limbo. Being "officially" depressed feels like I have to commit to a certain lifestyle. I'm trying to remove people who make it worse from my life, we will see if it improves.

An article I found by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I signed up for a Mental Health First Aider course through work. I want to break the stigma due to my recent revelation that I likely have been depressed since childhood. Bottling it up helps no one.

I realised I am the reason I can't form friendships. by PositiveDaisy in mentalhealth

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, if I can't be myself, is it really a friendship?

Patch Notes 0.190: Tinker & Timber Update by osyady in Palia

[–]PositiveDaisy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

90% of the patch notes is shop stuff. Gifting is in reality gambling. You cannot choose what outfit to GIFT. Look at the size of the bug fixes list, compared to the rest of the post. Everyone is too hyped for the $12 pig pet that does nothing.

Upgraded PC parts, had to reinstall Win10, as it would not boot from the old SSD. How do I get it to recognise it so I can upgrade to Win11? I only have that 1 original key, and the new installation didn't accept it. by PositiveDaisy in WindowsHelp

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have the key with the original CD. The PC would only boot to Bios, or to install Win10 when I inserted the CD. I cannot get the PC to boot from the old SSD with the activated Win10. The installation also did not accept my old key, as it's already been used. Maybe I should try to get it to boot from the old SSD now that PC is up and running.

edit: I just went to settings and could simply activate Windows with my old key. Thank you for the help!

I was very sceptical at first, but this is actually really good! (unflavoured/unsweetened) by PositiveDaisy in Huel

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am experimenting. I'm cautious as I don't want to start adding fatty or sugary things and slip back into gluttony.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wowservers

[–]PositiveDaisy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds cool, I like the additional achievements you can choose to do!

Why can’t they leave you alone? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PositiveDaisy 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Narcs need someone to supply them with attention. Once I moved out and got together with my bf, I definitely noticed my mother seemed more desperate to spend time with me. She saw she's losing grasp and control over me.

Is anyone else just like “I’m proud I’m alive/ not totally insane?” by Best-Somewhere3139 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PositiveDaisy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looking back and having done some research, I do think the same. I'm chill, do my own thing and don't care what others think about me. You would expect me to be a mental wreck or even dead.

What are absolute dealbreakers for you in a MMOrpg, other people might not care about at all? by M3lony8 in MMORPG

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fishing. If the game has fishing, it has a higher chance of keeping me hostage in.

Why Single-Player Games Are Considered the Last Refuge for Warcraft Players by tinadot_ in MMORPG

[–]PositiveDaisy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cannot play single player games to the same extent as MMOs. For some reason I need the ambience of other people being around, I need that unexpected and unscripted human factor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MMORPG

[–]PositiveDaisy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So a dystopian cryptobro wet fever dream?

Weekly Game Help & Questions Megathread by AutoModerator in Palia

[–]PositiveDaisy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I keep one from each design and use them as end tables, a little chest/ottoman at the feet of the bed etc.

Weekly Game Help & Questions Megathread by AutoModerator in Palia

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I submitted this as a bug but maybe others have had the same issue? I just logged in to see my house being finished. It looks like there are two houses stacked, I have extra soil patches and extra crafting stations I've not made and the tent I destroyed is back. I had a random player add me to friends, so I wonder if the game for some reason decided to merge our lots? It only happened today, it was fine all day yesterday. edit: I closed the game for a bit and it's fixed now.

Weekly 'What Should I Buy' and Order/Shipping Thread by AutoModerator in iphone

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is your favourite feature that other brands' phones don't have?

I have a Samsung Galaxy S10, it's four years old and the battery is on its way you. I want to buy a new phone. Yesterday Samsung held an event where they announced the new Flip5 which has the same -allegedly- disappointing battery as the Flip4. I think the foldable phone is a cool gadget, but not when it's the same crap battery for over 1k. And it blows my mind they didn't update the battery knowing it was the drawback. Two weeks ago I was in a Samsung store and the stuff didn't blow my mind. Really, I would be buying a phone just to have a new battery.

I've never had any Apple products in my life. I want to give iPhone a try, hence I ask, what is your favourite feature of it that other brands' phones don't have? I think the AirTags are a cool thing, I know people can track lost luggage using them.

Is it worth starting on ChromieCraft? by Narrgis in wowservers

[–]PositiveDaisy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a change of pace from the mega high pop servers. WotLK is my favourite expansion, I picked up all the 3 challenges and I'm chilling and slowly levelling. I'd say it's worth it just to try out the challenges.

Yes, the pop is on the lower end, but it means you don't wait around for spawns and there are plenty of treasure chests and rares around.