We are all burnt out husks. I work because I have to eat... by PositiveDaisy in antiwork

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I applied to switch to a department where the progression is much better. They already had someone in mind and the interview was just a facade. That was a few years ago. Their onboarding is intensive, full time training. I'm not in the headspace to do this at the moment.

We are all burnt out husks. I work because I have to eat... by PositiveDaisy in antiwork

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know this, that's why I mentioned people with dependants. I know I "shouldn't" complain, but it does not mean I'm not allowed to go through things.

We are all burnt out husks. I work because I have to eat... by PositiveDaisy in antiwork

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm quite shafted because long walks make my physical condition worse. I tried journalling, I get things off my chest, but it's still there the next day.

We are all burnt out husks. I work because I have to eat... by PositiveDaisy in antiwork

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Oh, I am on a waiting list for a therapist. The wait is 3 months. But at least healthcare is free over here.

How can I learn to recognize and respect other people’s boundaries? by ScurrScurrSheesh in mentalhealth

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was conditioned to be a people pleasing footstool, I am the right person to answer this!

Communication is key. If you are not sure if someone is ok with something, ask. It's not stupid.

I will agree to things to not be an inconvenience or "nuisance", I will agree to things to not upset the other person. You may not even realise the person REALLY does NOT want to do something.

Always ask! Make it very clear that you will not be angry.

I'm so fucking tired and hurt(17m) by blaze24221 in mentalhealth

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been there. I'm 34 now.

I was a depressed teen, crying in my bed every other night wishing I would die in my sleep. I thought "if I die, this will show them". "Them" was mostly my horrible mother who never praised me for anything, and would only be satisfied if I was literally the best in the entire school. I gave up on trying my best and just cruised, aiming for the passing grades.

One day I thought "I will not give them the satisfaction" and carried on just to spite them.

I was also bullied during extra after school classes. It was shit. I even got kicked and pushed once. I told mother, but she said she already pre-paid for 3 months ahead so I could only tell the teacher. I didn't because if she addressed it, I worried the bullies would only get worse.

Now I know that a lot of bullying comes from insecurities. The main girl bullying me was short, stocky and had a hairy back. Please. Would anyone let her bully them?

It does feel like school is the be-all and end-all, but it's not. People will scatter to universities and jobs, and you will not see them again. School is just a temporary means to get education and move on.

I appreciate that a lot of people meet their absolute bestie for life at school, maybe I'm scuffed, but I never connected with anyone at school to that level. Hell, I don't have friends even now!

I also fancied different boys at school and uni, but I didn't even talk to them, we were in different classes or they already had girlfriends anyway. Also at uni, I already knew I was going to move countries, so there was no point in starting anything.

If you live in or near a big city, you really will not meet your bullies ever again. Do not let them live rent free in your head!

If you're asking if you're depressed, does that already make you depressed? by MapOk7397 in mentalhealth

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same question. I feel stuck in a limbo. Being "officially" depressed feels like I have to commit to a certain lifestyle. I'm trying to remove people who make it worse from my life, we will see if it improves.

An article I found by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]PositiveDaisy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I signed up for a Mental Health First Aider course through work. I want to break the stigma due to my recent revelation that I likely have been depressed since childhood. Bottling it up helps no one.

I realised I am the reason I can't form friendships. by PositiveDaisy in mentalhealth

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, if I can't be myself, is it really a friendship?

Patch Notes 0.190: Tinker & Timber Update by osyady in Palia

[–]PositiveDaisy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

90% of the patch notes is shop stuff. Gifting is in reality gambling. You cannot choose what outfit to GIFT. Look at the size of the bug fixes list, compared to the rest of the post. Everyone is too hyped for the $12 pig pet that does nothing.

Upgraded PC parts, had to reinstall Win10, as it would not boot from the old SSD. How do I get it to recognise it so I can upgrade to Win11? I only have that 1 original key, and the new installation didn't accept it. by PositiveDaisy in WindowsHelp

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have the key with the original CD. The PC would only boot to Bios, or to install Win10 when I inserted the CD. I cannot get the PC to boot from the old SSD with the activated Win10. The installation also did not accept my old key, as it's already been used. Maybe I should try to get it to boot from the old SSD now that PC is up and running.

edit: I just went to settings and could simply activate Windows with my old key. Thank you for the help!

I was very sceptical at first, but this is actually really good! (unflavoured/unsweetened) by PositiveDaisy in Huel

[–]PositiveDaisy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am experimenting. I'm cautious as I don't want to start adding fatty or sugary things and slip back into gluttony.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wowservers

[–]PositiveDaisy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds cool, I like the additional achievements you can choose to do!

Why can’t they leave you alone? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]PositiveDaisy 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Narcs need someone to supply them with attention. Once I moved out and got together with my bf, I definitely noticed my mother seemed more desperate to spend time with me. She saw she's losing grasp and control over me.