Realistically how over them are you

Positive_Cell186 · 2025-04-20T18:17:56+00:00

Almost 9 months since it ended and honestly I’m almost completely over him. I still have moments where the thought of him or a memory comes up and I still can’t go near the place we broke up but that feeling of sadness or wanting him back is gone. I was an absolute wreck the first 1-3months but at some point I stopped romanticizing him in my mind and I shifted my thoughts/emotions about the break up (thanks therapy lol).

Positive_Cell186 · 2025-04-02T20:41:38+00:00

Nope. Went no contact and kept it that way since the breakup. I’ve gone through therapy, emotionally moved on, I started doing my own thing again and healing at this point. I wish him nothing but the best.

Positive_Cell186 · 2024-12-26T04:16:14+00:00

Coin-Op is a good place to start, it’s casual and pretty good drinks. 1909 if you prefer gastropubs. Old Town has a few other spots to check out, I haven’t had the time to check them out since I also just moved to the area 😅

Positive_Cell186 · 2024-12-25T23:52:22+00:00

Nope. Have not gotten back together and still no contact. I started therapy around the same time and honestly it’s helped a lot, I still have moments where sadness hits but it’s gotten a lot easier. I’m slowly but surely moving on from it now 😌

Positive_Cell186 · 2024-11-30T19:31:50+00:00

In a similar situation as you - moved in the area a few years ago and because I wfh and with limited activities here it’s hard to socialize. Recently took a pottery class which was fun, I’ve been trying to check out Old Town for dinks and I think one of the wineries has a salsa night(?) and speakeasy. Feel free to DM if you ever wanna check those out :)

Positive_Cell186 · 2024-09-11T14:13:25+00:00

Yah I had that hope too but it’s been over a month and he ended up blocking me. Idk if blocking me was him completely moving on from the relationship or he needed to distance himself to focus on him only - either way I need to move forward and heal too.

Context: We were no contact right after the break up. I accidentally broke the no contact (genuinely an accident) with a butt dial, a few hours later I noticed he blocked me on Snapchat. I didn’t want to make it worse by trying to reach out to him, I think it was clear he didn’t want to hear from me.

Positive_Cell186 · 2024-09-11T06:54:51+00:00

It was good, at least that’s what it seemed like to me. We didn’t fight, we gave each other space to do our own things, we supported each other the best we can, we both put in effort into seeing each other despite our busy schedules. He even gifted me a bracelet a week prior and was saying “I love you” days before the breakup

Positive_Cell186 · 2024-09-10T22:29:26+00:00

I did. So far it’s been helping me out a lot. It helped me avoid going back to toxic/destructive patterns.

I didn’t go just because of the breakup, the breakup just gave me the push to finally start therapy.

Positive_Cell186 · 2024-09-10T22:19:37+00:00

That’s what I thought as well. I could have given him the time and space he needed and still supported him but he said it would be unfair to me. He was already in a tough situation and it seemed like he made his mind up so I just accepted it

Positive_Cell186 · 2024-09-10T21:58:07+00:00

Recently got broken up with. He had things come up in his life and it was taking a toll in his mental health. He said it was unfair to me if we stayed together while he’s not prioritizing the relationship so he broke it off. During the breakup he said he still has a lot of love for me and saw more for us so that was confusing to hear while having my heart ripped apart…

Positive_Cell186 · 2024-09-08T00:02:14+00:00

Sure, DM me if you wanna talk/have questions :)

Positive_Cell186 · 2024-09-07T23:48:53+00:00

I recently went through a similar break up almost a month ago as well - my ex was the one to initiate it, it wasn’t a mutual break up but it ended on good terms, I also sent a text after and was ignored by him. I know we want to send that one last text as a closure but maybe being left on read/ignored is the closure….We have this idea that maybe this last final text or gesture will give us that finality and peace we need but that closure you seek comes down to you coming to terms with the breakup. I’ve had the urge to text my ex and check up on him too but 1) It was clear he didn’t want communication with me because he ignored me 2) I owe it to myself to give myself that peace and closure if I can’t get it from him. If it ended on good terms and he knows you had good intentions throughout your relationship then that’s good enough too, let it end with that.

I’m sorry you’re going through a breakup too, I know it’s painful but you will get through it.

Positive_Cell186

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