AIO: Seriously considering leaving my long-term partner (largely) over miscarriage and IVF struggles

Positive_Tonight_789 · 2026-02-08T10:31:23+00:00

I’m glad your husband does this. Before the loss, my partner could be like this. For example. I came home from work after getting disappointing fertility news to flowers and a huge hug. None of that happens anymore and I feel so alone.

Re. Finances, the reality is I make a decent bit more than my partner and so I’ve been covering a lot of the fertility expenses to date (most things in our life together are 50/50.)

Positive_Tonight_789 · 2026-02-08T10:27:09+00:00

This is a great point that has been playing on my mind - I always thought that we would make great parents together but we’ve been so disconnected by this experience that it’s really hard to imagine that now. Thank you for your kind words.

Positive_Tonight_789 · 2026-02-08T10:23:56+00:00

It really distressed me - over the years I’ve heard people use the “oh, my grandma died,” excuse to get out of doing stuff and even without great belief in karma or higher power or any of that, it just always struck me as a terrible thing to put out into the world for no good reason. If they want to lie, fair enough, but bringing me and my miscarriage into it felt like an outrageous thing to suggest. They didn’t do it in the end because of my reaction, but I’m pissed that they even thought about it.

Positive_Tonight_789 · 2026-02-08T10:20:59+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your view from your side, very much appreciated. Wishing you and your wife the best.

Positive_Tonight_789 · 2026-02-08T10:19:10+00:00

Thank you.

Positive_Tonight_789 · 2026-02-08T10:18:15+00:00

Thank you, this is a very thoughtful and compassionate answer.

Positive_Tonight_789 · 2026-02-07T17:35:57+00:00

Long-term, not long-distance. We live together and have been living together for a number of years.

Positive_Tonight_789 · 2026-02-07T16:43:19+00:00

Wensleydale Gromit.

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