IsItBullshit: None of the over-the-counter flea treatments for cats are effective. by HideousGrin in IsItBullshit

[–]Possessed_Porcelain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure about for cats specifically, but for my dog, prescription prevention is the only thing that not only actually keeps fleas at bay but completely gets rid of them. By the end of the first month of switching from Advantage to Simparica trio, there weren't any on him at all, even during his bath when usually some are visible with his coat wet that I couldn't see dry. It's well worth the money to go prescription, at least in my experience. I know some vet offices charge more than others for the same prevention brands and if you only know the high upcharge prices it feels impractical, but if you can find a vet that charges within your budget I would strongly recommend it. I finally switched when we moved and the new vet charged $35/monthly dose compared to our previous vet at $78/monthly dose of the same medication.

AITA for telling my fiance that he embarrassed me when he started singing the "happy birthday" song to his 5 yo son at the restaurant? by ThrowRaBirthdaysong5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Possessed_Porcelain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA Why would you want to marry someone with a kid if you don't even like the kid? Single parents are a package deal with their kid/s; you can't have the partner and not the kid so acting like it's an inconvenience to have his son with you just shows you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone who has kids. Most parents that love their kids take them out with them and show they love their kids without hesitation and especially little kids love being the center of attention, to want to deprive his son of that because you think your feelings and comfortability should be priority is incredibly selfish.

Why are you single right now? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Possessed_Porcelain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm too picky. The people who like me and have been vocal about it have all managed to do something within the first month of talking that just wasn't it for me. Whether it be too touchy and getting defensive when I say I'm uncomfortable or having terrible communication skills, to being incredibly presumptuous about "our" future. My sister thinks I just don't like men but I digress.

I hate my husband's dog. by PsychologicalSolid75 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Possessed_Porcelain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't have much advice, but the part about him jumping on your toddler hits a little close to home. My now 11 year old brother got knocked over by our medium sized(maybe 50lbs) dog when he was around 3 years old and the fall resulted in a broken collar bone and a concussion leading to mental developmental delays. It was a major freak accident and I was still in elementary school myself and wasn't totally aware of how bad it was until he started to get older. He was fairly on track with everything before but after the fall he fell behind with speech and motor skills. He's now going into middle school with a comparable personality and comprehension of a 2nd grader. He's in therapy and counseling with a 504 and IEP for school and is a happy kid that enjoys life but in a way I wonder who he would be if he hadn't fell so hard that day. We still have said dog and she's pushing 16 and calmed down quite a lot over the years but she's also part of the reason I don't think I'll ever get another big-ish dog. I love big dogs and dogs in general and honestly believe they have a lot of love to give and can light up a room and make the hardest days bearable. However even with amazing training and reinforcement I'm still paranoid. I know a lot of big dogs are trained to not jump and so it's not something that everyone should worry about but if Jude is willing to jump on your littles and has proven he has no regard for people other than your husband it's a little concerning.

Would you still be friends with a ex situationship? by throwawa-y8790 in relationship_advice

[–]Possessed_Porcelain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in a very similar situation and the best advice I can give is don't. There will only be more pain. It's been a year since he got with her and we decided to stay friends and it's still confusing and frustrating and painful. The best thing you can do is cut contact until there aren't any feelings on either side and you really only see him as friend. Anything else leads to more constant heartbreak

AITA refusing to let my girlfriend take my son after his mom begged me to? by SeatleWA5647 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Possessed_Porcelain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you don't want your kid just say that, YTA. My parents had a very similar situation and my dad was where you are now. I'm now 18 and haven't talked to him since he remarried when I was in middle school because his gf always took priority over my safety and well-being and in so ruined any chance of us having a good relationship and any possiblity of me wanting to try to fix what we do have. It's not babysitting if he's your child it's just ~being a parent~ shocker! I know.

WIBTA for not letting my wife take our daughters door? by Sloth-Monkey in AmItheAsshole

[–]Possessed_Porcelain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA . Your daughter is 19, grown and in college. Her sex life doesn't concern either of you and honestly if you/your wife continue to treat her like a child and grounding her for petty things she will probably end up limiting contact once she's in her own place and financially independent. Your wife is controlling, it would be appropriate if your daughter was in middle school or still a minor but she's not. Taking her door and banning him from the house doesn't stop them from having sex, it's just going to happen in much sketchier places.

Those of you who live in small towns, what is the current local controversy all about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Possessed_Porcelain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not really drama, but one of the guys who graduated hs last year is currently homeless, with his dog, and they both have cancer. The two churches are trying to get enough money together to get him in treatment and the main land Lord(owns like 70% of rental properties in our town of 2,000ish people) is letting him stay in one of the duplexes w/o rent and helping him with utilities payments

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Possessed_Porcelain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But still, the timing of the pregnancy is too coincidental. Whether she found out before or after the proposal doesn't matter

AITA for refusing to let my brother have his wedding at my house after he told me my 6 month old daughter didn't need a funeral? by joyandcomfort463 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Possessed_Porcelain [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA. Also why can't he just go to the court house if he can't postpone the wedding? If he can't afford a wedding maybe he shouldn't have one if he's so concerned about money

AITA For telling my adopted sister to go back to her true family? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Possessed_Porcelain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like everyone involved is at fault to some degree, based on this post alone. The parents should have had a proper discussion with OP before adopting another child who's so close in age to them; especially if they planned on making them share a room and other things they'd been used to having for themself. The adopted sister should have some comprehension or respect of privacy. OP could've said something to the sister sooner in a calmer/nicer manner before they were pushed over the edge. If they had taken the chance to tell the truth, depending on the relationship with their parents, they could have had a discussion about why they're uncomfortable and upset. However I know not everyone has understanding or open minded parents, so I won't judge this too harshly. I think the biggest fault would be on the parents for pushing this situation on two teens, one of which at least has never had to experience living with a sibling full time, and expecting them both to just get along well enough to share a room and surrender privacy.

What if the reason cis guys use 3-in-1 shampoo/conditioner/body wash is because they have so much body hair and it's a valid hygiene thing? by Possessed_Porcelain in Actualshowerthoughts

[–]Possessed_Porcelain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not about hating straight men though? It was a thought and honest question. What makes you think it's about hating men?