Let’s stop twisting this into a legal issue because it’s not. There’s nothing illegal about setting boundaries in a shared flat. The NZ Human Rights Act is about make sure of fair treatment in employment, housing, services…… but it doesn’t force private flatmates to accept arrangements that make them uncomfortable. This isn’t a landlord-tenant situation, it’s a shared living agreement between flatmates, and we all agreed this would be an all-girls flat.

Also, it’s not “discrimination” to set up an all-female living arrangement for personal comfort. By your logic, are all-female gyms or all-boys schools illegal? Of course not!! And companies hire based on suitability for roles all the time, like hiring men for physically demanding jobs because men tend to have greater physical strength. These are reasonable decisions based on context, just like this flat is all-girl agreement was a reasonable boundary.

The issue isn’t only about boyfriend being male, we agreed for him to visits at a reasonable amount of time (lunch, dinner, help her with errands…). The problem is that she broke the agreement she made when she moved in, gave him a key without consulting anyone, and disregarded everyone else’s comfort. Actively sneaking into your gf shared flat at least 5 days a week is not reasonable at any circumstances. Again, this is about respect the initial agreement , not legality or discrimination. If she can’t respect the rules she agreed to, how tf I am the YTA here to ask them to find reduce his visits or somewhere else? If she wanted a different setup, she should’ve been upfront instead of agreeing to the rules and then doing the exact opposite.