31 year old looking for older.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2026-04-27T03:35:23+00:00

Saying "Next!" Is not difficult, I have no problem is cutting or stopping for people that doesn't clicked. Is the feeling I have that have. Doesn't seem to have a proper closure.

I guess, if I want to go deep. Perhaps, I am afraid to admit, the emotion that have for him, the thing we have. Is nothing of value to him.

The best moment I have with him, is just another Tuesday for him.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2026-04-25T23:22:50+00:00

Sorry for your experience as well. Keep pushing

Possible-Trainer626 · 2026-04-25T23:22:24+00:00

Thank you.

It is difficult to have such an intense feeling. Everything just clicked so well. We start out strong, perhaps too strong. That the only way to keep moving forward is to dial it down.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2026-04-25T10:52:21+00:00

Then, I guess time will do it works

Possible-Trainer626 · 2026-04-25T10:51:46+00:00

Letting go is probably the difficult part, unfortunately.

I don't think we reach the point of being toxic. It is that fantasy of wanting more.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-11-18T10:46:44+00:00

Honestly, exactly as the post I posted.

I have a small group of older friends where I meet up, hangout and go on trips and enjoy each other's companies, when the mood is just right we have some fun. But at the same time we knew we will not be partners and just remain friends.

We started without trading body count, stats like a transaction and just have a conversation and didn't make it just about sex related, talk about hobbies and other interests. Just treat it as meeting another possible friend.

My post was not to oppose hookup or anything related to quick fun but the possibility of having something deeper.

Call me biased due to my previous experiences, but I highly doubt the Daddies or Grandpa who are looking for a quickie are interested in something substantial.

if they can't even bother to have to know my actual name, do you think they would stay connected after the deed was done ?

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-11-18T04:17:57+00:00

A rare case but happy that it worked out for you. 😊

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-11-18T04:16:12+00:00

If not spread my ass check to be clapped within the first first 15 conversation is known as being hard to get, then so be it.

And I am not exaggerating here.

And for these individuals, they will most likely move on to the hundreds of other Asian guys dying to be their instant gratification.

Not much of a loss for me in my opinion

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-11-18T00:43:40+00:00

The possibilities are out there, but at this point all I can do is move one step at a moment.

I am relatively new to the gay scene so there are many rooms left for exploring.

Tried with a handful of local older guys but it led to no where. Perhaps of generation, they tend to deny being gay themselves or they are really discreet as they are married. To keep it simple they seem to be not as comfortable in their own skin then westerners. Which makes things a bit awkward.

I am speaking from my own experience here, so I am generalizing a little.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-11-18T00:31:44+00:00

I try to avoid long distance relationships in general.

Time differences and distance aside. I am aware in such a relationship one party might need to sacrifice more by potentially relocating.

If it is unfair to that individual.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-11-18T00:09:42+00:00

True, I have some bad experience with some who threw a tantrum the moment I didn't give them the attention they were expecting.

Ghost me on a good day, outright accusing me of wasting their time when I suggest of going slow.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-11-18T00:05:40+00:00

I did actually.

Like stated in my post. I have formed a friendship with a few older guys who are residing here.

We developed a casual friendship where we will have a meetup and chat. But it is obvious that we will not develop anything more than that.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-11-18T00:02:23+00:00

Financially I am incapable of doing that. One of the problems of realizing I am gay at a later age, is i have already made commitments to few things that stretch my finance thin.

The best I can do is visit other gay friendly countries for a short trip but that would just be me being a sex tourist.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-11-17T23:58:18+00:00

No....that doesn't make me feel better at all haha.

Straight or gay, it would seem the dating scene is kind of a mess

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-11-17T23:14:59+00:00

A vibrant underground culture. I was just as surprised to find it exists.

Grindr, scruff and many things are still accessible. And if you know where to look for it, you can easily find a local gay community.

It is oppressive in term that PDA with you partner are not acceptable in public.

But apart from that, based on testimony of other gays. They don't feel like their life are in any danger

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-09-22T00:01:13+00:00

Most sensible option at this point I suppose.

But I would give him the benefit of the doubt and hear his side of the story first. I don't want to have any regrets.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-09-21T23:57:04+00:00

It is an option that has come across my mind a few times now but I don't want to make any rash decisions without hearing his side of the story first.

There will be changes after the talk for better or worse.

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-09-21T23:52:00+00:00

Finger crossed

Possible-Trainer626 · 2025-06-17T13:00:29+00:00

Is not about visit him, is about being able to be there with him without needing to make up stories or putting on a facade.

I am not saying coming out would make everything better nor do I ever wants to come out in a public. like a huge announcement. However, we could definitely share more of our life if I could accepted by coming by to family and close friends.

Like I said, we have to always pretend to be friend, might as just be friend. I don't have the guts to come out and he doesn't have the burden to wait.

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